Category: Leyla Loric

Trauma Bonding explains why it is so hard to leave an Abusive Relationship

I find the Leyla Loric’s Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel to have a unique way of explaining that which is complex in their videos.

In the video below she outlines, in an easy to understand manner, how Trauma Bonding happens.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel

The repeating of the connection and disconnection. The Push followed by the Pull. Richard Bandler‘s NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) sheds some light on this. Love Bombing and Trauma Bonding both create major bonds between the Narcissist Abuser and his/her Victim. I’ll try to post something about that at a later date.

Briefly, I believe (your mileage may differ) Love Bombing and Trauma Bonding covertly put the Victim into a Deep Trance State.

It is a sign of Major Mind Control, when a women gets kicked down a flight of stairs, yet will not leave such an abusive relationship. Why? Because the women will tell you that they are still “in Love” with the abuser. Actually they mention the person they met at the start of the Love Bombing phase. The Fake Persona they were fed.

In my opinion, (your mileage may differ) victims of major physical abuse are not in Love with their Abuser. They have been repeatedly Anchored to go into a Deep Hypnotic Trance State, where they have been programmed to experience a huge rapport with the Abuser.

The black eyes and broken bones hurt far less than having to exit that Deep Hypnotic Trance State. Not unlike a heavy drug addiction to say Heroin. It is only when Victims leave such abusive relationships and those anchors and triggers are no longer fired off, that they can see the reality about their Abuser.

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“Getting back on track after Narcissistic Abuse” by Leyla Loric

Leyla Loric gives some personal insight about “Getting back on track after Narcissistic Abuse“.

The hardest step is for one to leave an Abusive Relationship. The Emotional Pain remains and one has to learn to move on. It will not be easy. Many end up with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Seeking Help from Health Care Professionals who specialize in PTSD could help deal with the emotional trauma and recurring flashbacks.

The key to remember is that the lessons learned will help protect one from becoming sucked into a relationship by another abuser.

Christine Louis de Canonville mentioned something important during one of her seminars on Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome. That was: after becoming involved with a Narcissist you become primed and other Narcissists will pick you out of crowd and try to target you.

Watch for the Red Flags like Love Bombing and Mirroring. If you start seeing Red Flags, then trust your gut and it could be in your best interest to go “No Contact” with such an individual.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel

How to stop Emotional Flashbacks. 4 Important Points to Remember

You are a Survivor. Your Nightmare Abusive Relationship is thankfully over. All is well, then something minor happens which changes your State. All of a sudden you have an Emotional Flashback, which darkens your day.

The 4 points discussed by Leyla Loric in this video, will help you to better understand what is happening. That knowledge could help you to deal with and stop those Emotional Flashbacks.

After a Flashback, you may feel the urge to contact your emotional abuser. Stay safe, by staying “No Contact“. By staying “No Contact” there is no way of you being Hoovered back into the abusive relationship which you had left.

In the past your Narcissist, Sociopath or Psychopath had picked you as a viable Target. You are now even more vulnerable and they will be more determined to suck you back in and then punish you for leaving them.

You increase your recovery from an abusive relationship by staying “No Contact”.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel