Stages of Grief when the relationship with a Narcissist ends

Video is courtesy of the Beverly Banov Brown,M.S. YouTube channel

The stages of Grief when a relationship with a Narcissist ends, is detailed in the book titled “Psychopath Free“. You can order it from Amazon by clicking on this line.

Briefly the stages are:

Stage 1 Total Devastation
Absolute shock and disbelief.

When the Narcissist makes an official upcoming marriage announcement, you flip out and rant things like “it’s not true, they are not marrying anyone”.

Of course they will be marrying someone else. You were “never good enough” for the Narcissist, but they still used you as source of Narcissistic supply.

Stage 2 Denial
The Narcissist will gleefully talk about how wonderful their new life is, with their new wife or partner. This will be done in ways to ensure that you learn about it. They may even rub it in, by telling you to your face. You react by lashing out at family, partners, friends, basically anyone “except” the Narcissist who caused it all.

You start to care less about your health. You become impulsive. You change your routine and disengage from your family spending more and more time alone with your thoughts about the Narcissist and how much you want them back.

Stage 3 Rage
This will take time, as in months. When it hits, be very careful. Try to disconnect from the Rage that you feel. Acknowledge that yes you have been used and abused. Most of all acknowledge that it is the Narcissist’s doing. This is the toughest phase to go thru.

Stage 4 Depression
Deep down know that you are more than good enough. You are unique and special. You were used and abused. You were naive and trusting. Learn from it. Learn the danger signals, so that you can prevent such a thing from happening again.

Stage 5 Healing
Eventually you will realize that you were not at fault. You were a kind and trusting “Human”, who was used and abused by a Narcissist, who lacked empathy for anyone.

Stage 6 Discovery
You grow stronger with the knowledge of what to look for.

No one had ever prepared you for what a Narcissist is.

Now you know better and can confidently go out into the world knowing how to protect yourself and maybe others, from being used and abused by the Narcissists that really are out there.

You are now a Survivor !

The following is a quote from pg 57, of Psychopath Free, which clarifies what the Narcissist did to you:

“The psychopath carefully selects the most indifferent & heartbreaking way imaginable to abandon you. They want you to self-destruct, cleaning up any loose ends as they begin the grooming process with their latest victim. They destroy you as a way to reassure themselves that their new target is better. But most importantly, they destroy you because they hate you. They despise your empathy & love, qualities they must pretend to feel every single day. To destroy you is to temporarily silence the nagging reminder of the emptiness that consumes their soul.” (pg. 57)”

Click on this line to read the full article titled “Stages of Grief from a Psychopathic Relationship“, which is posted on the Psychopathfree website.

The stages of Grief when a relationship with a Narcissist ends, is detailed in the book titled “Psychopath Free“. You can order it from Amazon by clicking on this line.

 

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