This is an excellent run down by Cosmopolitan magazine, of Ten Traits of Narcissists.
Kira Peikoff, the author of that article, has done an excellent job. Her post is clear and to the point.
There is a link further down, so that you can read Kira Peikoff’s complete article on the Cosmo website.
From her list, Traits #1, #2 and #10 I fully agree with. Trait #10 is also not often spoken about.
1. Narcissists have zero tolerance for shame.
2. The fragile, insecure core of a narcissist has roots in childhood.
10. Narcissists are emotionally stuck at a toddler’s age.
From her list, Trait #9 I disagree with. Narcissists are hard wired. No amount of trying to motivate them to change will succeed. The only way that a Narcissist would change is if you suddenly became a high grade Source of Narcissistic Supply.
For example if you won a multi million dollar prize in a lottery. That would turn you into top high grade Source of Narcissistic Supply. A Narcissistic will look up to a such a High Grade Source of Supply and could change to keep such a Source of Supply. That is until the Narcissistic has found an even Higher Grade Source of Supply.
9. Narcissists may be motivated to change if there is a meaningful consequence to their bad behavior.
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