Category: Codependence, Independence and Interdependence

Superb clinical presentation on Codependency by Pia Mellody

Must watch video for those who are or have been in abusive relationships with Narcissists.

If you attract Narcissists into your life, then you may have Codependency issues.

Narcissists look for and Target Codependents.

Video is courtesy of the Facing Codependency YouTube Channel

Her term “Functional Parenting” and it’s definition is extremely important.

Dysfunctional Parenting creates life long problems. I refer to it as Abysmal Parenting and it is very abusive to the child.

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Codependence – Patterns and Characteristics

CoDA.org holds meetings similar to Alcoholics Anonymous. Those with Codependent tendencies can meet, share and talk.

Codependence stems from not receiving the Love, Care, Attention and Confirmation and Praise which “you deserved” when you were a child. The child’s sense of self is not allowed to develop. Codependence, is in my opinion, a survival mechanism developed by the child and carried over into adulthood.

There are people, such a Narcissists , who will search for and pick up on someone’s Codependent tendencies. Narcissists are well versed in Psychological Manipulation Techniques to reel in their Codependent targets. Codependents are easily duped by the Narcissist’s Love Bombing. The Narcissist’s Love Bombing provides the Codependent Target, that which the Target had never received from their parents, when they were a child. Unfortunately the Love Bombing was never something real. It was just another Psychological Manipulation and Control Technique used by disordered individuals such as Narcissists.

A Licensed Therapist can help one to figure out the Triggers of Codependent Tendencies. Realizing the Self Doubt and Self Sabotage and negative Self Talk is the first step towards healing. Healing opens the door to finding a Healthy relationship and could also help to limit you being targeted by Disordered Individuals such as Narcissists.

The Codependents anonymous meetings held, by CoDA.org, in your local area could be helpful tool on your road to recovery. Speak to your Therapist about CoDA.org. Also find out if your licensed Therapist holds Group Therapy sessions. You are not alone. Sadly many have had parents who were clueless about proper parenting and helping their children grow and develop their Self Worth and Self Esteem. It is my opinion that Codependence is created by abysmal parenting.

Click on the link below to view the CoDA.org document titled: Patterns and Characteristics of Codependence.

http://coda.org/index.cfm/meeting-materials1/patterns-and-characteristics-2011/

Codependence, Independence and Interdependence – Part 2 by Pam Gawler-Wright

How some pennies can drop Sometimes I describe a certain scene to a person, couple or family I am working with and I can almost hear the pennies drop as it offers them a way to understand the hurt …

Source: Codependence, Independence and Interdependence – Part 2

This post is courtesy of Pam Gawler-Wright’s WordPress site.