This is not a typical post about Narcissists and their behavior. There is a commonality, in that the actions traumatized the victims. The techniques used seem similar. The use of online dating sites to find Victims. Love bombing to get his target to go out on a Dinner Date. Callous disregard of any psychological damage or embarrassment his action would cause. No empathy for his victims. One of the Victims described the Dinner Discussion as being all about him.
Video is courtesy of the Inside Edition website.
I wonder if this could be a Red Flag to watch for: a Long Rectangular Face and a large amount of forehead about the eyebrows. Look at the photos of Paul Gonzales in the Daily Beast article.
The judge stated the obvious that the man showed an astounding Lack of Empathy.
In the discussion with the Judge, the man starts to Gaslight the Judge and states that he did not mean to do that. Then he blames the his girlfriend. He stated that his girlfriend pushed him to do what his did. The Judge responded with “So, You are the victim?”.
Click on the following link to view the Courtroom video: https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/community/miami-dade/article228084159.html
The Steve Stephens video has him talking about himself. He speaks of killing 13 people and hunting for the 14th victim. It’s all about him.
Zero empathy for anyone.
Zero remorse for what he has done and will do.
These videos are a rare view of a reactive Psychopath. Never forget that the Spectrum of Disorders run from Normal Narcissism (yes a small amount of Narcissism is normal) to Malignant Narcissist to Killer Psychopath. If someone is already towards the malignant end of the spectrum, it would not take much to trigger them to become physically abusive.
Never dare a Disordered Individual to hit you, because they may not know how to stop once they start beating you. Much like Steve Stephens knew exactly what he was doing when he was out hunting for total strangers to kill. He was unable to stop, once he got himself started.
The following video is of a very long rant by the Psychopath Steve Stephens. It’s all about him. It’s not his fault. It his ex-girlfriend’s fault and his Mother’s fault. He justifies his action in a telephone conversation saying that he did what he did because has anger and frustration. He states that he killed 13 people and does so without any emotion. ZERO EMPATHY for anyone.
Video is courtesy of the GloomyHouse YouTube channel
UPDATE: The orginal video of the Murder had been taken dpown by YouTube. The new video above shows the moments just prior to the disordered individual pulling the trigger.
Dr. Helen Riess is an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She directs the Empathy & Relational Science Program, conducting unique research on the neuroscience of emotions and empathy, and is Co-Founder, Chief Scientist and Chairman of Empathetics, LLC.
Dr. Helen Riess has devoted her career to research on the Neuroscience and art of the patient-doctor relationship and teaching psychiatry residents and medical students. Her research team conducts translational research based on the Neuroscience of emotions. The effectiveness of Dr. Riess’s Empathy training approach has been demonstrated in several studies including a randomized controlled trial.
This TEDX Talks presentation has many insights into Empathy.
Video is courtesy of the TEDx Talks YouTube channel
Being an Empath can open the door to Living Hell, for the Empath and those close to them.
The video is about the Tragic Life of an Empath, who was targeted by a Narcissist, Sociopath and Psychopaths.
Her Narcissistic Ex Husband, shot the Empath multiple times at close range. The Narcissist Ex shot himself in the head and died.
The Empath survived the shooting and took almost a decade to recover. A blood transfusion given during her ordeal was tainted with Hepatitis C. This Empath could not catch a break.
Then a Sociopath and Psychopaths targeted her and her new husband. The Empath and her new Husband end up being buried alive together, by the Psychopaths.
Video courtesy of the Couples Who Kill YouTube channel
Are All Mental Illnesses Related?
David Kessler’s explanation of “Capture” could explain the formation and basis of Narcissism.
Who is David Kessler? He is the former Commissioner of the Food and Drug Administration.
His argument is that the process he refers to as “Capture”, is the “common mechanism” for all forms of Mental Illness and that it is based on the hard Wiring of the Brain and not on Chemical Imbalances.
David Kessler‘s view about “Capture“,correlates well with MRI Brain Scans of Narcissists and Psychopaths. Those Brain Scans show that their Brains react and process information differently than the general population.
Empathy lights up specific ares of a “more normal” Brain. Such does not happen with individuals with Cluster-B disorders. I have read that Brain Scans of Psychopaths indicate that areas of their Brains related to enjoyment light up when they view scenes of people being physically hurt or mutilated. Such never happens in the general population.
Because of specific hard wiring changes in the brains of say Narcissists, they in turn focus on selective stimuli – looking for and feeding off of Narcissistic Supply. The MRI Brains Scans also address why lack of empathy is a major Narcissistic trait and that it is directly tied to the way their Brain works.
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http://www.theatlantic.com/video/iframe/477918/ Video is courtesy of The Atlantic
There was also a radio interview with David Kessler on the Diane Rehm Show. In that interview, David goes into more fascinating detail about the idea of the process he called “Capture”.
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7 characteristics of people who are drawn to and attract Narcissists!
Are you a Kind, Compassionate
and Loving person?
If so, then Narcissists may have their eye on you.
Christine Louis De Canonville made a most interesting observation during her seminar on “Narcissistic Victim Syndrome“. She stated that if you have been in a prior relationship with a Narcissist, you have “been primed” and other Narcissists will be highly attracted to you.
In this video Doctr Sam discusses seven personality traits which will make you an ideal candidate to be targeted by a Narcissist.
Empathy for other living beings is something which Narcissists lack. Brain Scans indicate that it has something to do with the hard wiring of the Frontal Lobe of their brains.
They lack Empathy, yet will Target those who have and display lots of Empathy.
Video is courtesy of the DoctrSam YouTube channel
Empathy for others, is a large part of what makes us “Human Beings”.
Lack of Empathy is an Alien or Reptilian quality.
Empathy does not register in their mind. Maybe it is because of Childhood Trauma. Maybe no one gave a shit about them, when they were a young child and really needed someone to care, but no one did. Childhood Abandonment Issues is one thing which Narcissists seem to have in common.