7 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact

If you decide to go No Contact, that Disordered Narcissist could try to seek you out to see if you are still hooked. You were there to perform your role for them. They do not like losing Narcissistic Supply, if they do not have an alternate person for Narcissistic Supply.

Video is courtesy of the Melanie Tonia Evans Youtube channnel.

 

Using EFT Tapping To Clear Patterns of Self-Sabotage

In this video Nick Ortner describes how EFT Tapping works.

Video is courtesy of the Wanderlust YouTube Channel

 

The Tapping Solution documentary

Those who have crossed paths with Malignant Narcissists often suffer from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Narcissistic Abuse Survivors can seem to be shattered and it becomes difficult to get back to being the person that one was before having crossed paths with the Narcissist.

I believe that one should seek out Therapy from qualified Medical Practitioners. There are also things that may help, as an addition to therapy. Medical Cannabis has been shown to be helpful to those suffering from PTSD. There was a New York Times best selling book titled “The Tapping Solution”, which detailed a unique process which may be used to help with PTSD symptoms among other things. I am not a Medical Doctor, but have found Tapping to be helpful.

This video is courtesy of The Tapping Solution YouTube Channel

 

Nick Ortner the author of The Tapping Solution has produced a documentary and has made it available to view for free for a period of time. Click on this link to visit the webpage where one can view The Tapping Solution Documentary at no charge. Please note that the No Charge viewing is for a limited time.

Please note that I am not affiliated with the Nick Ortner of The Tapping Solution. I set this site up to try to help others by posting information. I have never and will never use this site to try and generate money. The ads which pop up on this site are placed by WordPress, who kindly host this website at no charge to me.

When you keep criticizing your kids, they don’t stop loving you, they stop loving themselves

“When you keep criticizing your kids, they don’t stop loving you, they stop loving themselves…”

You can become Unsinkable

When a Disordered Individual, like a Malignant Narcissist, had entered into your life and tried to damage and even destroy you, great emotional trauma could develop in your life. I believe that one should seek Medical help/counseling for the Trauma. In addition, I believe that being inspired by those who had overcome major life challenges may help. In that vein I’m posting this link to Sonnia Riccoti’s movie titled Unsinkable. Once you have gone No Contact with the life destroying Narcissist, you can try to rebuild your life and your state of mind. That is where this movie can be of inspiration…

https://unsinkablemovie.com/privateviewing/

Trauma in one’s life can lead to PTSD and attempts to destroy oneself

Trauma can have a lasting impact on Human Beings. US Soldiers returning home from the Middle East battles, bring with them the trauma of what happened during their Tour of Duty. Childhood Trauma can destroy the life a child could have had. The Trauma caused by a living with a disordered individual such as a Malignant Narcissist stays with the Victim long after the Narcissist has left seeking a new source of Narcissistic Supply.

The Trauma caused by a disordered individual also creates Trauma Bonding, making it extremely difficult for the Victim to leave a dysfunctional relationship.

Click on this line to view our prior posts about Trauma Bonding and Stockholm Syndrome.

I ran across this news clip and my heart sank. When Jessica Landon was a child, she was molested by a babysitter. A child is very vulnerable. They cannot fight off an abuser. The child knows what was done to them is wrong and can blame themselves for letting it happen, even though they had no way stop it.

The molestation created major Childhood Trauma, which has lasted well into this lady’s adult life. This is PTSD at it’s worst because she took actions which in my mind was an attempt to destroy herself.  I suspect that she had been too embarrassed to seek out a Licensed Therapist and get Psychological help and support. Instead she tried to ease the pain by using alcohol. Many Trauma victims turn to Drugs and or Alcohol to try and ease the pain.

Jessica Landon’s Childhood Trauma, essentially destroyed the life that Jessica could have had and should have had.

If you are dealing with Traumatic events in your past (or even in your recent present) please seek out the help of a Licensed Therapist (Psychiatrist or Psychologist) who is experienced with helping people deal with Trauma and PTSD. It is painful and very difficult. With the help of a Licensed Medical Professional(s) one can work to get a handle on the Trauma induced PTSD and prevent the attempt at self destruction via Drugs or Alcohol.

Click on this link to visit the SUN News website to read their heart breaking article titled:PLAYBOY TRAUMA – Playboy model, 37, drank vodka 24 hours a day that shut down her organs and rotted her skin in shocking spiral of booze addiction“.

On our Uniquely Narcissistic site in the top menu, is a box labeled “Find Licensed Therapists“. Clicking on that you will find posts by Licensed Therapist and posts on where and how to find a qualified Licensed Therapist. Click on this link to open our “FInd Licensed Therapist” page.

Please discuss with your Medical Professional(s) about the possible use of Medical Cannabis to help with the treatment of PTSD.

A very interesting article was written by Raphael Mechoulam, Ph.D. It was titled “General use of Cannabis for PTSD Symptoms“. Click on this link to visit the http://veteransformedicalmarijuana.org website to read the article.

In the video below, Dr. Sue Sisley speaks about Treating PTSD with Medical Cannabis.

 Video is courtesy of the Cannabis Saves Lives! YouTube channel

 

Surviving the Narcissist. A personal experience of Narcissist Emotional Manipulation and Abuse!

The presenter of this video discusses his personal experience with Narcissist Emotional Manipulation and Abuse! To hear someone else discuss their experience with a Narcissist can be cathartic, in that you can see and hear that what happened to you was never your fault.

You were not to blame. You were a targeted victim.

 

Video is courtesy of the Farrah Voss YouTube channel

Flying Monkeys or Agents of a Narcissist

Flying Monkeys or Agents of the Narcissist are not often discussed. These Agents support the Narcissist and can follow orders given by the Narcissist. Flying Monkeys or Agents of a Narcissist can be very well versed in GasLighting in support of the Narcissists’s wants. They can be dangerous as they can try to be your friend but their agenda is run by the Narcissist.

 

Video is courtesy of the Dr. Todd Grande YouTube channel

Narcissists have a need to be in the physical presence of their Target.

This video brings forward an interesting point, that Narcissists have a need to be in the physical presence of their Targets. Pretending to be “oh so special” over the phone or via email does not cut it. Narcissists need to be in the physical presence of those whom they target.

That is also a defining difference between say a rather Malignant Narcissist and a Psychopath. Both share many traits, yet a Psychopath does not need to spend time with their target. 

A Narcissist gets Narcissistic Supply by being in the physical presence of their Target. That is a Red Flag to watch for. Narcissists will also try to isolate their Target, so that the Target does not spend any time being physically away with family or friends. Trying to Isolate the Target/Victim is a Major Red Flag.

Even in a work environment, a malignant Narcissist who plays Lord over the office will consistently call pointless meetings just so that they could be in the physical presence of their target(s). Psychopaths do not have this form of insecurity.

 

Video courtesy of the Permission To Exist YouTube Channel

Watch for this Red Flag.

Narcissists get their Narcissistic Supply by being in the physical presence of their Target/Victim. 

 

Paul Gonzales would invite his online dates to dinner. After eating he would disappear leaving his Date (Victim) to pay

This is not a typical post about Narcissists and their behavior. There is a commonality, in that the actions traumatized the victims. The techniques used seem similar. The use of online dating sites to find Victims. Love bombing to get his target to go out on a Dinner Date. Callous disregard of any psychological damage or embarrassment his action would cause. No empathy for his victims. One of the Victims described the Dinner Discussion as being all about him.

Click on this link to read the really good article on the Daily Beast website titled: “Paul Gonzales scammed his online dates into buying him expensive dinners. Then they made him pay..

 

Video is courtesy of the Inside Edition website.

I wonder if this could be a Red Flag to watch for: a Long Rectangular Face and a large amount of forehead about the eyebrows. Look at the photos of Paul Gonzales in the Daily Beast article.

 

 

Narcissistic Love Bombing. Don’t Get Fooled!

Narcissistic Love Bombing.
Don’t Get Fooled!

By Therapist: Shannon Petrovich LCSW

Video courtesy of the Therapist Talks YouTube channel

What is a Covert Narcissist?

What is a Covert Narcissist?

By Therapist: Shannon Petrovich LCSW

Video is courtesy of the Therapist Talks YouTube channel

Sociopaths, Psychopaths, and Malignant Narcissists

Sociopaths,
Psychopaths,
and Malignant Narcissists.

By Therapist: Shannon Petrovich LCSW

Video courtesy of the Therapist Talks YouTube channel

A Malignant Narcissist and An Empathic Person equals A Tragically Perfect Match

A Malignant Narcissist
and An Empathic Person;
A Tragically Perfect Match.

By Therapist: Shannon Petrovich LCSW

Video is courtesy of the Therapist Talks YouTube channel

Narcissistic Supply; Don’t Be a Victim to the Vampire!

Narcissistic Supply.
Don’t Be a Victim to the Vampire!

By Therapist: Shannon Petrovich LCSW

Video is courtesy of the Therapist Talks YouTube channel

Trauma Bonding with a Narcissist or Other Abuser. 10 Strategies to Get Free!

This site had been setup to try and help, by being a resource of information. WordPress.com hosts this site for me, at no charge. The advertising on this site is put there by WordPress, to help cover some of their costs. Because the site is hosted by WordPress for free, I am not allowed to place any advertising .

I believe that if one is trying to help, then one should not try to gain some benefit from providing said help. I “know” the damage a Narcissist can do to an Empathetic Human Being. I have attracted Narcs all my life. Why? Because I care and will try to help others. I have crossed paths with all sorts of Narcissists. They share many of the Red Flags.

I bring this up because I feel that there is a decent foundation of information found on this site and as such I have not posted much this year. Looking for something else, I recently came across some incredible videos created by a Therapist about Narcissists and how to Deal with them. She created the videos to try to help. I was blown away.

She has her name on the videos, but does not have any contact info. She does not ask for anything. She does not ask people to send money to fund the video site (as more than a few people do). She did it because she cares and will get no personally benefit. She also states in each video to share the material so that others may be helped. 

I will start to share Shannon Petrovich’s videos on this site. I firmly believe that “Going No Contact” is the only viable solution. But, it is easier to type that, than actually Going No Contact. Trauma Bonding is very real. The Narcissist’s Victim has also likely been isolated from any form of support, from Family or Friends. Narcs will demand that you get their permission to meet with members of your Family or Friends. By keeping you isolated, makes it easier to “Totally Control” you. Being kept isolated deepens the Trauma Bonding, making it Very Very hard to Go No Contact. This video explains the situation.

Video is courtesy of the Therapist Talks YouTube channel.

Narcissists Do Not Love. They Hold Hostages!

Narcissists Do Not Love.

They Hold Hostages!

This quote by: Shannon Petrovich LCSW

Narcissists Do Not Love. They Hold Hostages! Quote by: Shannon Petrovich LCSW

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Divorcing the Narcissist – Full Seminar with Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison and Richard Grannon

Divorcing the Narcissist – Full Seminar

with Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison and Richard Grannon

Video is courtesy of the RICHARD GRANNON SPARTANLIFECOACH YouTube channel.