Category: Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome Recovery and Healing

Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of the Trauma Bond — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of The Trauma Bond by Shahida Arabi “Free” by Alice Popkorn via Flickr. Creative Commons License. Ever had a victim-blamer claim you were “codependent”? That you in some way deserved the abuse, or that it was your fault? Let them know: codependency was a term historically used to describe […]

via Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of the Trauma Bond — Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

Copyright Shahida Arabi. Our thanks go out to Shahida Arabi for allowing this to be shared here.

 

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Recovery and Changes after leaving her Narcissist and going No Contact

She states that she “needed” to get out of her relationship with a Narcissist. After going No Contact, Laura describes some of her changes on her journey of Recovery.

Video is courtesy of the LauraBlue YouTube channel

After Narcissistic Abuse. Personal insights from a Victim of Narcissist Abuse.

Laura has been through the emotional roller coaster of a relationship with a Narcissist. Her video offers many helpful insights.

She speaks about “now being able to spot” the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists and “understanding their Game“. IMHO that is extremely important. When one starts seeing multiple Red Flags on a consistent basis, then one has a much better idea of who (or what) they are interacting with. Knowledge gives one the power to make informed decisions, including whether to get into a relationship with a potential Cluster-B Disordered individual such as a Narcissist.

It was interesting to note that her Mother was Narcissistic. There does seem to be a connection between women who attract Narcissists and the fact that they were brought up by a Narcissistic Mother.

Video is courtesy of the LauraBlue YouTube channel

It confirmed how damaging Narcissists can be, when you hear this Victim of Narcissistic Abuse, speak about her negative self talk and feelings of “not being good enough”.

Domestic abuse survivor speaks out to help victims

Police wearing body cameras capture the result of a horrific beating a woman had received. Because of the body camera video, the husband who beat his wife was charged and convicted and is now serving a 10 year jail sentence.

Yes he is in jail, but has justice been served? He gets free Room and Board for 10 years, with 3 meals a day cooked for him. Just look at the woman’s face in the screen capture pic. She had been getting this kind of abuse for 10 years. Absolutely sickening.

Is the photo below showing you, your future?photo of a female victim of domestic abuse with both eyes blackedPhoto of Gale Marmoy is a screen capture (which we made) from the Police video

Her husband had apparently been beating this woman for about a decade before being convicted. Clear example of Trauma Bonding or Stockholm Syndrome on the part of the victim.

If you are presently in an abusive relationship, then seek out the Police and your Health Care Professionals to help you to get out of that abusive relationship before it “Kills You“.

Abuse is real. Being abused is not the fault of the victim. Trauma Bonding is very real, but those bonds can be broken with the help of your Medical Professionals.

No one deserves to be abused.

Watch the video to see how cool he was when the Police arrived at his door after he beat his wife. IMHO he displayed Psychopathic traits. It was bizarre how he calmly asked his wife (whom he called Dawn) if she wanted to speak to the Police. It was as if nothing had happened to give a reason for the Police to have shown up. As if he had done nothing wrong.  If the Police had not come, he was not going to call his wife an ambulance or take her to the hospital.

What kind of person could be so Heartless and lacking in Empathy, to behave in this manner? Well lets see, a Malignant Narcissist in a rage and of course a Psychopath could do extreme damage to someone in the blink of an eye. Afterwards they could even blame the victim. Such disordered individuals lack Empathy for the suffering of others.

It boggles my mind how someone could do something like this, yet sadly it happens all too often.

Video is courtesy of the OfficialHantsPolice YouTube channel

Click on this line to read a news article about the events discussed in the video above.

Special Thanks go out to Christine Louis De Canonville who’s Google Plus page spoke about this event.

Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: The Effects of Developmental and Accumulative Trauma

This video is complete webinar in which Steve Stokes, Clinical Practice Consultant, shares insights and practical guidance about Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: The Effects of Developmental and Accumulative Trauma.

Who is Steve Stokes, you ask?

The following is some Bio info from the Steve Stokes Linked in page:

“Steve has been working in the Addictions and Mental Health Field for 27 years and runs Steve Stokes Counselling Services and Consulting. He is also the Clinical Program Consultant at South Pacific Private, Australia’s Leading Treatment Center in Curl Curl, N.S.W, Australia. In his Role he provides internal and external training at Conferences and Workshops as well as facilitating monthly Webinars for SPP.

Steve also has over 30 years personal Sobriety from Addiction in 12 step fellowships.Steve specializes in Developmental Trauma Treatment and Complex PTSD and Affect Regulation and it’s relationship to all Addiction Treatment. Steve specializes in Sex Addiction Treatment, Sex , Love and Avoidance addiction Treatment and co-occurring addictions and underlying Developmental Trauma.”

Video is courtesy of the South Pacific Private YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit the South Pacific Private website to learn more about their programs

Click on this line to visit the South Pacific Private Facebook Page to gain some insights from reviews left by people who received treatment there.

Stockholm Syndrome or Trauma Bonding In Narcissistic Abuse

Trauma Bonding or Stockholm Syndrome can occur when the abused individual is made to go thru alternating Reward / Punishment cycles. A simple act of kindness during an abusive situation, can mess up the victim’s brain chemistry. The kindness event is short lived, as the abuser goes back into Narcissistic Abuse mode. Unfortunately for the victim of the abuse, a Trauma Bond may have started to form.

Very well presented video about Trauma Bonding, which at first establishes what Stockholm Syndrome and Trauma Bonding is. Then details the Reward Punishment cycle, which is used to “hook you”.

Video is courtesy of the Inner Integration YouTube channel

 

Click on this line to view our prior posts about Trauma Bonding and Stockholm Syndrome.

After Narcissistic Abuse, things to do so you can move forward

Excellent points are made in this video, about what to do during your recovery After Narcissistic Abuse.

Video is courtesy of the Inner Integration YouTube channel

Developing Complex PTSD Symptoms due to Narcissistic Abuse

Developing Complex PTSD Symptoms due to Narcissistic Abuse.

I believe that Victims of Narcissistic Abuse may end up with their natural Fight or Flight response having difficulty to fully shutoff. It keeps going off, when there is no danger. Then there are the Flashbacks.

Heart Breaking to listen to. If you can relate to things discussed in this video, please seek out Professional Medical Help, especially from a Medical Professional who has worked with Abuse Victims and PTSD.

It’s long dark tunnel and hard to find your way out of it. A trained and experienced Medical Professional could be the answer to helping you getting your life back and finally exiting that dark tunnel where that Narcissist had locked you in.

Video is courtesy of the Running from Chaos YouTube channel

“Rushing Intimacy” a Red Flag to watch for by Tracy Malone

Tracy Malone’s videos go into intimate details about of the Red Flags of the Narcissists who had crossed her path. In this video she discusses “Rushing Intimacy” as being a major Red Flag to watch out for. She also describes. from the Heart, what she is going thru while recovering from Narcissistic Abuse.

May I suggest to check out Tracy Malone’s YouTube channel. Really grateful that she allows the sharing of her superb videos.

Video courtesy of the Tracy Malone YouTube channel

“UNDERSTANDING THE NARCISSIST’S WEB OF DECEPTION” workshop with “Christine Louis De Canonville”

 

 

 

 

On Friday 27th May 2016, Christine Louis De Canonville is running a 1 day workshop “UNDERSTANDING THE NARCISSIST’S WEB OF DECEPTION”.

It’s the 1st in a series of workshops for understanding narcissistic victim abuse.Benefit from my 25 years as a psychotherapist working with victims of narcissistic abuse.

In this workshop we’ll look at such things as:

• How to recognize the difference between healthy narcissism and pathological narcissism.

What attracts a narcissist to their prey?

How to recognize  pathological narcissistic behaviours early in a  relationship.

Why narcissists need victims as “narcissistic supply”?

• How the “Dark Triad” will help you understand the different  levels of narcissistic behavior.

The effects of narcissistic abuse on the victim.

• Understand the significant effects of being raised by and/or being  in a close relationship with a narcissist (in the home, workplace,  friendships, etc.).

• Why therapists need to understand narcissistic abuse.

• Plus much more….

You’ll find all the information HERE or the link below where you can download the Workshop Brochure.

http://narcissisticbehavior.net/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/ChristineLouisDeCanonville-Brochure_May_2016.pdf

This workshop is being held in Dublin, Ireland on 27th May 2016..

Warmest regards.

Christine

Click on this line to visit Christine’s official website “http://narcissisticbehavior.net/

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“Lack of Object Constancy” is a Narcissistic Trait and Red Flag to watch for

This video discusses “Lack of Object Constancy” which is another Trait and Red Flag of a Narcissist to watch for.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel

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The video below is posted by someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. She discusses a therapy session about Lack of Object Constancy. What she mentions, also applies to Narcissists. Note that she is actively seeking treatment via Therapy Sessions, which is something a Narcissist would rarely (if ever) do.

Video is courtesy of The Borderline Life YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit the Out of The Fog website to read their post titled : Lack of Object Constancy.

 

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“Trauma Bonding” with a Narcissist, could be harder to break than a Heroin Addiction.

Recovering from a Heroin Addiction is said to be easier to do, than to recover from Abusive Relationship with a Narcissist, if Trauma Bonding has occurred.

Sacha Slone discusses Trauma Bonding, which is something that could happen to Victims of Narcissistic Abuse.

Video is courtesy of the Sacha Slone YouTube channel

Sacha Slone discusses brain chemicals which could help keep the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse conditioned to remain in the relationship, not unlike a Drug Addiction. The biochemicals in the brain may also help create Trauma Bonding or Stockholm Syndrome.

The helplessness is learned, over time, using the Biochemistry created by using Reward and Punishment. Victims are trained to become dependent on the Narcissist.  People outside of the abusive relationship can never understand why the Victim cannot leave such a relationship.

Why Victims do not leave an abusive relationship. Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome

Victims of Narcissistic Abuse remain in abusive relationships. Victims of Narcissists, will often defend the Narcissist.

Trauma Bonding happens. It is also referred to as the Stockholm Syndrome. This informative video goes into more detail about Trauma Bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome.

Video is courtesy of the familytreecounseling YouTube channel

“The Three Faces of Evil – Unmasking The Full Spectrum Of Narcissistic Abuse” by “Christine Louis de Canonville”

The book titled “The Three Faces of Evil – Unmasking The Full Spectrum Of Narcissistic Abuse” by “Christine Louis de Canonville” is apparently no longer available on Amazon. It is still available from the author’s site.

Click on this line to visit Christine’s website to check out The 3 Face of Evil.

This book will help Survivors wanting to understand what happened to them while in a relationship with a Narcissist. It will educate and familiarize the reader about the complexity of Narcissistic behaviours, giving a basic understanding of The Dark Triad: from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Malignant Narcissism, to the most pathological…..the Psychopath.

“Getting back on track after Narcissistic Abuse” by Leyla Loric

Leyla Loric gives some personal insight about “Getting back on track after Narcissistic Abuse“.

The hardest step is for one to leave an Abusive Relationship. The Emotional Pain remains and one has to learn to move on. It will not be easy. Many end up with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Seeking Help from Health Care Professionals who specialize in PTSD could help deal with the emotional trauma and recurring flashbacks.

The key to remember is that the lessons learned will help protect one from becoming sucked into a relationship by another abuser.

Christine Louis de Canonville mentioned something important during one of her seminars on Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome. That was: after becoming involved with a Narcissist you become primed and other Narcissists will pick you out of crowd and try to target you.

Watch for the Red Flags like Love Bombing and Mirroring. If you start seeing Red Flags, then trust your gut and it could be in your best interest to go “No Contact” with such an individual.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel

How to stop Emotional Flashbacks. 4 Important Points to Remember

You are a Survivor. Your Nightmare Abusive Relationship is thankfully over. All is well, then something minor happens which changes your State. All of a sudden you have an Emotional Flashback, which darkens your day.

The 4 points discussed by Leyla Loric in this video, will help you to better understand what is happening. That knowledge could help you to deal with and stop those Emotional Flashbacks.

After a Flashback, you may feel the urge to contact your emotional abuser. Stay safe, by staying “No Contact“. By staying “No Contact” there is no way of you being Hoovered back into the abusive relationship which you had left.

In the past your Narcissist, Sociopath or Psychopath had picked you as a viable Target. You are now even more vulnerable and they will be more determined to suck you back in and then punish you for leaving them.

You increase your recovery from an abusive relationship by staying “No Contact”.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel