Click on this link to visit The Sun news website to read their news post titled: “ACID HORROR Woman who was scarred for life when her ex-boyfriend hired a hitman to throw acid on her recalls watching her skin ‘drip to the floor“.
Edmundo Fonseca, who threw the acid was told to throw it at her face. He did not. He also said “Sorry” before throwing the acid on Ellie Chessell’s body. In court he stated that he was deceived, because he was told that it was urine which he was to throw.
Ellie’s Ex-Boyfriend Claudio Gouveia, had hired Edmundo to throw the acid after Ellie left the two-year old relationship. She went Go No Contact to the point of moving to a different city. Unfortunately her Ex-Boyfriend had refused to give Ellie her laptop and cell phone. She believes that he was able to track her down and monitor her using the cell phone.
Video is courtesy of The Morning YouTube channel
Please be careful out there. Ellie took the best option by trying to Go No Contact. Disordered Individuals can attack when they lose their source of Narcissistic Supply. If there was any violence during the relationship, please speak to your local Law Enforcement, even if you had not reported the violence when it had happened.
At least in this case the Ex-Boyfriend Claudio Gouveia was charged and convicted with Attempted Murder and was sentenced to 12 years in jail.
Ellie stated she now suffers from PTSD and is getting treatment. He body will be forever scarred. Thankfully the acid was not thrown directly in her face.
If you decide to Go No Contact, then be prepared to Expect the Unexpected from the Narcissist.
In a healthy relationship, partners naturally try to be there for each other. In the mind of a Disordered Individual, you are there to serve their own needs and your needs do not matter.
Video is courtesy of the Be The Light YouTube channel
In a healthy relationship there can be Open Dialague between the two partners. In a relationship with a Disordered Individual their monologue is what is important. They do NOT care to listen to what you have to say.
I came across a great article which discusses what I would call 8 Red Flags to watch out for.
Dr. Hamlin discusses How a Narcissistic Boss Causes Stress and Burnout. He also offers a few tips for how to cope with a Narcissistic Boss, so that you can protect yourself.
Video is courtesy of the Steps for Change YouTube channel
Sharing the Truth of the Narcissist’s actions and you may think you are suddenly in episode of the Twilight Zone. Your reality will not be accepted by the Narcissist. This can occur within a personal relationship and also in a work environment with a Narcissistic Boss.
If you create a Narcissistic Injury, then lookout as the Narcissist will twist things to Keep the Focus OFF OF The FACTS which you spoke about. They will switch to talking about and accuse you of things totally unrelated to what the original discussion was about. How dare you question the Narcissist.
Video is courtesy of the Michele Lee Nieves Coaching YouTube channel
“Toxic Workplace & Narcissist Boss” is a video of an interview with Dr. Karlyn Borysenko, who is an Organizational Psychologist and Author and Performance Coach. She has made presentations at the South by Southwest® (SXSW®) Conference & Festival.
Video is courtesy of the Copeland Coaching YouTube channel
I happened on this article which is well written. She did not initially see that her Boss was a Narcissist. When her eyes were opened, she realized that he was not just Narcissistic, but was a rather Malignant Narcissist.
She started to do research on Narcissism. Thankfully she had the support of family and friends, who kept suggesting that she quit her job. Finally she quit. She did not say anything to the Narcissist Boss. She quit and went Go No Contact.
I found this to be a very good real life example of what it can be like, when one finds themselves working for a Malignant Narcissist Boss.
Click on this line to visit the catherinedeveny.com website to read her article titled: “
The DSM 5 manual defines Narcissistic Injury as: “vulnerability in self-esteem which makes narcissistic people very sensitive to ‘injury’ from criticism or defeat. Although they may not show it outwardly, criticism may haunt these individuals and may leave them feeling humiliated, degraded, hollow and empty. They react with disdain, rage, or defiant counterattack.”.
Click on this link to visit the Psychology Today website to read their article titled: “The Destructive Force of Narcissistic Injury“.
Video is courtesy of the DD Morris YouTube channel
Narcissistic Injury was first used by Sigmund Freud back in the 1920’s. A Narcissistic Injury occurs when the Narcissist’s importance is brought into question.
Click on this link to visit the WikiPedia page to read their post titled: “Narcissistic Rage and Narcissistic Injury“.
A Narcissistic Injury can also occur when a person does not accommodate a Narcissist’s insatiable need for constant Admiration and Praise.
Click on this link to visit the PsychCentral website to read their article titled: “Narcissistic Injuries: What They Are and How to Protect Yourself from Them“.