This video brings forward an interesting point, that Narcissists have a need to be in the physical presence of their Targets. Pretending to be “oh so special” over the phone or via email does not cut it. Narcissists need to be in the physical presence of those whom they target.
That is also a defining difference between say a rather Malignant Narcissist and a Psychopath. Both share many traits, yet a Psychopath does not need to spend time with their target.
A Narcissist gets Narcissistic Supply by being in the physical presence of their Target. That is a Red Flag to watch for. Narcissists will also try to isolate their Target, so that the Target does not spend any time being physically away with family or friends. Trying to Isolate the Target/Victim is a Major Red Flag.
Even in a work environment, a malignant Narcissist who plays Lord over the office will consistently call pointless meetings just so that they could be in the physical presence of their target(s). Psychopaths do not have this form of insecurity.
Video courtesy of the Permission To Exist YouTube Channel
Watch for this Red Flag.
Narcissists get their Narcissistic Supply by being in the physical presence of their Target/Victim.
Dr. Todd Grande describes Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder as outlined in the DSM 5, is characterized by
– a grandiose sense of self-importance,
– a preoccupation with unlimited success, feeling too special to be understood by regular people,
– needing excessive admiration,
– a sense of entitlement,
– being interpersonally exploitative,
– having a lack of empathy,
– being envious and others and believe others are envious of them,
– and being arrogant.
Video is courtesy of the Dr. Todd Grande YouTube channel
Even the slightest criticism is not well received by most people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. IMHO I believe it is because they have internalized rather Low Self Esteem.
Video is courtesy of the Dr. Todd Grande YouTube channel
Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter describes 7 mind games commonly played by a Narcissist, and outlines ways to stay clear of them.
Video is courtesy of the Surviving Narcissism YouTube Channel.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula, psychologist and author, discusses the differences between Psychopaths, Sociopaths and Narcissists.
Video is courtesy of the MedCircle YouTube Channel.
Quote “A Narcissist’s Love is when the other person’s happiness is so unimportant, that it is never even considered.”
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The Slandering Narcissist
How to Thrive in a World of Lying, Backstabbing and Dirty Tricks.
Dealing with workplace Psychopaths, Machiavellians, and Narcissists.
This video is a radio interview with Oliver James who is a psychologist, bestselling author and broadcaster. He details the workplace colleagues who have no compunction about trampling over others, or like nothing more than to plot and scheme, or who drone on endlessly about themselves.
This is a great post from the Flying Monkeys Denied website.
The following are a few quotes from their very good post:
“It’s totally normal for a person with a Cluster B personality disorder to pathologically lie, gaslight, and smear campaign.”
“Every narcissistic person you know who actively badmouths another person or group without that person or stereotype represented is keeping a major secret from you.”
“Guess what, “Narcissistic Supply Source”? If you think a narcissistic person is trustworthy because of their special interest or attachment to you, nothing could possibly be further from the truth.”
“Narcissistic people get off emotionally and psychologically based on the thought of getting away with something. They only show remorse for their actions when and if they are caught.”
To read the complete post, just click on the photo above or on the Source link below. That will take you to the Flying Monkeys Denied website, which is an excellent resource well worth adding to your Bookmarked sites list.
This is an excellent run down by Cosmopolitan magazine, of Ten Traits of Narcissists.
Kira Peikoff, the author of that article, has done an excellent job. Her post is clear and to the point.
There is a link further down, so that you can read Kira Peikoff’s complete article on the Cosmo website.
From her list, Traits #1, #2 and #10 I fully agree with. Trait #10 is also not often spoken about.
1. Narcissists have zero tolerance for shame.
2. The fragile, insecure core of a narcissist has roots in childhood.
10. Narcissists are emotionally stuck at a toddler’s age.
From her list, Trait #9 I disagree with. Narcissists are hard wired. No amount of trying to motivate them to change will succeed. The only way that a Narcissist would change is if you suddenly became a high grade Source of Narcissistic Supply.
For example if you won a multi million dollar prize in a lottery. That would turn you into top high grade Source of Narcissistic Supply. A Narcissistic will look up to a such a High Grade Source of Supply and could change to keep such a Source of Supply. That is until the Narcissistic has found an even Higher Grade Source of Supply.
9. Narcissists may be motivated to change if there is a meaningful consequence to their bad behavior.
Click on this line to be taken to the Cosmopolitan magazine Website to read article by Kira Peikoff.
This video give one an insight into
“What Narcissists are really thinking“.
To Narcissist there are two kinds of Sources of Narcissist Supply. They will feed off a Low Grade/Quality Source, when they can’t manage to trap a High Grade/Quality Source of Narcissistic Supply.
The Narcissist is the Standard used to judge the quality of their Source of Narcissistic Supply.
If the Supply Source is better Educated (this is major consideration with “Cerebral Narcissists“) then it is deemed to be a High Grade/Quality Source. If you make more money or have a higher job title, then again you are deemed to be a Good High Grade/Quality Source of Supply. If you are physically better looking, then again you are a High Grade/Quality Source of Supply.
Being classified as a High Grade/Quality Source of Narcissistic Supply guarantees really awesome sex. The Narcissist wants to impress such a sex partner. They will get a rush if they can sexually impress a High Grade/Quality Source of Narcissistic Supply. Narcissists always look up to people whom they consider to be a good High Grade/Quality Source of Supply.
On the opposite end of the stick is what Narcissists classify as a Bad or Poor, Low Grade/Quality Source of Narcissist Supply. This type or person will not be someone whom the Narcissist will ever look up to. Such a person will likely be far less educated (again a major big deal with Cerebral Narcissists) than the Narcissist. The person will earn far less money. They will have a much lower job title. This is the type of person that the Narcissist disdains. But since a High Grade/Quality Source of Supply is unavailable, they will feed off the Low Grade/Quality Source.
Since they do not look up to and actually have a disdain for such a Low Grade/Quality Source, the Sex will be far from satisfactory. To a Narcissist, Sex with a Low Grade/Quality Source of Supply is not much different than Masturbation.
To top things off the Narcissist will then complain to the Low Grade/Quality Source of Supply, that it was the Source’s fault for the lousy sex. It takes two to Tango, but the Narcissist could care less to Tango in this case. The Low Grade/Quality Source of Supply ends up with a lowered sense of self after such sex. Perfect for the Narcissist, because it makes the Low Grade Source of Supply easier to further manipulate.
Empathy for Others is one trait which defines us as Human Beings.
Narcissists lack that trait.
The Total Lack of Empathy for Others, is commonly found among Narcisists, Sociopaths, Histrionics and Psychopaths. “Spiritless Humans” is another interesting take, on such individuals.
Please click on either the photo below, or on the link at the bottom of this page, to be taken to the Wake Up World site to read their full multi page article.