Narcissistic Abuse: Why is Mirroring So Terrible?
Sereena shares some reasons why.
Video is courtesy of the Sereena Nightshade YouTube channel
Non verbal communication is far more powerful,
than spoken words.
The Narcissists will try to in effect “Morph” into you, their target.
Predators use Mirroring all the time.
Please make sure that you watch for it.
Video is courtesy of the Sereena Nightshade YouTube channel
Mirroring can establish rapport with the individual who is being mirrored, as the similarities in nonverbal gestures allow the individual to feel more connected with the person exhibiting the mirrored behavior. As the two individuals in the situation display similar nonverbal gestures, they may believe that they share similar attitudes and ideas as well. Mirror neurons react to and cause these movements, allowing the individuals to feel a greater sense of engagement and belonging within the situation.
The above Wikipedia text was taken from the following ref:
Iacoboni, M. (2008). Mirroring people: The new science of how we connect with others. New York, NY: Picador.
If you catch someone Mirroring you, consider that as being a major Red Flag that you could be interacting with a Predator Narcissist.
Ask yourself: Why would someone be using a Major Psychological Control Technique against you?
David Snyder discusses Speed Attraction.
Narcissists and Psychopaths are really good at establishing Rapport and Trust with their Targets. They do this using techniques which are below most people’s radar. Mirroring is a major Psychological Mind Control Technique used by Narcissists. Therapists may also use Mirroring to establish Trust with their patients. Trust can be real and created via shared experience, or false Trust can be programmed into someone’s mind and they will have no clue that they were manipulated.
Video is courtesy of the David Snyder YouTube channel
There is a video featured in a post on this site, by a Harvard Grad named Leslie Morgan Steiner. She was targeted by a Narcissist. She was talked into moving and became isolated from friends and family. Once she was isolated the abuse started and moved to physical abuse.She was programmed not to discuss the abuse with others. In the video she spoke of being physically abused. She stated that at the time her focus was not on the person physically abusing her. Her mind was focused on the false persona presented to her at the beginning of their relationship.
Mirroring and Love Bombing by the Narcissist installs Rapport and Trust deep into the victim’s mind. Again, Leslie focused on the false person whom she had been programmed to fall in love with. Someone who “did not exist”. She dismissed the physical abuse and focused on the false persona. She was very highly educated, yet the Narcissist was able to get inside her mind and manipulate her.
Learning about and then watching for the Red Flags like Mirroring, can give one a clue into the type of individual one is interacting with.
Watch the video and listen carefully to the way that David interacts with the people at his seminar – especially the females. Listen to how he shifts his tonality. He draws the Target in and starts asking question after question. He repeats what he has been told by the Target. He draws the Target in. Narcissists will sound like David, when they interact with their Targets. It is very subtle, yet very powerful and IMHO very dangerous if you are the Target.
Another verbal tactic of the Narcissist is to continually combine the target and themselves in statements they make. Take this statement fed to a Target by a Narc “You don’t Love Me anymore.“ stated as a joke to counter something negative which the Target just said. The Target laughs at the Narc’s statement and the Target’s state is changed. The Negative is thus removed from the Target’s mind. Narcs are really good at countering anything negative. Humor is non threatening and does not set off alarms. Yet the Narc’s stupid statement (given the situation where it had been used), clears the Target’s mind of negative thoughts.
The constant combination of “You” and “Me”, also helps to program a connection in the Target’s mind. All this flies below the radar and never sets off any alarms in the Target’s Mind. Next thing you know, the Target starts to feel that they have met their Soul Mate…
Mirroring is one the most important Red Flags displayed by Narcissists, on a consistent basis.
Mirroring someone can open the door into their mind. You can create “Trust”, “Rapport” and get someone to believe that you and them have established a “Connection”. Most people have never heard of Mirroring, allowing Narcissists to readily use it.
I recall one situation, the Cerebral Narc was standing and talking to some people. His target came by and she bent over placing her elbows on a counter. The Narc spotted her and went over and Mirrored her. He bent over the counter placing his elbows on the counter. She had no clue what was going on. The others also did not notice what the Narc was doing. As his target changed position, so did the Narc. He also started to adjust his tonality to better match her. It was classic. Only the Cerebral Narcissist and myself had any clue that he was manipulating his target.
Video is courtesy of the GilanGorkTV YouTube channel
Cluster-B Disordered individuals, such as Narcissist use Mirroring on a consistent basis (so do Psychopaths). Why ? Because it works. It lets them establish Trust and Rapport with their Target. This shuts down the Target’s natural Fight or Flight protective response.
Learn about Mirroring and then always watch for it.
Detailed description of how to Mirror people, to influence them. Mirroring is a Major Red Flag to watch for. It is a Mind Control Technique used by Narcissists.
Video is courtesy of the Fredo Hill YouTube channel
If you catch someone Mirroring you and they are Extraordinarily Charming and they always seem to be the Center of Attention when around people, you may want to visit google.com and do a search on Narcissist Red Flags.
Narcissists use Mind Control, Psychological and Persuasion Techniques to hook their Target.
I have mentioned Mirroring more than a few times, in posts on this site. Watching out for someone Mirroring you can become instinctive, if practiced. Mirroring is a very powerful Manipulation Technique.
Along with Mirroring, a person’s breathing pattern is a doorway into their mind. I’ll give two examples.
Mirroring the breathing pattern of your Target, will shut down their Flight or Fight response. The Narcissist will breathe in, when your Target does. The Narcissist will breathe out, when your target does. The target will have no clue that they are being manipulated big time. The target will then be receptive to the Narc’s further manipulations.
Another approach is the Narcissist giving the Target embedded commands and potential anchors “only” when the Target is breathing out. Once the Narc’s commands are anchored inside the Target’s mind, the Narcissist can trigger them whenever they want. The process does not have to be something that is repeated, though repetition helps to deepen the Narc’s programming of the Target.
What really amazes me is that Narcissists
do this stuff instinctively,
while the vast majority of the population
have no clue about these techniques.
Video is courtesy of the jjpersuader YouTube channel
Yes, I have a deep fascination of Mirroring. I also have a deep respect for it’s ability to influence and making it easy to manipulate others. It is a major Red Flag to watch for.
The video below discusses Mirror Neurons inside Human Brains.
Video is courtesy of the Integr8 YouTube channel
Must view video filled with insights about Love Bombing and other Red Flags.
Her new Lover was talking about Marriage very shortly after their first meeting. This woman became so Psychologically Manipulated by the Love Bombing, that she bought her Wedding Dress within the first 2 weeks of meeting that new Lover. Classic Love Bombing and Major Red Flag. Love Bombing worked faster than Brain Washing / Mind Control techniques. The new Lover was in the mean time also seeing another woman.
The person Love Bombing you, is also Mirroring you. That establishes a very deep rapport and trust in the mind of the victim being Psychologically Manipulated. That deep Rapport and Trust is something which keeps physical Abuse Victim in Abusive Relationship.
The Victim dismisses being kicked down a fight of stairs and reminds herself of the beginning of the relationship when the Love Bombing and Mirroring were going on at full speed. She tells herself that he was so sweet and so charming and amazing and so lovable. The fact that he now punches her in the head multiple times and gives her Black Eyes on a regular basis, does not dislodge the Mind Control established during the Love Bombing phase. The abuse is dismissed because she is still “in Love” with the fake Persona she met during the Love Bombing phase.
Love Bombing is not about Love. Love Bombing is strictly about establishing Control over the Victim.
Video is courtesy of the Truthball In Search of Goof YouTube channel
One thing to note is how this woman kept attracting Disordered Individuals. Christine De Canonville noted in a seminar that once you have been with a Disordered Individual, you have been primed and other Disordered Individuals will spot you in a crowd and target you.
A concise explanation of the power of using Mirroring and Matching. Narcissists are well versed in Mirroring and Matching. They use it all the time when Targeting someone.
Mirroring and Matching works, because the majority of people are consciously unaware of it. When you actively look for this major Red Flag and spot it’s use, you make it powerless.
It could be a danger signal, if you catch someone new persistently using Mirroring and Matching while interacting with you. In such a case, look for other Red Flags such as Love Bombing.
If you consistently spot multiple Red Flags, when with a particular person, then ask yourself why would they be using powerful Psychological Manipulation Techniques against you?
Learn about the Red Flags of Narcissists and then watch for them. Many websites discuss them. Many YouTube videos discuss them. Google is your friend, just do some Google searches…
Video is courtesy of the hypnosistoronto YouTube channel
What wouldn’t anyone give to meet their “Soul Mate“? Someone who is attentive and oh so charming. The constant texting and or phone calls to tell you that they “Love You”. They say the things which you so much want to hear. They are sweeping you off your feet.
If your new Love Interest is a Narcissist, they eventually will be sweeping you under the rug. They are oh so charming, until you find out why they were so charming. Wake up, they want something.
Your newly found “Soul Mate” Narcissist is Love Bombing you. That is a Psychological Manipulation Technique used to get you to drop your instinctive guard when meeting new people. They want to totally shutdown your natural fight or flight response. Once that response is shutdown, then they can take total control of you, yes you. Do you still think that you have met your “Soul Mate”?
The constant communications and contact with your newly found “Soul Mate”, is also helping to isolate you from other people. They know what they are doing, as they have had lots of prior practice. You on the other hand are naive and trusting. Been there, done that.
Like other videos by Beverly Banov Brown, I’m glad that I can share them here via YouTube. Her videos are to the point and I hope that everyone finds them to be informative.
Love Bombing is a major Red Flag to watch for. Narcissist hide their Love Bombing in plain sight. They use Love Bombing because it works. The same reason why they also use Mirroring while they are Love Bombing you. Narcissists are very well versed in both of these Psychological Manipulation Techniques.
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Potential victims are advised to watch carefully for Mirroring. Narcissists are very well adapt at Mirroring. Why? Because it works, allowing the Narcissist to quickly establish Rapport with their potential target.
When you know what to look for, you will spot it. I have watched Narcissists use Mirroring time and time again against potential targets, who had no clue that they were being manipulated.
Mirroring is very powerful, but can easily be spotted if you know what to look for…