Ajahn Brahm present 4 methods of “Letting Go”.
He states that when someone does something or says something which hurts you, they only hurt you at that particular moment in time. At a later time if you get upset at that person because of what they did to you “in the past“, “you are allowing” that person to hurt you again and again and again.
Narcissists are well aware that most people do not know how to “Let Go” of the pain which they cause. It is the Narcissist’s Gift which keeps on giving and giving.
Letting Go is the one way to get real revenge, against the Narcissist(s) who had hurt you.
As the Blogger who runs divorsinganaarcissistblog put it (in a comment below):
“ yes, since you’ll never get closure with a Narc, you need to learn to let that shit go or else you will go crazy!!“
Video is courtesy of the BuddhistSocietyWA YouTube channel