How to treat someone who treats you badly

Ran across this post on the Experience Project site.

Click on this Link to visit the Experience Project to the read the post titled: “How To Treat A Guy That Treats You Bad.

See if you can pick up on some of the Narcissist’s Red Flags in that post. Things like Love Bombing, Blame Shifting and not taking responsibility for their actions (it’s always your fault).

After going No Contact, your Narcissist steals your website or blog Domain

Many visitors to our Uniquely Narcissistic site also run websites and blogs around the topic of Narcissism. Say you Go No Contact with the Cluster-B Disordered Individual in your life and you started to Blog about it. Your action to protect yourself could cause a Narcissistic Injury to said Narc.

Beyond the Back Stabbing and starting Smear Campaigns, that Narc could arrange an attack on your Website or Blog. They could directly or indirectly, steal the ownership of your WebSite’s Domain. The article written by Jordan Reid titled

Hackers Stole My Website…And I Pulled Off A $30,000 Sting Operation To Get It Back

could make you aware of such a possibility and provide some ideas on how to address the issue. I hope it never happens, but if it does at least you have a head start on how to get back the ownership of your Website or Blog Domain.

Click on the following link to visit and read Jordan Reid’s post at: https://medium.freecodecamp.com/hackers-stole-my-website-and-i-pulled-off-a-30-000-sting-operation-to-get-it-back-143d43ee3742#.v6gq3obrs

Click on this Link to visit the Wikipedia page which details who ICANN is and what it does.

Click on this link to visit the Internet Corporation for Assigned Names and Numbers (ICANN) website to read the post titled “Uniform Domain Name Dispute Resolution Policy

Something has come up

Hi,
Something came up today and I will have to totally focus on that. I will try to post something new to this site, but I doubt that I will be able to do so for at least a month.

Maybe by May.

There is already a lot of information on this site. One way to find interesting prior posts is to scroll down the page while checking the right-hand sidebar. There you will find a very long list of Categories. Clicking on a Category will bring up all posts related to that specific Category.

Thanks for your continued support.

Quote “You had no prior knowledge of Narcissists, Sociopaths or Psychopaths. Your Abusive Partner immediately picked up on that.”

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Quote:The past may have hurt you, but it no longer exists. Ask yourself: “What benefit do you get from replaying and reliving that which hurt you?” Please, Stop hurting Yourself.

Maybe your subconscious wants to prevent and protect you from getting into yet another abusive relationship.

In effect, you hurt yourself
to try and protect yourself.

Let yourself know that you are learning to pickup on the Red Flags given off by abusive individuals such as Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths. Forgive yourself for not knowing anything about such messed up Individuals. It was the Educational Systems which failed to properly inform you.

You had no prior knowledge of
Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths,
and so you are not to blame.

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Rule #5 Do not fix, care take, mend, or use any kind of psychological tools to change a Narcissist

…  This excellent post is courtesy of the Echo Got Her Voice blog at https://howechogothervoice.com

Echo Got Her Voice

AGAIN I REPEAT: Do not go to fixing, helping, and explaining. Ns will suck you in. This will result in basically explaining away all of their negative treatment. Receiving help from me was typically used in this manner. George K. Simon discusses in his book regarding dealing with disturbed characters, “Help is not chasing after someone to give them something we think is of value even when they haven’t asked for it and show no appreciation for it.” He goes on to explain that in offering help to someone who shows no willingness to change and has probably already heard the same thing many times, we inevitably end up in a position to be hurt and increase their ability to continue their bad behavior.

I choose men that need my help. According to my therapists, I fear real intimacy. The therapists say I feel unworthy of it in my own…

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Take the Japanese CUBE Test and gain some insights into your Subconscious Mind. Originally from the book Kokology by Tadahiko Nagao

Kokoro means “”the heart of things”” in Japanese. In the year 2000, a famed Japanese Psychologist named Tadahiko Nagao  and Isamu Saito (a professor at Rissho and Waseda Universities in Japan) gave the world the book titled “Kokology – The Game of Self-Discovery”. The book became and still is a Bestseller. Click on this Link to visit Amazon.com and the page featuring the book Kokology.


One of the sections in the book details the CUBE Test. The video below walks you thru the CUBE Test. Follow the video to take the test and gain some insights into your Subconscious Mind.

Video is courtesy of the BuzzMoy YouTube channel


The following are the questions (Submodalities) asked in the video:


Imagine that you are in a desert and you see a cube there.
Do you see it? How large is the cube? What is it made of? Where exactly is it in the desert? Is it buried under the sand or is it sitting on top? Is it floating in the air? Is it moving?


As you are observing the cube, you see a ladder also.
What material is the ladder made from? How tall is it? Where is it in relation to the cube?


Now, you picture a horse appearing in the desert.
How far is it from the cube? What is it doing? Which way is it moving? What does it look like? Is the horse tied up or roaming freely? Is it wearing a saddle?


Can you picture any flower in the desert?
Where are they situated compared to the cube? How many of them do you see in there?


And now the thunderstorm begins. Think of it’s details.
Is it big or small? Is it violent or calm? What’s the distance between the storm and the cube? Does the storm affect the horse, flowers, cube or ladder at all?

Clear boundaries enhance relationships and the quality of your life by Sarri Gilman

This TEDx Talk by Sarri Gilman is about setting Clear Boundaries and the benefits of doing so.

Video is courtesy of the TEDx Talks YouTube channel

Sarri Gilman is also the author the book titled “Transform Your Boundaries“, which can be found on amazon.com

Neil Sattin had a detailed Podcast with Sarri Gilman on his show Relationship Alive. Click on this Link to visit the Neil Sattin site where you can listen to the Sarri Gilman Podacst.  There is also a Download link to the MP3 file.

Sometimes you are unable to Go NO CONTACT. Man kills both his daughters and shoots his ex-wife.

When you have kids with a Disordered Individual,
it “may not be possible” to Go No Contact.

Video is courtesy of the Inside Edition YouTube channel

IMHO the shooter in the above case could have been either a Psychopath, Sociopath or a Narcissist – all at the extreme and very dangerous end of the spectrum. He killed his daughters, but only shot the wife with one bullet in the leg. Why? So that she would survive and continue to suffer the aftermath of losing her twin daughters.

Video courtesy of the World News YouTube channel

In his 911 call, he was rather calm and calculating. Also making the 911 call got him his “attention fix“. He called the Police and flaunted that he had killed his daughters and shot his wife and that there was nothing they could do about it because he was going to kill himself.

Note that his 911 call was all about himself – bragging in effect. Narcissists for example, do not apologize. The shooter was about to die (suicide), yet was not even remotely close to being apologetic for what he had just done to his own daughters.

Compare his tone and composure while making that 911 call, to the call made by his Ex-Wife. His Reptilian wired Brain lacked emotional connection. The shooter just killed both of his own children and yet there was a total lack of care or Empathy. His Ex-Wife’s Human wired Brain became flooded with emotion (filled with care and Empathy for her two kids being shot). Their two brains were wired very differently, in effect a Hardware issue. I doubt that therapy could correct the wiring difference, which in my opinion developed during the shooter’s infancy.

Click on this Link to visit the Inside Edition and read more details.

Quote “A Narcissist only cares about one person and it certainly is NOT YOU.”

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6 Steps to Emotional Healing after Narcissistic Abuse by Kim Saeed

Superb Video by Kim Saeed. Narcissistic Abuse could result in Complex Trauma.

Kim details six steps which could help one to deal with the Trauma caused by Narcissistic Abuse. Highly Recommended.

Video is courtesy of the Kim Saeed YouTube channel

Click on this link to visit Kim Saeed’s website called “Let Me Reach”.

Click on this Link to visit Kim Saeed’s Twitter page.

Click n this link to visit the facebook page of Kim Saeed.

Avaialble on amazon.com is Kim Saeed’s book titled :

 

Differences between Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Malignant Narcissism, and Psychopathy by Rhonda Freeman Ph.D.


Rhonda Freeman, Ph.D. details the differences between Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Malignant Narcissism, and Psychopathy. There are great similarities and also major differences. It’s a spectrum of disorders.

Video is courtesy of the Rhonda Freeman, PhD YouTube channel


Click on this link to visit Rhonda Freeman’s facebook page called Neuroinstincts.

Learn how to spot when someone is trying to Lie to you. By Susan Carnicero

Susan Carnicero had spent over 20 years performing interviews, interrogations and polygraph examinations, as a Security Specialist with the CIA.

She had also developed behavioral screening programs, that are used by the U.S. Federal Government.

Uniquely Narcissistic focuses on the Red Flags of Disordered Individuals.  One of the Red Flags and Traits of Narcissists (and also of Sociopaths and Psychopaths) is that they are Proficient Liars, because they get lots of practice.

Susan Carnicero’s discusses what to watch for, when someone is trying to Lie to you.

Video is courtesy of the Digiday YouTube channel

Susan Carnicero is also the author of  the book titled: “Get the Truth: Former CIA Officers Teach You How to Persuade Anyone to Tell All.

Quote: “3 things a Narcissist is sure to break: Promises, Trust and Your Heart.”

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Quote:3 things a Narcissist is sure to break: Promises, Trust and Your Heart.

Red Flags that you are Dating a Loser by Joseph M. Carver, Clinical Psychologist.

A special note of Thanks to Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D for permitting us to share his article:

“The Loser”

Warning Signs You’re Dating a Loser

Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D., Psychologist

Introduction

Very few relationships start on terms other than sweetness and politeness. In the beginning, “the honeymoon” of the relationship, it’s difficult to determine what type of individual you are dating. Both you and the date are guarded, trying to obtain information about the other as much as possible without seeming like a police detective.

Romantic relationships can be wonderful with the right person. A relationship with the wrong individual however can lead to years of heartache, emotional/social damage, and even physical damage. A damaging adult partner can damage us, damage our loved ones, and even damage the way we feel about love and romance in the future. They can turn what is supposed to be a loving, supporting, and understanding relationship into the “fatal attraction” often described in movies. There are a variety of “bad choices” that may be encountered each week – most of which are easily to identify and avoid. We all know to avoid people that appear insane or abusive and not select them as a dating partner. However, some individuals are better at hiding their personality and behavior abnormalities. In an effort to provide some warning about these very damaging individuals, this paper will outline a type of individual commonly found in the dating scene, a male or female labeled “The Loser”.

“The Loser” is a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship. “The Loser” has permanent personality characteristics that create this damage. These are characteristics that they accept simply as the way they are and not a problem or psychological difficulty. In one sense, they have always lived with this personality and behavior, often something they probably learned from their relatives/family. Psychologists usually treat the victims of “The Loser”, women or men who arrive at the office severely depressed with their self-confidence and self-esteem totally destroyed.

The following list is an attempt to outline the characteristics of “The Loser” and provide a manner in which women and men can identify potentially damaging relationships before they are themselves severely damaged emotionally or even physically. If your partner possesses even one of these features, there is risk in the relationship. More than three of these indicators and you are involved with “The Loser” in a very high risk relationship that will eventually create damage to you. When a high number of these features are present – it’s not a probably or possibility. You will be hurt and damaged by “The Loser” if you stay in the relationship.

1. Rough Treatment “The Loser” will hurt you on purpose. If he or she hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property EVEN ONCE, drop them. Male losers often begin with behaviors that move you physically or hit the wall. Female losers often slap, kick and even punch their male partners when upset.

2. Quick Attachment and Expression “The Loser” has very shallow emotions and connections with others. One of the things that might attract you to “The Loser” is how quickly he or she says “I Love You” or wants to marry or commit to you. Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you’ll hear that you’re the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you. You’ll receive gifts, a variety of promises, and be showered with their attention and nice gestures. This is the “honeymoon phase” – where they catch you and convince you that they are the best thing that ever happened to you. Remember the business saying “If it’s too good to be true it probably is (too good to be true)!” You may be so overwhelmed by this display of instant attraction, instant commitment, and instant planning for the future that you’ll miss the major point – it doesn’t make sense!! Normal, healthy individuals require a long process to develop a relationship because there is so much at stake. Healthy individuals will wait for a lot of information before offering a commitment – not three weeks. It’s true that we can become infatuated with others quickly – but not make such unrealistic promises and have the future planned after three dates. The rapid warm-up is always a sign of shallow emotions which later cause “The Loser” to detach from you as quickly as they committed. “The Loser” typically wants to move in with you or marry you in less than four weeks or very early in the relationship.

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Go No Contact strategies.

Go No Contact strategies.

Realize that there is a great life beyond what disordered Narcissists will offer you.

Streamed live on Feb 23, 2017

This is the book club live stream for How To Do No Contact Like A Boss!: A Guide to Detaching from Toxic Relationships for Intuitives, Empaths & Sensitives” by Kim Saeed

Note that there were apparently technical issues “at the start” of this video.  Keep watching, as there is “lots of insightful info” discussed in this video.

Video is courtesy of the Thrive After Abuse YouTube channel

You can join the last Thursday of every month for a book club discussion! For a list of the books check out: http://www.thriveafterabuse.com/bookclub