Category: Narcissism Survivor

Trauma Bonding with a Narcissist or Other Abuser. 10 Strategies to Get Free!

This site had been setup to try and help, by being a resource of information. WordPress.com hosts this site for me, at no charge. The advertising on this site is put there by WordPress, to help cover some of their costs. Because the site is hosted by WordPress for free, I am not allowed to place any advertising .

I believe that if one is trying to help, then one should not try to gain some benefit from providing said help. I “know” the damage a Narcissist can do to an Empathetic Human Being. I have attracted Narcs all my life. Why? Because I care and will try to help others. I have crossed paths with all sorts of Narcissists. They share many of the Red Flags.

I bring this up because I feel that there is a decent foundation of information found on this site and as such I have not posted much this year. Looking for something else, I recently came across some incredible videos created by a Therapist about Narcissists and how to Deal with them. She created the videos to try to help. I was blown away.

She has her name on the videos, but does not have any contact info. She does not ask for anything. She does not ask people to send money to fund the video site (as more than a few people do). She did it because she cares and will get no personally benefit. She also states in each video to share the material so that others may be helped. 

I will start to share Shannon Petrovich’s videos on this site. I firmly believe that “Going No Contact” is the only viable solution. But, it is easier to type that, than actually Going No Contact. Trauma Bonding is very real. The Narcissist’s Victim has also likely been isolated from any form of support, from Family or Friends. Narcs will demand that you get their permission to meet with members of your Family or Friends. By keeping you isolated, makes it easier to “Totally Control” you. Being kept isolated deepens the Trauma Bonding, making it Very Very hard to Go No Contact. This video explains the situation.

Video is courtesy of the Therapist Talks YouTube channel.

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Why you fell in Love with a Narcissist

A really good video, which explains how you became attached to your Narcissist.


Video is courtesy of the Balance Psychologies YouTube channel

Rule #5 Do not fix, care take, mend, or use any kind of psychological tools to change a Narcissist

…  This excellent post is courtesy of the Echo Got Her Voice blog at https://howechogothervoice.com

Echo Got Her Voice

AGAIN I REPEAT: Do not go to fixing, helping, and explaining. Ns will suck you in. This will result in basically explaining away all of their negative treatment. Receiving help from me was typically used in this manner. George K. Simon discusses in his book regarding dealing with disturbed characters, “Help is not chasing after someone to give them something we think is of value even when they haven’t asked for it and show no appreciation for it.” He goes on to explain that in offering help to someone who shows no willingness to change and has probably already heard the same thing many times, we inevitably end up in a position to be hurt and increase their ability to continue their bad behavior.

I choose men that need my help. According to my therapists, I fear real intimacy. The therapists say I feel unworthy of it in my own…

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Daughter of a Narcissist

Really good video about the serious repercussions of growing up as a daughter of a Narcissist Mother.

The title of this video is striking. Daughters of a Narcissist Mother lose out on so much of their childhood and teen years. The Narcissist Mother’s parenting has setup the daughter for an Adult life with a Narcissist for a husband.

The Daughters are in a way “Bred” to marry a Narcissist. Such a potentially sad waste of an innocent life.

Video is courtesy of the
Support for victims of Narcissism YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit a blog run by the woman who created the above video. This blog is called “Narcissism Survivor“.

The woman who created the above video also runs a Google+ blog titled “Support for Victims of Narcissism“.

If you grew up with a Narcissist for a Mother, please visit this lady’s blogs (especially Support for Victims of Narcissism) and watch her YouTube channel videos.

UPDATE – found yet another blog run by this lady. Click on this line to visit her site called 30 Year Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse: Making Sense of It All.