Associated Press posted about this on Jun 25.
The latest woman to disappear introduced the male to her daughter, who immediately disliked him. The Daughter begged her Mom not to leave with the guy. (suggestion – don’t beg – call the Police) Mom did not listen and has since “disappeared”. Two other women had previously apparently “disappeared”, after becoming involved with this guy
Interesting that the woman sold her home and closed her bank accounts. That means she was carrying a heck of a lot of cash. Why would your new lover want you to do this?
When the police finally figured out who the last woman had met, they found him living with another woman.
Key points that in my opinion are interesting.
Woman sells her home and closes all her bank accounts. I assume that she bought the RV and set to travel with this guy she met online. When you leave your friends and family you lose your support structure. With no support you are at the total mercy of the person who talked you into leaving everyone. This is a Red Flag – and a Major One.
Seems that the woman was financing the whole thing. The guy contributed the idea to get her to leave her family and friends. Do not allow yourself to become isolated.
This is a major financial risk and venture. Talk to the Police and hire a Private Investigator to check out your new Love Interest. When the Police caught this guy, he had multiple fake IDs on him. Finger Prints proved that he was the guy that the Mother had left with.
It does not state that her daughter knew about the closing out the bank account. If it were my Mother in such a crazy situation, I would have called the Police and had hired a Private Detective to check this guy out. I would have embarrassed the hell out of the guy and gotten him and my Mother to visit the Police Station together with me. The Police can do some quick checks right away, but a complete check would take time. Mind you guy was finally caught by the Police with multiple Fake ID.
Here’s an idea, force the guy to get finger printed. Too bad if he gets pissed off. Better he gets pissed off, than having my Mother disappear after leaving with some guy she recently met on an internet dating site. It takes lots of time to get to know who you are with. Sometimes after decades people suddenly discover who they thought they were living with was just a fake persona. Disordered people have to move quickly to isolate their target, before their mask slips too much and more people realize how screwed up they are.
Also make sure to get lots of photographs of the guy and your Mother (using this case as an example). Get him to remove any hats or other head gear (motorcycle helmet for ex). Put the photos and finger prints into a Bank Safety Deposit Box so they can’t mysteriously disappear like the Mother had.
There is no valid reason to close one’s bank account, especially after having sold her house. Hint – another Red Flag. You want access to money, get an American Express Gold card and other companies offer similar things. That leaves signatures and witnesses. Leave very large amounts of money in a Bank or even in a bank Safety Deposit Box. It amazes me that the Mother got suckered into doing that. Bet ya the guy in this scenario contributed “not one dime”.
Another Red Flag is that when family members and friends show a distinct dislike for your new lover. That was mentioned in prior post about a TedX Talks video given by Alexandra Redcay. titled “Tips on selecting the Right Relationship by Alexandra Redcay“.
I’ve posted this line a few times “Just because someone smiles at you, does not mean that they are your friend“.
Here is a new variation “Just because someone tells you that they Love you, does not guarantee that they are not secretly planning to make you DISAPPEAR.“. Wake Up people…