Stephen Gane was found guilty and jailed for four years for coercive behaviour and ‘Gaslighting‘ in landmark case. He drove Kellie Sutton to hang herself, only five month after beginning a relationship with her.
Kellie was a Mother of 3 children. She had been single for a couple of years before she was targeted by Stephen Gane.
Her grieving family read the following in court: “Kellie was a daughter, a sister, a niece, a granddaughter, a great grand daughter and a mother. She was caring, funny, affectionate, bubbly and kind. She was a loyal friend – the kind of person who would go out of their way to help others. She could not bear to see anyone suffering and would put herself out to help anyone. She didn’t have a bad bone in her body.“
From this we can see that Kellie was an Empath. Disordered Individuals can spot an Empath from a mile away. Within weeks of meeting her Steven moved into “her house”.
Kellie’s friend had this to say “I told her to stay away from him because he seemed controlling.”. She disliked Stephen and you can be sure Stephen made sure that Kellie was kept away from her friends.
Stephen Gane denied hurting Kellie. He said they loved each other but their relationship was sometimes ‘volatile’. Disordered Individuals will never admit to doing anything wrong.
He was found guilty of actual bodily harm and one charge of assault by beating. One must assume that splitting her head open, was his way of showing his Love and Affection.
Disordered Individual will target someone (like you) to “USE” you. Note that Stephen Mane showed “No evidence of sadness or regret“. Disordered Individual could care less about others. They do not care how much pain and sorrow they create for others, as long they get what they WANT.
There are MILLIONS of Disordered Individuals, like Staphen Gane, out there. Please watch for the Red Flags. Please listen to your friends, who may spot odd behaviour which signal danger to them.
The only positive thing which will come from the death of this young woman is that she gave her life to spare her children untold horrors which were waiting for them. Imagine having someone like Stephen Gane being the father figure to her three kids? He would have destroyed those kids. Over the 5 months that he lived in Kellie’s house, I’m sure that her kids were tramatized. I hope that they can receive Psychiatric help to help get over the loss of their Mother and over the Traumas caused by Stephen Gane.
The most horrible thought is that he will get out of jail and will seek a new victim. Disordered Individuals cannot be fixed. Their brains are hard wired differently.
A relationship to a Disordered Individual, such as a Narcissist, is all about them gaining Control over their Target.
You will note one Major Red Flag and Danger Sign mentioned in this video. The Target/Victim became ISOLATED from Friends and Family. A Disordered Individual will work to isolate the Target. That allows greater control of the Target. As you become more and more Isolated, you will become much more vulnerable. Kellie Sutton became isolated and her only option to escape was Suicide.
Click on this link to read the Daily Mail article titled “Mother’s heartbreak after daughter was driven to suicide by her former soldier boyfriend as he is jailed for four years for coercive behaviour and ‘gaslighting’ in landmark case“.
Kristin Snowden discusses Gaslighting as a form of relational trauma. Her video hopes to help people identify how this Emotionally Abusive Behavior can be uncovered and overcome.
Long term exposure to relational trauma could lead to the development of Depression, Anxiety Disorders, PTSD and Complex PTSD.
Video is courtesy of the Kristin Snowden YouTube channel
Click on this Link to visit Kristin Snowden’s website.
Yes, this is a long video, but Kristin knows what she is talking about. I believe it is very informative and well worth watching. Kristin Snowden is an experienced Licensed Therapist.
Kristin Minto Snowden, LMFT
California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #81413
Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy Treating Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Intimacy, Betrayal Trauma (Infidelity), Divorce Recovery, and Family Issues.
One of our visitors had an eye opening experience being attacked on Social Media. Their Narcissistic Ex used Social Media to spread lies and rumors. Then the Flying Monkeys went to town attacking the Victim. It is also not unheard of, for a Narcissist to have multiple social media accounts and use different personas to attack and Gaslight their victim.
The victim was left dazed, confused and emotionally battered. The Narcissist probably had a huge grin and was likely oh so proud of themselves for emotionally devastating their target.
In the Narcissist’s mind, the Victim “deserved it”.
video is courtesy of the Angie Atkinson YouTube channel
When dealing with a problem Narcissist
on Social Media,
be prepared to
Expect the Unexpected from the Narcissist.
One of the most insidious and dangerous tools that a narcissist holds in their Armoury of abuse is a behavioural technique called “Gaslighting”.
Gaslighting is a most subtle and cunning Machiavellian behaviour used against the victim, where “nothing is ever as it seems”.
The Gaslighting Effect is truly a convoluted dance that involves mind games that all narcissists use for conditioning, grooming, indoctrinating, controlling, and altering their victim’s reality. The intention is to, in a systematic way, target the victim’s mental equilibrium, self-confidence, and self-esteem. Eventually they are no longer able to function in an independent way and believe that they are going mad.
On 24th June 2016 I’m running a workshop on Gaslighting, it’s effects and how to protect yourself and others.
In this workshop we shall take an in-depth look at:
1. Gaslighting: as a form of psychological warfare used against the victim in a deliberate and progressive way.
2. Expose how the “Narcissistic Puppet Master’s” lead the relationship through different phases; The Idealisation Stage, Devaluation Stage, and finally, the Discarding Stage.
3. Understanding the Plight of the Gaslighting Effect, and how it effects the victim.
4. Learn the warning “Red Flags” for staying safe.
5. Do a forensic analysis of a case study for understanding the narcissists subtle covert aggression.
THIS IS A WORKSHOP YOU DO NOT WANT TO MISS.
You’ll find all the information HERE or the link below for booking..
This workshop is being held in Dublin, Ireland on June 24th 2016
7 CPD points are awarded to all therapists who attend.
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New Gaslighting Workshop On The 22nd January 2016
|This post is courtesy of Christine Louis de Canonville|
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse used by narcissists in order to instill in their victim’s an extreme sense of anxiety and confusion, to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgment.
The techniques used in “Gaslighting” by the narcissist are similar to those used in brainwashing, interrogation, and torture that have been used in psychological warfare by intelligence operative, law enforcement and other forces for decades. The intention is to, in a systematic way, target the victim’s mental equilibrium, self confidence, and self esteem so that they are no longer able to function in an independent way, giving the narcissist full control over the victim.
This Gaslighting workshop is by Christine Louis de Canonville, who is an expert in this field.
Make sure to also add http://narcissisticbehavior.net to your favorite sites list. It is a superb resource shedding light on Narcissists. Knowledge is power and can prevent you from becoming used and abused.
Christine is also the author of the book titled: THE 3 FACES OF EVIL – Unmasking The Full Spectrum Of Narcissistic Abuse
Originally posted to www.uniquelynarcissistic.wordpress.com