Stephanie Lyn explains the Narcissist and Codependent dance. That abusive Narcissist was attracted to you, because you are always willing to give of yourself to help others.
Sadly, Narcissistic Predators are constantly on the lookout for people who willingly give of themselves.
Video is courtesy of the Stephanie Lyn Coaching YouTube Channel
At one time, I had gotten a job because I had brought the Narcissist (who did the hiring interview) detailed info about a new Ransomware spreading across the Internet. Much much later after getting hired, I was informed by the Narcissist that they felt it be very important when people bring them things. In other words that Narcissist saw that I was willing to give and Narcissists are always looking for individuals that they can feed off.
That Narcissist was classic, I would watch him mirror people – at times changing his physical position dramatically to match the person they were trying to Mirror. It was fascinating and over time became very predictable behavior. My eyes were opened when I had stumbled across an article about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.
Click on this link to view the articles on Uniquely Narcissistic which are about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.
Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of The Trauma Bond by Shahida Arabi “Free” by Alice Popkorn via Flickr. Creative Commons License. Ever had a victim-blamer claim you were “codependent”? That you in some way deserved the abuse, or that it was your fault? Let them know: codependency was a term historically used to describe […]
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Attachment Injuries during childhood are directly linked to adult Codependency.
You need to give yourself that which you never received when you were a child.
Your Narcissistic Partner will never be the Corrective Experience for that Attachment Injury.
Quite the contrary, the Narcissist was attracted to you because of your Codependency which made it very easy for them to Use and Manipulate you.
You need a healthy relationship, where your partner can show you that they care about and love you and that “you matter” to them.
Narcissists lack empathy and so are unable to care about or love others.
To a narcissist your only value is in you being a source of Narcissistic Supply, which can and usually will be replaced with a better source of Narcissistic Supply. Narcissists are always “hunting” for new and better sources of Narcissistic Supply.
Video is courtesy of the Alan Robarge YouTube channel.
Starting with answering the question “What is Codependency?“, this video gives insights into becoming self aware of the “triggers” of your Codependent Behaviour.
Becoming aware of your Codependent Behaviour,
is the first major step to changing said behaviour.
Video is courtesy of the Brian Pisor YouTube channel