Category: Getting back on track after Narcissistic Abuse

Long Term effects of Emotional Abuse. An interview with Emma Wicks

Narcissists will try to Gaslight the victim that their actions were not abusive or that any problems in the relationship are totally  the fault of the Victim. In the privacy of their shared home, the Disordered Individual will not give a 2nd thought to verbally and emotionally abusing their victim. But in public, their behavior changes to project a false image that are caring and loving, while the Victim is made out to be the abuser in the relationship. Crazy making is an apt description. Victims could end up with PTSD and Complex PTSD as a result of being exposed to long term Emotional Abuse.

Video is courtesy of the Kati Morton YouTube channel.

Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of the Trauma Bond — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of The Trauma Bond by Shahida Arabi “Free” by Alice Popkorn via Flickr. Creative Commons License. Ever had a victim-blamer claim you were “codependent”? That you in some way deserved the abuse, or that it was your fault? Let them know: codependency was a term historically used to describe […]

via Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of the Trauma Bond — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

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POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Pathological mind games. Covert and overt put-downs. Triangulation. Gaslighting. Projection. These are the manipulative tactics survivors of malignant narcissists are unfortunately all too familiar with. As victims of silent crimes where the perpetrators are rarely held accountable, survivors of narcissistic abuse have lived in a war zone of epic proportions, enduring an abuse cycle of […]

via POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis? Awesome article at Medical News Today

I really wish that I could repost this entire superb post about Narcissistic Abuse and the affect on their Victims. I’ll give a couple of excerpts, so you can get a taste of their article.

in the case of Jamie, whose husband makes her recite every day, “I’m only worth 29 cents – the price of a bullet,” he erodes her self-worth to nothing to keep her under his control. Who else could possible want such a worthless woman as she? With that belief, she will never leave him for good, although she makes many brief attempts to do so. She always returns. The brainwashing that continues day after day …

No matter which type of Narcissist he is, the end result is the same – a slow, insidious, breaking down of the self-esteem of his victims until there’s next to nothing left, at which point, the narcissist will frequently throw his partner out

Just click on the following line/link to visit the Medical News Website to read their extremely well written post titled: “

Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?”

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/10872.php

EMDR Therapy to treat Trauma

EMDR Treatment is fast. You could be talking about a few sessions with a Licensed Therapist trained in EMDR Therapy, versus months and years with other Therapies. EMDR Therapy could be one option to consider, for those with the symptoms of PTSD and Complex PTSD,

In this video Sabrina Weyeneth walks thru the steps of an EMDR session.

Video is courtesy of the Sabrina Weyeneth YouTube channel

Click on this Link to visit Sabrina Weyeneth’s website.

EMDR – Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy for Trauma, Complex Trauma, PTSD, Complex PTSD and past Narcissistic Abuse

This video was a 20/20 TV Show Report about EMDR Therapy.

EMDR Therapy could be one option to help those with sym[ptoms of PTSD or Complex PTSD. Beneficial results could potentially happen in just a handful of EMDR Therapy sessions, versus taking months and years using other Therapies.

Video is courtesy of the CalSouthern PSYCHOLOGY YouTube channel

Click on this Link to visit the California Southern University website to read their post titled: “EMDR:, Realities, Misconceptions, and Broader Applications.”

Quotes from Narcissistic Abuse Survivors

Quotes from the hearts of those who have been and sadly done that.

The post on the ladywithatruck.com could help abuse survivors realize that they were not alone. Others have gone through similar trials and tribulations, with their own Narcissists.

Some excerpts from the ladywithatruck.com post are as follows:

“My biggest frustration and source of anger, is at those who have refused to take a stand when they saw the abuse perpetrated by my N ex-husband. No matter how outrageous his behavior others often stood by and inadvertently fueled his denial”

“Now he is getting in touch again and I don’t know why (he loves me, more use out of me, to hurt me – but why??) and I am a wreck. He knows my buttons and he pushed them with finesses. I still feel the pull and though I consciously know he’s an asshole (sorry) and I am disgusted and furious,”

“Charming, seducing, angelic…..and lying, betraying, manipulating; these people carve a swath of misery in their wake. They damage the lives of almost everyone they encounter. And yet, we think it’s our fault that we tolerated their abuse”

“Men or women CANNOT express this confusing world to anybody who hasn’t been there. It is HELL on earth. And so is the recovery process.”

It is really sad reading of the misery which a Narcissistic Abuser can cause. I believe that there are two benefits from such quotes from Survivors.

First of all the Survivor benefits by putting in writing (so to speak) what they feel inside. In a way it is like talking about it to a friend. Getting it out, can help in the healing process.

Secondly the readers benefit. Survivors can confirm that others had gone through similar situations. They may no longer feel isolated. Some may feel ashamed that they had been used and abused. Anyone can be fooled by an expert in emotional manipulation techniques. You are not weak or gullible. Actually your kind heart makes you an amazing Human Being. Unfortunately, it also attracts Narcissists.

If you haven’t already, click on this line to visit the post on the ladywithatruck.com website titled “Quotes From Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse – QUOTES FROM SOME VICTIMS

It is not only the quotes which can be insightful. Scroll down that posting to view the comments section.

After Narcissistic Abuse, things to do so you can move forward

Excellent points are made in this video, about what to do during your recovery After Narcissistic Abuse.

Video is courtesy of the Inner Integration YouTube channel

Developing Complex PTSD Symptoms due to Narcissistic Abuse

Developing Complex PTSD Symptoms due to Narcissistic Abuse.

I believe that Victims of Narcissistic Abuse may end up with their natural Fight or Flight response having difficulty to fully shutoff. It keeps going off, when there is no danger. Then there are the Flashbacks.

Heart Breaking to listen to. If you can relate to things discussed in this video, please seek out Professional Medical Help, especially from a Medical Professional who has worked with Abuse Victims and PTSD.

It’s long dark tunnel and hard to find your way out of it. A trained and experienced Medical Professional could be the answer to helping you getting your life back and finally exiting that dark tunnel where that Narcissist had locked you in.

Video is courtesy of the Running from Chaos YouTube channel

“Rushing Intimacy” a Red Flag to watch for by Tracy Malone

Tracy Malone’s videos go into intimate details about of the Red Flags of the Narcissists who had crossed her path. In this video she discusses “Rushing Intimacy” as being a major Red Flag to watch out for. She also describes. from the Heart, what she is going thru while recovering from Narcissistic Abuse.

May I suggest to check out Tracy Malone’s YouTube channel. Really grateful that she allows the sharing of her superb videos.

Video courtesy of the Tracy Malone YouTube channel

“Lack of Object Constancy” is a Narcissistic Trait and Red Flag to watch for

This video discusses “Lack of Object Constancy” which is another Trait and Red Flag of a Narcissist to watch for.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome Facebook page.

The video below is posted by someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. She discusses a therapy session about Lack of Object Constancy. What she mentions, also applies to Narcissists. Note that she is actively seeking treatment via Therapy Sessions, which is something a Narcissist would rarely (if ever) do.

Video is courtesy of The Borderline Life YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit the Out of The Fog website to read their post titled : Lack of Object Constancy.

 

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“Trauma Bonding” with a Narcissist, could be harder to break than a Heroin Addiction.

Recovering from a Heroin Addiction is said to be easier to do, than to recover from Abusive Relationship with a Narcissist, if Trauma Bonding has occurred.

Sacha Slone discusses Trauma Bonding, which is something that could happen to Victims of Narcissistic Abuse.

Video is courtesy of the Sacha Slone YouTube channel

Sacha Slone discusses brain chemicals which could help keep the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse conditioned to remain in the relationship, not unlike a Drug Addiction. The biochemicals in the brain may also help create Trauma Bonding or Stockholm Syndrome.

The helplessness is learned, over time, using the Biochemistry created by using Reward and Punishment. Victims are trained to become dependent on the Narcissist.  People outside of the abusive relationship can never understand why the Victim cannot leave such a relationship.

Why Victims do not leave an abusive relationship. Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome

Victims of Narcissistic Abuse remain in abusive relationships. Victims of Narcissists, will often defend the Narcissist.

Trauma Bonding happens. It is also referred to as the Stockholm Syndrome. This informative video goes into more detail about Trauma Bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome.

Video is courtesy of the familytreecounseling YouTube channel

“Getting back on track after Narcissistic Abuse” by Leyla Loric

Leyla Loric gives some personal insight about “Getting back on track after Narcissistic Abuse“.

The hardest step is for one to leave an Abusive Relationship. The Emotional Pain remains and one has to learn to move on. It will not be easy. Many end up with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Seeking Help from Health Care Professionals who specialize in PTSD could help deal with the emotional trauma and recurring flashbacks.

The key to remember is that the lessons learned will help protect one from becoming sucked into a relationship by another abuser.

Christine Louis de Canonville mentioned something important during one of her seminars on Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome. That was: after becoming involved with a Narcissist you become primed and other Narcissists will pick you out of crowd and try to target you.

Watch for the Red Flags like Love Bombing and Mirroring. If you start seeing Red Flags, then trust your gut and it could be in your best interest to go “No Contact” with such an individual.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel