Treating PTSD using MDMA (Ecstacy) assisted Psychotherapy

On Tues Nov 27 the US FDA had approved Phase 3 trials which would use MDMA in assisted Psychotherapy. MDMA is the main component of the illegal party drug called Ecstacy

Click on this line to visit the Web MD website page which discusses the FDA approval of more studies into using MDMA assisted Psychotherapy to help treat PTSD.

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The punch you don’t see coming.. — Cristian Mihai

In boxing, it’s always the punch you don’t see coming that knocks you down. The punch you weren’t expecting, the punch you never thought would hit you. Life is just like that. It’s the bizarre coincidences we never even dared take into consideration, with an even stranger ramification of consequences. And in the ensuing chaos, […]

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Playing word games with a Narcissist is playing with fire and you’re the one who could get burned

I was reading a blog post (on another site) about a woman who had borrowed her Narcissist’s car, to visit a Doctor to get some surgical stitches removed. If all went well she would have plenty of time to pickup the Narcissist.

Complications took extra time and she arrived almost 1/2 hour late to pickup the Narcissist.

Instead of asking how things went at the Doctor, the Narc verbally laid into the lady because she was late. The Woman was still in severe pain from getting surgical stitches removed. So what!  Narcissists do not care about you. They only care about themselves.

She called him on his callous responses to her. He never did ask how the Doctor’s visit went.

Possibly due to the Doctor’s visit, the lady stood up to the Narc’s Verbal Abuse and called him a Bully. Her standing up for herself pissed the Narc off. He raised his arm and it looked like he was about to strike the woman, but he was able to control himself. She then told him to go ahead and hit her.

The following is my two cents worth “opinion”:

When you are being Verbally Abused, leave the situation if possible. At a Red Light, exit the car and tell the Narc that you will see him at home. That stops the verbal abuse. The Narc expects to belittle you, to gain control over you in this situation. By leaving the situation, you are going No Contact – if only for a short time.

By leaving, you deescalate the situation. You also take power away from Narc, because he will no longer be able to verbally abuse you.

In my opinion it was not a good idea to goad a Narcissist, by telling them to Go Ahead and Hit you. Legally you are giving them permission. If you call the Police, the Narc is great at playing the innocent one and playing people.

Hey, he could tell the Police Officer that you and him are into S&M Sex, but only when the other party gives permission. He could say that you gave him permission to hit you. If it goes to family Court, the Narc’s Lawyer will twist your statement against you. The key is that you will admit that you told him to hit you. Never give any abuser that kind of remark. Talk to your local Law Enforcement Authority about how saying something like that, could tie up the hands of the Police Officers and the Court.

You goaded your Narc, by telling him to hit you. So he goes ahead and hits you. Do you think that it will stop with one single punch??? If Narcissistic Rage takes over your Narcissist, your face could become black and blue with blood running down your broken nose. After they wire your lower jaw back in place, you will be having dinner via a straw for a long time. When you are finally allowed to eat solid food, you could find it difficult to chew due to all the missing teeth that your Narc knocked out.

Do not play with fire. A friend ended up in the Hospital for months after her Malignant Narcissist went to town on her. Her horrific experience is what motivated the creation of this blog.

Speak to your Lawyer and to Local Law Enforcement about your legal rights regarding Domestic Violence and Abuse. Ask them how it could harm your legal position if you told the Narcissist to hit you. There is also info about the US Domestic Abuse Hotline with phone number visible on the main page of this blog. Also a link in the large menu at the top of the Blog. It is a resource which could be of great help. Call and find out how they can help you.

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Never forget that Narcissists are Disordered Individuals. If Narcissistic Rage takes over, then you have no idea just how much physical damage they can do to you. Do not play with fire. Do not goad any Abuser by telling them to Hit You. Every year, people die at the hands of their Abuser.

Disclaimer: The above is just “my opinion”. It is not meant to be any kind of Legal Advice. Do your own due diligence and seek out your own Legal Counsel.

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POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Pathological mind games. Covert and overt put-downs. Triangulation. Gaslighting. Projection. These are the manipulative tactics survivors of malignant narcissists are unfortunately all too familiar with. As victims of silent crimes where the perpetrators are rarely held accountable, survivors of narcissistic abuse have lived in a war zone of epic proportions, enduring an abuse cycle of […]

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Society has not come very far. In 1961 an 11 year old girl was found adrift in the Atlantic Ocean around Bermuda.

Recently a visitor to this site left a comment, regarding the fact that we have not come very far. It was in reference to a recent post about an article on the Medical News Today website (from the early 2000s).

In 1961 (back in the DSM-1 days) an America family set off on a vacation of a lifetime. They chartered a yacht, named Bluebelle, in Fort Lauderdale to cruise the ocean around the Bahama Islands.

Little did they know that the boat owner had recently setup an insurance policy for his wife. He brought his wife along on this charter.  It was supposed to be perfect. He would use the family chartering his boat as his witnesses that he and his wife were all lovey dovey. He planed to murder his wife and dump the body overboard, claiming an ocean swell must have sent her overboard.

Remember this Quote: “Just because someone says the words I Love You, does not guarantee that they are not secretly planning to make you disappear”.

 

The boat owner’s plan fell apart when he was caught murdering his wife, by the Father who purchased the Charter. So the Father was killed as was his Wife and other daughter.

The 11 year old girl was asleep in her bunk when this happened. She awoke due to the terrifying screams of her brother. Yes a vacation of a lifetime…

Click on this line to read the full details of this true story.

Unfortunately we have “not” come very far. In my opinion society has moved backwards. Online dating sites make it easy for Psychopaths to find victims. See a prior post about 3 women who disappeared after meeting the same male on an online dating site.

Click on this line to visit the CBS News website which features an interview with that girl ( Terry Jo Duperrault ), about 50 years after the event.

One take away from this post is that yes not much has changed. Be very careful who you fall in Love with.

A more significant take away is that the 11 year old “Survived”. She was severely traumatized. With the help of Licensed Professionals, she was able to overcome what had happened. Many visitors to this site have suffered all sorts of different Trauma. With time and help you can overcome what had happened to you. That 11 year girl did and so can you.

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Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis? Awesome article at Medical News Today

I really wish that I could repost this entire superb post about Narcissistic Abuse and the affect on their Victims. I’ll give a couple of excerpts, so you can get a taste of their article.

in the case of Jamie, whose husband makes her recite every day, “I’m only worth 29 cents – the price of a bullet,” he erodes her self-worth to nothing to keep her under his control. Who else could possible want such a worthless woman as she? With that belief, she will never leave him for good, although she makes many brief attempts to do so. She always returns. The brainwashing that continues day after day …

No matter which type of Narcissist he is, the end result is the same – a slow, insidious, breaking down of the self-esteem of his victims until there’s next to nothing left, at which point, the narcissist will frequently throw his partner out

Just click on the following line/link to visit the Medical News Website to read their extremely well written post titled: “

Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?”

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/10872.php

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Codependence – Patterns and Characteristics

CoDA.org holds meetings similar to Alcoholics Anonymous. Those with Codependent tendencies can meet, share and talk.

Codependence stems from not receiving the Love, Care, Attention and Confirmation and Praise which “you deserved” when you were a child. The child’s sense of self is not allowed to develop. Codependence, is in my opinion, a survival mechanism developed by the child and carried over into adulthood.

There are people, such a Narcissists , who will search for and pick up on someone’s Codependent tendencies. Narcissists are well versed in Psychological Manipulation Techniques to reel in their Codependent targets. Codependents are easily duped by the Narcissist’s Love Bombing. The Narcissist’s Love Bombing provides the Codependent Target, that which the Target had never received from their parents, when they were a child. Unfortunately the Love Bombing was never something real. It was just another Psychological Manipulation and Control Technique used by disordered individuals such as Narcissists.

A Licensed Therapist can help one to figure out the Triggers of Codependent Tendencies. Realizing the Self Doubt and Self Sabotage and negative Self Talk is the first step towards healing. Healing opens the door to finding a Healthy relationship and could also help to limit you being targeted by Disordered Individuals such as Narcissists.

The Codependents anonymous meetings held, by CoDA.org, in your local area could be helpful tool on your road to recovery. Speak to your Therapist about CoDA.org. Also find out if your licensed Therapist holds Group Therapy sessions. You are not alone. Sadly many have had parents who were clueless about proper parenting and helping their children grow and develop their Self Worth and Self Esteem. It is my opinion that Codependence is created by abysmal parenting.

Click on the link below to view the CoDA.org document titled: Patterns and Characteristics of Codependence.

http://coda.org/index.cfm/meeting-materials1/patterns-and-characteristics-2011/

Nick Gully, Psychotherapist, presents a seminar on how we can overcome Codependent Patterns in our lives and be free from Abusive Relationships

Coming Back Home – Overcoming Codependency, a seminar by Nick Gully, Psychotherapist, on how we can overcome Codependent Patterns in our lives and be free from unhealthy patterns and abusive relationships. So that we can develop a greater sense of our self and live our own lives rather than through other people.

Video is courtesy of the Nick Gully YouTube Channel

Alan Robarge, Psychotherapist, discusses the link between Attachment Injuries and Codependency

Attachment Injuries during childhood are directly linked to adult Codependency.

You need to give yourself that which you never received when you were a child.

Your Narcissistic Partner will never be the Corrective Experience for that Attachment Injury.

Quite the contrary, the Narcissist was attracted to you because of your Codependency which made it very easy for them to Use and Manipulate you.

You need a healthy relationship, where your partner can show you that they care about and love you and that “you matter” to them.

Narcissists lack empathy and so are unable to care about or love others.

To a narcissist your only value is in you being a source of Narcissistic Supply, which can and usually will be replaced with a better source of Narcissistic Supply. Narcissists are always “hunting” for new and better sources of Narcissistic Supply.

Video is courtesy of the Alan Robarge YouTube channel.

Your Biggest Codependency Questions Answered

Starting with answering the question “What is Codependency?“, this video gives insights into becoming self aware of the “triggers” of your Codependent Behaviour.

Becoming aware of your Codependent Behaviour,
is the first major step to changing said behaviour.

Video is courtesy of the Brian Pisor YouTube channel

Woman fell 14 floors to her death, in an attempt to escape her Tinder date.

Don’t get talked into having your first date in the apartment of some unknown person, that you just met on Tinder.

 Video is courtesy of the The Top Story NZ YouTube channel

His female date fell off his balcony (14 floors up) and the guy allegedly did not call emergency services. Instead he allegedly went out of the apartment, to a restaurant to eat some Pizza and call his father by cellphone. Also, the date in his apartment was allegedly voice recorded on his cell phone.

Quote “It is my attraction to some of those Red Flags that causes problems. The Love Bombing makes me feel oh so special. The feeling that you have met your Soul Mate is indescribable.”

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Mirroring quickly creates Rapport. Synchronizing Embedded Commands with your Target’s breathing, anchors them inside your Target’s mind.

Narcissists use Mind Control, Psychological and Persuasion Techniques to hook their Target.

I have mentioned Mirroring more than a few times, in posts on this site. Watching out for someone Mirroring you can become instinctive, if practiced. Mirroring is a very powerful Manipulation Technique.

Along with Mirroring, a person’s breathing pattern is a doorway into their mind. I’ll give two examples.

Mirroring the breathing pattern of your Target, will shut down their Flight or Fight response. The Narcissist will breathe in, when your Target does. The Narcissist will breathe out, when your target does. The target will have no clue that they are being manipulated big time. The target will then be receptive to the Narc’s further manipulations.

Another approach is the Narcissist giving the Target embedded commands and potential anchors “only” when the Target is breathing out. Once the Narc’s commands are anchored inside the Target’s mind, the Narcissist can trigger them whenever they want. The process does not have to be something that is repeated, though repetition helps to deepen the Narc’s programming of the Target.

What really amazes me is that Narcissists
do this stuff instinctively,
while the vast majority of the population
have no clue about these techniques.

Video is courtesy of the jjpersuader YouTube channel

22 Mind Control Techniques. How many were used on you, by your Narcissist?

How many of the 22 Mind Control Techniques
were used on you, by your Narcissist?

Video is courtesy of the elicia clegg YouTube channel

Mind Control Techniques, also known as Psychological Manipulation – Control Techniques, are very real and are powerful. Narcissists use them, because they work.

Narcissists use Mind Control Techniques to reprogram you to be someone far from who you were.

How the Narcissist uses Mind Control Techniques
to reprogram you.

Video is courtesy of the From Surviving To Thriving!! YouTube channel

Psychological Manipulation Techniques are real and are powerful. Narcissist use them because they work. Victims change so much from the person they were before the Narcissist targeted them.

In our society having lots of Empathy for others, showing kindness and readily helping others is deemed to be a weakness

Do you tend to have codependent tendencies? Do you automatically try and help people?

Having lots of Empathy for others and wanting to help others is a good thing. It’s also one Red Flag of Codependency. The problem is that Disordered Individuals look for such people and when they find them they will try and use them. It’s not only the Narcissists who will take advantage of the kindness of others.

The author of the article makes an important point, that in our society having lots of Empathy for others, showing kindness and readily helping others is deemed to be a weakness. Personally I disagree, IMHO it is a sign of a highly evolved individual (soul) and the world would be a far better place if it was filled with such kind hearted and loving individuals. Sadly that is not the case. There are far far more Disordered Individuals and just plain assholes to contend with.

Click on this line to read the article posted on iheartintelligence.com titled

Surrounded by Jerks: One Cause of Depression that No One Talks About.

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Expectations lead to Dissapointment
As a nice person, typically we expect the same kindness that we give to others to be returned. Unfortunately, that is so rarely the case that it’s hard not to just completely lose faith in humanity. There are people out there that make a life of feeding off of the kindness of others. There are people in our own lives that keep us around simply because they know that they can depend on our kindness when they need it. It truly is disappointing. It’s disappointing that people use us like that.

Quote “The best thing about your past relationship with a Narcissist, is that it’s over!”

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The Narcissist’s Discard Phase is inevitable.

When the Narcissist is finished using and abusing you,
they will Discard you.

The Narcissist’s Discard Phase is inevitable.

Video is courtesy of the begood4000 YouTube channel

This video is filled with great insights.

Well worth taking the time to view.

Psychotherapist Pamela Gawler-Wright discusses how Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques can address and resolve problems caused through Trauma

Pamela Gawler-Wright a UKCP Registered Psychotherapist, Neuro-Linguistic Psychotherapist, Master and Certified Trainer in NLP, discusses with Donna Blinston, how Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques can address and resolve problems caused through Trauma, resulting in anxiety, depression and addiction.

Video is courtesy of the Donna Blinston YouTube channel

Codependence, Independence and Interdependence – Part 2 by Pam Gawler-Wright

How some pennies can drop Sometimes I describe a certain scene to a person, couple or family I am working with and I can almost hear the pennies drop as it offers them a way to understand the hurt …

Source: Codependence, Independence and Interdependence – Part 2

This post is courtesy of Pam Gawler-Wright’s WordPress site.

Neuro Linguistic Programming. NLP.

Disclaimer – some people dismiss Neuro Linguistic Programming (also known as NLP).

I do not, but I also do not believe that NLP is a cure all for everything. In my opinion NLP provides powerful Tools. I can give our visitors an extremely expensive and well made set of wrenches and I doubt that anyone would be able to take apart and put back together the engine in their automobile with said wrenches. Tools required experienced hands. The same applies to NLP techniques.

If you get a chance, do some research on NLP and  Richard Bandler. You can buy videos of his seminars from his site and on Amazon.com. There is tons of info available on the internet about NLP. Your local Public Library should also have books on Neuro Linguistic Programming, including by folks like Richard Bandler and Steve Andreas

It is my opinion that a number of things in NLP work. The Phobia Cure, for example, in my opinion works. That protocol in my opinion may work for other things.

Disclaimer – The videos below are not meant as medical advice for anyone. They are posted for educational and entertainment purposes. Speak with your Therapist or other Medical Practitioner about the content of the videos and whether NLP could be of help with your situation. I make no claims whether anything shown in the videos is appropriate for your situation or for anyone’s situation for that matter. It is your choice to view any of the videos below and you do so at your own risk.

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

Steve Andreas is very well known in NLP circles and has been helping people for decades.

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

This next video features Richard Bandler (one of the two developers of Neuro Linguistic Programming)

Video is courtesy of the NLPLife YouTube channel

Neuro Linguistic Programming is not magic. NLP is a set of tools which require experienced practitioners.

After the betrayal of Narcissistic Abuse…

Lisa A. Romano wrote:

If you’ve loved a narcissist, you may feel completely exposed and turned inside out. The pain is unlike any breakup you’ve ever experienced because it feels like these people have been able to infiltrate every cell of your being. Even though intellectually you may feel you need to end the relationship, on a cellular level you seem shaken to your core.

Symptoms of narcissistic abuse are shock, betrayal, confusion, depression, rage, anger, irritability, low tolerance for noise, and mindless conversations. You may find yourself wanting to be alone. You don’t feel like anyone could ever understand your pain. You may have trouble sleeping, eating, or thinking straight. Sometimes we experience physical symptoms, like upset stomachs, hair loss, and various other stress related acute responses.

Loving yourself after Narcissistic Abuse can be challenging, but its essential.”

Video is courtesy of the Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc. YouTube channel

The hardest to bear is when others do not believe you when you share what the Narcissist did to you.

Most people will never understand that which they have never gone through.

They can thank their lucky stars, that they have not experienced the abuse and devastating betrayal of a Narcissist.

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