Category: Narcissistic Abuse Survivors

Using EFT Tapping To Clear Patterns of Self-Sabotage

In this video Nick Ortner describes how EFT Tapping works.

Video is courtesy of the Wanderlust YouTube Channel

 

The Tapping Solution documentary

Those who have crossed paths with Malignant Narcissists often suffer from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Narcissistic Abuse Survivors can seem to be shattered and it becomes difficult to get back to being the person that one was before having crossed paths with the Narcissist.

I believe that one should seek out Therapy from qualified Medical Practitioners. There are also things that may help, as an addition to therapy. Medical Cannabis has been shown to be helpful to those suffering from PTSD. There was a New York Times best selling book titled “The Tapping Solution”, which detailed a unique process which may be used to help with PTSD symptoms among other things. I am not a Medical Doctor, but have found Tapping to be helpful.

This video is courtesy of The Tapping Solution YouTube Channel

 

Nick Ortner the author of The Tapping Solution has produced a documentary and has made it available to view for free for a period of time. Click on this link to visit the webpage where one can view The Tapping Solution Documentary at no charge. Please note that the No Charge viewing is for a limited time.

Please note that I am not affiliated with the Nick Ortner of The Tapping Solution. I set this site up to try to help others by posting information. I have never and will never use this site to try and generate money. The ads which pop up on this site are placed by WordPress, who kindly host this website at no charge to me.

Surviving the Narcissist. A personal experience of Narcissist Emotional Manipulation and Abuse!

The presenter of this video discusses his personal experience with Narcissist Emotional Manipulation and Abuse! To hear someone else discuss their experience with a Narcissist can be cathartic, in that you can see and hear that what happened to you was never your fault.

You were not to blame. You were a targeted victim.

 

Video is courtesy of the Farrah Voss YouTube channel

Interview with a Wife Beater

Video is courtesy of the 60 Minutes Australia YouTube Channel

Listen to the video and how the wife beater make excuses. He plays the cat and mouse game. He admits that he did wrong, then does not and makes excuses.

The video shot by his son shows that he threw his wife to the ground. Yet he states that he just wanted to give her a hug. He would not admit throwing her to the ground. Shoots back with a question: “Did I throw her to the ground?”.

He tries to shift the blame to the victim by saying that he does not know what his wife has said. Yet the video clearly shows him throwing his wife to the ground.

He thinks that there is no difference between saying that he repeatedly punched his wife in the head and giving her “taps”. He says that gave his wife “a couple of taps in the bathroom“. Changes the situation to be the fault of the wife.

He was asked if he believes that he was a “Monster”. He comes back saying that no he is not. A Malignant Narcissist will not admit that they did anything wrong. He says that he just “tapped” his wife, yet there is photo in the video of his wife with two black eyes. One must assume that to him it was OK to just “tap” his wife and that it was his wife’s fault that she ended up with two black eyes.

IMHO you cannot heal or change a Malignant Narcissist. IMHO, the best protection is to Go No Contact and work with the local Police and the Legal Courts.

The Heart Breaking story of Lorena Bobbitt

Why you fell in Love with a Narcissist

A really good video, which explains how you became attached to your Narcissist.


Video is courtesy of the Balance Psychologies YouTube channel

Depression, Exhaustion, and assorted Anxiety Disorders could be caused by Narcissistic Abuse

This young woman was in an emotionally abusive relationship. Long-term exposure to stress could cause numerous Anxiety Disorders, along with feelings of Exhaustion and Depression.

Video is courtesy of the Healing from Bad Relationships YouTube channel

Narcissistic Abuse is the Narcissist’s gift that just keeps on giving and destroying the potential for a life which the victim “could have lived”.

Rule #5 Do not fix, care take, mend, or use any kind of psychological tools to change a Narcissist

…  This excellent post is courtesy of the Echo Got Her Voice blog at https://howechogothervoice.com

Echo Got Her Voice

AGAIN I REPEAT: Do not go to fixing, helping, and explaining. Ns will suck you in. This will result in basically explaining away all of their negative treatment. Receiving help from me was typically used in this manner. George K. Simon discusses in his book regarding dealing with disturbed characters, “Help is not chasing after someone to give them something we think is of value even when they haven’t asked for it and show no appreciation for it.” He goes on to explain that in offering help to someone who shows no willingness to change and has probably already heard the same thing many times, we inevitably end up in a position to be hurt and increase their ability to continue their bad behavior.

I choose men that need my help. According to my therapists, I fear real intimacy. The therapists say I feel unworthy of it in my own…

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6 Steps to Emotional Healing after Narcissistic Abuse by Kim Saeed

Superb Video by Kim Saeed. Narcissistic Abuse could result in Complex Trauma.

Kim details six steps which could help one to deal with the Trauma caused by Narcissistic Abuse. Highly Recommended.

Video is courtesy of the Kim Saeed YouTube channel

Click on this link to visit Kim Saeed’s website called “Let Me Reach”.

Click on this Link to visit Kim Saeed’s Twitter page.

Click n this link to visit the facebook page of Kim Saeed.

Avaialble on amazon.com is Kim Saeed’s book titled :

 

Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of the Trauma Bond — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of The Trauma Bond by Shahida Arabi “Free” by Alice Popkorn via Flickr. Creative Commons License. Ever had a victim-blamer claim you were “codependent”? That you in some way deserved the abuse, or that it was your fault? Let them know: codependency was a term historically used to describe […]

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Copyright Shahida Arabi. Our thanks go out to Shahida Arabi for allowing this to be shared here.

 

POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Pathological mind games. Covert and overt put-downs. Triangulation. Gaslighting. Projection. These are the manipulative tactics survivors of malignant narcissists are unfortunately all too familiar with. As victims of silent crimes where the perpetrators are rarely held accountable, survivors of narcissistic abuse have lived in a war zone of epic proportions, enduring an abuse cycle of […]

via POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis? Awesome article at Medical News Today

I really wish that I could repost this entire superb post about Narcissistic Abuse and the affect on their Victims. I’ll give a couple of excerpts, so you can get a taste of their article.

in the case of Jamie, whose husband makes her recite every day, “I’m only worth 29 cents – the price of a bullet,” he erodes her self-worth to nothing to keep her under his control. Who else could possible want such a worthless woman as she? With that belief, she will never leave him for good, although she makes many brief attempts to do so. She always returns. The brainwashing that continues day after day …

No matter which type of Narcissist he is, the end result is the same – a slow, insidious, breaking down of the self-esteem of his victims until there’s next to nothing left, at which point, the narcissist will frequently throw his partner out

Just click on the following line/link to visit the Medical News Website to read their extremely well written post titled: “

Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?”

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/10872.php

After the betrayal of Narcissistic Abuse…

Lisa A. Romano wrote:

If you’ve loved a narcissist, you may feel completely exposed and turned inside out. The pain is unlike any breakup you’ve ever experienced because it feels like these people have been able to infiltrate every cell of your being. Even though intellectually you may feel you need to end the relationship, on a cellular level you seem shaken to your core.

Symptoms of narcissistic abuse are shock, betrayal, confusion, depression, rage, anger, irritability, low tolerance for noise, and mindless conversations. You may find yourself wanting to be alone. You don’t feel like anyone could ever understand your pain. You may have trouble sleeping, eating, or thinking straight. Sometimes we experience physical symptoms, like upset stomachs, hair loss, and various other stress related acute responses.

Loving yourself after Narcissistic Abuse can be challenging, but its essential.”

Video is courtesy of the Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc. YouTube channel

The hardest to bear is when others do not believe you when you share what the Narcissist did to you.

Most people will never understand that which they have never gone through.

They can thank their lucky stars, that they have not experienced the abuse and devastating betrayal of a Narcissist.

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After Narcissistic Abuse. Personal insights from a Victim of Narcissist Abuse.

Laura has been through the emotional roller coaster of a relationship with a Narcissist. Her video offers many helpful insights.

She speaks about “now being able to spot” the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists and “understanding their Game“. IMHO that is extremely important. When one starts seeing multiple Red Flags on a consistent basis, then one has a much better idea of who (or what) they are interacting with. Knowledge gives one the power to make informed decisions, including whether to get into a relationship with a potential Cluster-B Disordered individual such as a Narcissist.

It was interesting to note that her Mother was Narcissistic. There does seem to be a connection between women who attract Narcissists and the fact that they were brought up by a Narcissistic Mother.

Video is courtesy of the LauraBlue YouTube channel

It confirmed how damaging Narcissists can be, when you hear this Victim of Narcissistic Abuse, speak about her negative self talk and feelings of “not being good enough”.

Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

This is another really good resource for woman who grew up with Narcissist Mothers. It is a blog run by Michelle Piper, a Psychotherapist who specializes in working with survivors of Narcissistic Abuse.

Click on this Link to visit the NarcissisticMother.com blog to read their post titled: “Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers“.

Daughter of a Narcissist

Really good video about the serious repercussions of growing up as a daughter of a Narcissist Mother.

The title of this video is striking. Daughters of a Narcissist Mother lose out on so much of their childhood and teen years. The Narcissist Mother’s parenting has setup the daughter for an Adult life with a Narcissist for a husband.

The Daughters are in a way “Bred” to marry a Narcissist. Such a potentially sad waste of an innocent life.

Video is courtesy of the
Support for victims of Narcissism YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit a blog run by the woman who created the above video. This blog is called “Narcissism Survivor“.

The woman who created the above video also runs a Google+ blog titled “Support for Victims of Narcissism“.

If you grew up with a Narcissist for a Mother, please visit this lady’s blogs (especially Support for Victims of Narcissism) and watch her YouTube channel videos.

UPDATE – found yet another blog run by this lady. Click on this line to visit her site called 30 Year Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse: Making Sense of It All.

After they Isolate you, then they can start the Physical Abuse

Click on this Link to visit the Healthy Place website to read their post titled “Isolation and Domestic Abuse: How Abusers Isolate Victims“.

The most striking thing about Physical Abuse is that victims were first “Isolated”.They moved out of New York City to some small town. They moved to a remote cottage. They married and lived in another part of the country, away from the Victim’s family and Friends. The Victim was emotionally restrained from going away to visit with Friends and Family. The Victim’s Father was dying in the Hospital and yet the Abuser would not let the Victim leave to be with her Father.

Abusers cannot control a Victim from a distance. Abusers maintain their power and control over the Victim, by enforcing the Victim’s silence. If the Victim visits their family, they might speak of the horrors being done to the Victim. Once the abuse is out in the open, the Abuser starts to lose much of the power and control over their Victim.

The abuser will present tons of semi logical excuses for moving the Victim away from their Family and Friends. They will start a new life together…BS…more BS…some more BS….and even more BS.

When the Victim has no one else to help her, she becomes totally dependent on the Abuser. To make the situation worse, the Abuser may become the sole income earner. Rather hard to leave when you have no money.

Isolation is a Major Red Flag. If you do not allow yourself to become isolated, then you will not become dependent on your Lover and potential abuser. Note that the abuse does not start until the victim has been isolated.

Learn about the Red Flags displayed by Disordered Individuals. Then watch for them.

The more Red Flags that you spot, the more questions you should have of the individual displaying those Red Flags.

She loved him, even after he had held a loaded gun to her head

Your lover punches you in head. Your Lover pushes you down a flight of stairs. Your Lover threatens to kill your dog. Your Lover puts a gun loaded with Hollow Point Bullets to your head and threatens to pull the trigger.

How hard can it be to leave such a violent relationship? Extraordinarily DIFFICULT.

Just ask Leslie Morgan Steiner. She would not leave because she “Loved him”.

In my opinion she loved the false persona which she met at the very beginning of her relationship. That Brain Washed and Psychologically Manipulated her. The beginning of a relationship with a Disordered individuals is commonly called the Love Bombing phase.

It worked on Leslie. The following are her words about the man who did all those horrible things to her: “No one in my life had ever made me feel so safe, loved, beautiful and validated as he did during the early months of our relationship.“. Leslie was disconnected from reality. She dismissed the abuse and remained focused on the Prince Charming act she was given during the Love Bombing phase.That is the result of Trauma Bonding.

Click on this link to visit The Washington Post and read the article written by Leslie Morgan Steiner describing why she stayed in a horribly abusive relationship.

You can email Leslie Morgan Steiner at leslie@lesliemorgansteiner.com

Click on this link to visit the official Leslie Morgan Steiner website.

Click on this Link to visit the official Leslie Morgan Steiner Facebook page.

Click on this Link to visit Amazon.com to learn more about Leslie Morgan Steiner‘s book titled “Crazy Love”.