Recently a visitor to this site left a comment, regarding the fact that we have not come very far. It was in reference to a recent post about an article on the Medical News Today website (from the early 2000s).
In 1961 (back in the DSM-1 days) an America family set off on a vacation of a lifetime. They chartered a yacht, named Bluebelle, in Fort Lauderdale to cruise the ocean around the Bahama Islands.
Little did they know that the boat owner had recently setup an insurance policy for his wife. He brought his wife along on this charter. It was supposed to be perfect. He would use the family chartering his boat as his witnesses that he and his wife were all lovey dovey. He planed to murder his wife and dump the body overboard, claiming an ocean swell must have sent her overboard.
Remember this Quote: “Just because someone says the words I Love You, does not guarantee that they are not secretly planning to make you disappear”.
The boat owner’s plan fell apart when he was caught murdering his wife, by the Father who purchased the Charter. So the Father was killed as was his Wife and other daughter.
The 11 year old girl was asleep in her bunk when this happened. She awoke due to the terrifying screams of her brother. Yes a vacation of a lifetime…
Unfortunately we have “not” come very far. In my opinion society has moved backwards. Online dating sites make it easy for Psychopaths to find victims. See a prior post about 3 women who disappeared after meeting the same male on an online dating site.
One take away from this post is that yes not much has changed. Be very careful who you fall in Love with.
A more significant take away is that the 11 year old “Survived”. She was severely traumatized. With the help of Licensed Professionals, she was able to overcome what had happened. Many visitors to this site have suffered all sorts of different Trauma. With time and help you can overcome what had happened to you. That 11 year girl did and so can you.
Sam Vaknin is a key resource in the study of Narcissists and Narcissism. He is a twice diagnosed Narcissist. He is also the author/creator of much of the jargon which is used on online sites which discuss disordered individuals (this site included).
He was asked in this video, what it feels like to be a Narcissist. Sam Vaknin’s response was a surprising “It Sucks“. That response reflects on his own self discovery.
The other thing that impresses me is that Sam Vaknin’s posted material is available for sharing under a Creative Commons license. With Sam Vaknin I get the impression that he is on an intense mission to inform people about Narcissists like himself. It seems uniquely selfless.
Video is courtesy of the Sam Vaknin YouTube channel
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