Category: Narcissist

Charming Narcissists are the most dangerous

 

Charming Narcissists are the most dangerous.

Yes, even more dangerous than a Malignant Narcissist.

A Charming Narcisist will suck you in, with their charm and huge tooth filled smile. A friend of mine described one to be much like a Spider. Once they trap you in their web, they will feed off you.

A Malignant Narcissist on the other hand, does not care what impression they are making. All they care about is getting their way or what they want. Much easier to pick out and stay away from. No Contact works best,  if you can.

Dr. George Simon has written another great post about Charming Narcissists. In the past I had been targeted and fell into the web created by more than one Charming Narcissist. Thankfully I now know what to look for. Knowledge is the Key.

I have watched a major Narcissist target and mirror someone while there were many others around. No one picked up on the fact that the Narc was Mirroring. It was blatent, and in plain sight. The body position of the narc was dramatically and quickly changed to match the body position of the prey. Hands and arms postions were mirrored. Once positioned the Narc turned on the Charm, pretending to care. The only person that Narcissists care about are themselves. Because it was so blatant, it stands out in my mind.

Click on the following link to visit Dr. George Simon’s website to read his superb article titled
“Charming Narcissists Manipulate Well”

Click on the following link to visit the Psychology Today website to read their post by Nina W. Brown Ed.D, titled
“Beware the Charming Narcissist
How you get sucked in.”

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Understanding Manipulation Tactics by Dr. George Simon

Understanding Manipulation Tactics.

Dr. George Simon was a past President of the Arkansas Psychological Association, and is a Board Certified Diplomate in Forensic and Clinical Psychology. Before retiring, Dr George Simon was a supervising psychologist for the Arkansas Dept. of Correction. You could correctly say that he is an Expert on the behaviour of Narcissists and Psychopaths. In his private practice he helped individuals trapped in relationships with personality disordered individuals.


Video is courtesy of the George Simon YouTube Channel


Video is courtesy of the George Simon YouTube Channel

When dealing with Narcissists, knowledge is power. When you know what behaviours to watch for, you can learn to pickout Narcissitic individuals. You may get a glimpse of what  may lay behind their mask.

Knowledge may help to prevent you from
becoming their next prey.

8 things a Narcissist cannot do for you. Posted on the A Conscious Rethink blog

Wendy Behary discusses strategies to help one deal with Narcissists.

Wendy Behary discusses strategies to help one deal with Narcissists. Wendy has more than two decades experience treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists. She is one of the founders of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey.

Video is courtesy of the Dr. Kimberley Taylor YouTube channel

Dr. Taylor interviews Author and Therapist Wendy Behary. She wrote the book:

Book cover image courtesy of Amazon.com

Click on the following link to visit amazon.com to view the book “Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed”.

One important point which Wendy Behary makes (around the 35:45 minute mark) is to set limits and boundaries and she has suggestions on how to do that. One way is to limit your exposure to the Narcissist, by having limited to no contact with the Disordered Individual.

In a work environment, if you do limit the Narcissist’s access to you then watch for the Narcissist moving into Back Stabbing and Smear Campaign mode. When you stop providing Narcissistic Supply, a Narcissist could work to get you fired and or destroy your reputation.

Click on this Link to visit the http://psychotherapyjournal.org site with a post featuring another interview with Wendy BeharyAlong with a video they have posted a written PDF transcript which you can download and read by clicking on their PDF link at the top of their screen Transcript. It gives one some insight how a 3rd party such as a Therapist might view a Narcissist’s behaviour. IMHO well worth downloading and reading their PDF Transcript.

How to treat someone who treats you badly

Ran across this post on the Experience Project site.

Click on this Link to visit the Experience Project to the read the post titled: “How To Treat A Guy That Treats You Bad.

See if you can pick up on some of the Narcissist’s Red Flags in that post. Things like Love Bombing, Blame Shifting and not taking responsibility for their actions (it’s always your fault).

Quote “You had no prior knowledge of Narcissists, Sociopaths or Psychopaths. Your Abusive Partner immediately picked up on that.”

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Differences between Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Malignant Narcissism, and Psychopathy by Rhonda Freeman Ph.D.


Rhonda Freeman, Ph.D. details the differences between Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Malignant Narcissism, and Psychopathy. There are great similarities and also major differences. It’s a spectrum of disorders.

Video is courtesy of the Rhonda Freeman, PhD YouTube channel


Click on this link to visit Rhonda Freeman’s facebook page called Neuroinstincts.

Quote: “3 things a Narcissist is sure to break: Promises, Trust and Your Heart.”

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Quote:3 things a Narcissist is sure to break: Promises, Trust and Your Heart.

Character Matters with Dr. George Simon – 2/19/2017

Dr. George Simon has an internet radio program at URL: ICY.TV, called “Character Matters.

Click on the following link to listen to the Feb 19 2017 archive (MP3 file) of his program which was about Narcissists.

Dr. George K. Simon is a clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience working with people who have character disturbances and use covert aggression.

Dr. Simon’s book titled “In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People”, has been an International Best Seller for many years..

Click on the following Link to learn more about Dr. Simon’s International Bestseller titled “In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People”, on Amazon.com.

Click on the following link to go to Dr. George Simon’s website.

Click on this link to visit the official Dr. George Simon facebook page.

Quote “Good Luck trying to get Love, Honesty, Truth or Respect from a Narcissist.”

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Quote:Good Luck trying to get Love, Honesty, Truth or Respect from a Narcissist.

Trauma Bonding. When you can not let go of the Narcissist.


Video is courtesy of the Inner Integration YouTube channel.

Trauma Bonding (also known as Stockholm Syndrome) can keep you in an abusive relationship with a Narcissist.

Meredith Miller also touches on something very important, that being the core wound which was created during your childhood.

How a relationship with a Narcissist can derail you

 

In my opinion, the worst part of any kind of relationship with a Narcissist, happens when the relationship ends. That is when Narcissists start their Back Stabbing and Smear Campaign directed against you. The damage can be both Financial (at your job), as well as Emotional.

Their Back Stabbing and Smear Campaign is the Narcissist’s gift to you, which just keeps on giving….

The song “Weightless” by Marconi Union, was found to reduce Anxiety by 65 Percent

A medical study has been discussed on some internet sites, which apparently found a particular song to reduce anxiety level by over 60% and increased one’s resting state by over 30%. I have not been able to find a source document.

Apparently a Neuroscience study was done by Mindlab International and it found that the song titled “Weightless” by Marconi Union reduced anxiety levels over 60% and increased one’s physical resting state by over 30%.

So I went on YouTube and listened to the 10 hour version (no not for 10 hours). There was a definite change of state. Please do not listen to this song while driving any moving vehicle, nor when operating any machinery.

I know from experience that being around Narcissists can increase my anxiety level. Listening to this song could possibly help to reduce one’s anxiety, after having an interaction with a Cluster-B Disordered Individual.

 Video is courtesy of the JustMusicTV YouTube channel

Click on this line to read a post about the MindLab Study on the inc.com website. That article also lists nine other songs which are supposed to reduce levels of anxiety.

I checked the song out on a media player which had an audio spectrum analyzer. You can’t readily hear it, but the Bass in this song follows a human heart beat when at rest. It can work to slow your heart rate. Visually seeing the Bass on the analyzer follow a human resting heart rate, was a surprise. Very well crafted song.

Stress at work can affect your health and well being. If you also find one or more Narcissists at your workplace (been there, done that), then you have to cope with double the stress. A medical study discusses the health issues which Workplace related Stress creates. Click on this line to visit the behavioralpolicy.org website, to read  that medical research study titled “Workplace stressors & health outcomes: Health policy for the workplace”.

The authors of that medical study are Joel Goh who is affiliated with Harvard Business School and Jeffrey Pfeffer who is affiliated with Stanford University.


Jeffrey Pfeffer video: “Is Your Workplace Killing You?” is courtesy of the Stanford Graduate School of Business YouTube channel

How To Attract A Woman By Mirroring Her. Mirroring is Psychological Manipulation Technique used by Narcissists.

Detailed description of how to Mirror people, to influence them. Mirroring is a Major Red Flag to watch for. It is a Mind Control Technique used by Narcissists.

Video is courtesy of the Fredo Hill YouTube channel

If you catch someone Mirroring you and they are Extraordinarily Charming and they always seem to be the Center of Attention when around people,  you may want to visit google.com and do a search on Narcissist Red Flags.

The punch you don’t see coming.. — Cristian Mihai

In boxing, it’s always the punch you don’t see coming that knocks you down. The punch you weren’t expecting, the punch you never thought would hit you. Life is just like that. It’s the bizarre coincidences we never even dared take into consideration, with an even stranger ramification of consequences. And in the ensuing chaos, […]

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Playing word games with a Narcissist is playing with fire and you’re the one who could get burned

I was reading a blog post (on another site) about a woman who had borrowed her Narcissist’s car, to visit a Doctor to get some surgical stitches removed. If all went well she would have plenty of time to pickup the Narcissist.

Complications took extra time and she arrived almost 1/2 hour late to pickup the Narcissist.

Instead of asking how things went at the Doctor, the Narc verbally laid into the lady because she was late. The Woman was still in severe pain from getting surgical stitches removed. So what!  Narcissists do not care about you. They only care about themselves.

She called him on his callous responses to her. He never did ask how the Doctor’s visit went.

Possibly due to the Doctor’s visit, the lady stood up to the Narc’s Verbal Abuse and called him a Bully. Her standing up for herself pissed the Narc off. He raised his arm and it looked like he was about to strike the woman, but he was able to control himself. She then told him to go ahead and hit her.

The following is my two cents worth “opinion”:

When you are being Verbally Abused, leave the situation if possible. At a Red Light, exit the car and tell the Narc that you will see him at home. That stops the verbal abuse. The Narc expects to belittle you, to gain control over you in this situation. By leaving the situation, you are going No Contact – if only for a short time.

By leaving, you deescalate the situation. You also take power away from Narc, because he will no longer be able to verbally abuse you.

In my opinion it was not a good idea to goad a Narcissist, by telling them to Go Ahead and Hit you. Legally you are giving them permission. If you call the Police, the Narc is great at playing the innocent one and playing people.

Hey, he could tell the Police Officer that you and him are into S&M Sex, but only when the other party gives permission. He could say that you gave him permission to hit you. If it goes to family Court, the Narc’s Lawyer will twist your statement against you. The key is that you will admit that you told him to hit you. Never give any abuser that kind of remark. Talk to your local Law Enforcement Authority about how saying something like that, could tie up the hands of the Police Officers and the Court.

You goaded your Narc, by telling him to hit you. So he goes ahead and hits you. Do you think that it will stop with one single punch??? If Narcissistic Rage takes over your Narcissist, your face could become black and blue with blood running down your broken nose. After they wire your lower jaw back in place, you will be having dinner via a straw for a long time. When you are finally allowed to eat solid food, you could find it difficult to chew due to all the missing teeth that your Narc knocked out.

Do not play with fire. A friend ended up in the Hospital for months after her Malignant Narcissist went to town on her. Her horrific experience is what motivated the creation of this blog.

Speak to your Lawyer and to Local Law Enforcement about your legal rights regarding Domestic Violence and Abuse. Ask them how it could harm your legal position if you told the Narcissist to hit you. There is also info about the US Domestic Abuse Hotline with phone number visible on the main page of this blog. Also a link in the large menu at the top of the Blog. It is a resource which could be of great help. Call and find out how they can help you.

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Never forget that Narcissists are Disordered Individuals. If Narcissistic Rage takes over, then you have no idea just how much physical damage they can do to you. Do not play with fire. Do not goad any Abuser by telling them to Hit You. Every year, people die at the hands of their Abuser.

Disclaimer: The above is just “my opinion”. It is not meant to be any kind of Legal Advice. Do your own due diligence and seek out your own Legal Counsel.

Quote: “Some say to: “Do good for others. It will come back in an unexpected way.” It’s True for Narcs: “Do good for a Narcissist, and it will come back as an Unexpected Back Stabbing Smear Campaign against you.”

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Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis? Awesome article at Medical News Today

I really wish that I could repost this entire superb post about Narcissistic Abuse and the affect on their Victims. I’ll give a couple of excerpts, so you can get a taste of their article.

in the case of Jamie, whose husband makes her recite every day, “I’m only worth 29 cents – the price of a bullet,” he erodes her self-worth to nothing to keep her under his control. Who else could possible want such a worthless woman as she? With that belief, she will never leave him for good, although she makes many brief attempts to do so. She always returns. The brainwashing that continues day after day …

No matter which type of Narcissist he is, the end result is the same – a slow, insidious, breaking down of the self-esteem of his victims until there’s next to nothing left, at which point, the narcissist will frequently throw his partner out

Just click on the following line/link to visit the Medical News Website to read their extremely well written post titled: “

Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?”

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/10872.php