Sharing the Truth of the Narcissist’s actions and you may think you are suddenly in episode of the Twilight Zone. Your reality will not be accepted by the Narcissist. This can occur within a personal relationship and also in a work environment with a Narcissistic Boss.
If you create a Narcissistic Injury, then lookout as the Narcissist will twist things to Keep the Focus OFF OF The FACTS which you spoke about. They will switch to talking about and accuse you of things totally unrelated to what the original discussion was about. How dare you question the Narcissist.
Video is courtesy of the Michele Lee Nieves Coaching YouTube channel
Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter describes 7 mind games commonly played by a Narcissist, and outlines ways to stay clear of them.
Video is courtesy of the Surviving Narcissism YouTube Channel.
Understanding Manipulation Tactics.
Dr. George Simon was a past President of the Arkansas Psychological Association, and is a Board Certified Diplomate in Forensic and Clinical Psychology. Before retiring, Dr George Simon was a supervising psychologist for the Arkansas Dept. of Correction. You could correctly say that he is an Expert on the behaviour of Narcissists and Psychopaths. In his private practice he helped individuals trapped in relationships with personality disordered individuals.
Video is courtesy of the George Simon YouTube Channel
Video is courtesy of the George Simon YouTube Channel
When dealing with Narcissists, knowledge is power. When you know what behaviours to watch for, you can learn to pickout Narcissitic individuals. You may get a glimpse of what may lay behind their mask.
Knowledge may help to prevent you from
becoming their next prey.
“A very subtle way to create damage in children is to turn the chosen scapegoat child into a parent.
This process is called Parentification, not to be confused with parenting. In Parentification the parent gives up what they are supposed to do as a parent and transfers that responsibility to the scapegoat child. Hence the scapegoat child becomes parentified.”
Video is courtesy of the Light of Knowledge YouTube channel
Has someone played with your emotions in the past?
Has someone hurt your feelings, but then turned it around and made it “Your Fault”?
Did you then feel guilty?
Really good presentation about Emotional Manipulation and how a Puppet Master trains someone into submission and silence.
If you see these Red Flags in your relationship, you may want to seek help and reconsider remaining in such an emotionally manipulative / abusive relationship.
Video is courtesy of the Angel Speaks YouTube channel
A “rather novel” way to learn how Narcissists act. Sit back and watch for a Narcissist’s Red Flags, Traits and Manipulations. Fine tune your Narcissist Radar and Spot Narcissists Faster.
Video is courtesy of the Self Plus Love YouTube channel
After viewing the YouTube video above, you can visit the resources mentioned in it by clicking on the links below:
Must view video filled with insights about Love Bombing and other Red Flags.
Her new Lover was talking about Marriage very shortly after their first meeting. This woman became so Psychologically Manipulated by the Love Bombing, that she bought her Wedding Dress within the first 2 weeks of meeting that new Lover. Classic Love Bombing and Major Red Flag. Love Bombing worked faster than Brain Washing / Mind Control techniques. The new Lover was in the mean time also seeing another woman.
The person Love Bombing you, is also Mirroring you. That establishes a very deep rapport and trust in the mind of the victim being Psychologically Manipulated. That deep Rapport and Trust is something which keeps physical Abuse Victim in Abusive Relationship.
The Victim dismisses being kicked down a fight of stairs and reminds herself of the beginning of the relationship when the Love Bombing and Mirroring were going on at full speed. She tells herself that he was so sweet and so charming and amazing and so lovable. The fact that he now punches her in the head multiple times and gives her Black Eyes on a regular basis, does not dislodge the Mind Control established during the Love Bombing phase. The abuse is dismissed because she is still “in Love” with the fake Persona she met during the Love Bombing phase.
Love Bombing is not about Love. Love Bombing is strictly about establishing Control over the Victim.
Video is courtesy of the Truthball In Search of Goof YouTube channel
One thing to note is how this woman kept attracting Disordered Individuals. Christine De Canonville noted in a seminar that once you have been with a Disordered Individual, you have been primed and other Disordered Individuals will spot you in a crowd and target you.
If you have come from an abusive relationship and ended up with Complex PTSD symptoms, Narcissists would happily feed you lines.
If you have gotten over Complex PTSD, the suggestion in the video is to consider staying single for at least a year. That means do not date anyone. Individuals who have had Complex PTSD make perfect targets for Manipulative Narcissists.
Stay single and continue working with a great Therapist.
.Video is courtesy of the What’s Wrong … with Kris and Steve YouTube channel
Your Brain on Love, Sex and the Narcissist: The Addiction to Bonding with our Abusers
by Shahida Arabi
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April 27, 2015
Many survivors of narcissistic abuse are confounded by the addiction they feel to the narcissist, long after the abusive relationship took a toll on their physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Make no mistake: recovery from an abusive relationship can be very similar to withdrawal from drug addiction due to the biochemical bonds we may develop with our toxic ex-partners.
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The book titled “The Three Faces of Evil – Unmasking The Full Spectrum Of Narcissistic Abuse” by “Christine Louis de Canonville” is apparently no longer available on Amazon. It is still available from the author’s site.
This book will help Survivors wanting to understand what happened to them while in a relationship with a Narcissist. It will educate and familiarize the reader about the complexity of Narcissistic behaviours, giving a basic understanding of The Dark Triad: from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Malignant Narcissism, to the most pathological…..the Psychopath.
UPDATE Feb 16 2016 – Repaired all the links in this post. They now work again and take you to Christine’s site. Not sure what happened, but they do work now.
Posted to https://uniquelynarcissistic.wordpress.com
Disclaimer: Any Trademarks mentioned in this post are owned by the respective Trademark owner. Thanks go out to Christine Louis de Canonville for keeping us updated about her must attend workshops
This is a great post from the Flying Monkeys Denied website.
The following are a few quotes from their very good post:
“It’s totally normal for a person with a Cluster B personality disorder to pathologically lie, gaslight, and smear campaign.”
“Every narcissistic person you know who actively badmouths another person or group without that person or stereotype represented is keeping a major secret from you.”
“Guess what, “Narcissistic Supply Source”? If you think a narcissistic person is trustworthy because of their special interest or attachment to you, nothing could possibly be further from the truth.”
“Narcissistic people get off emotionally and psychologically based on the thought of getting away with something. They only show remorse for their actions when and if they are caught.”
To read the complete post, just click on the photo above or on the Source link below. That will take you to the Flying Monkeys Denied website, which is an excellent resource well worth adding to your Bookmarked sites list.