A really good video, which explains how you became attached to your Narcissist.
Video is courtesy of the Balance Psychologies YouTube channel
Video is courtesy of the The Dr. Phil Show YouTube channel
Dr. Phil interviews Ex-Girlfriend Of Man Accused Of Killing, Dismembering Seattle Mom. See how many Red Flags you can pick up. This lady was lucky that she was not isolated during her 6 months or so with that guy.
She said that he was Charming, Witty and Very Smart. How do you spell Cerebral Narcissist? Yet she could tell that there was something about him that was “off”. There was something scary about his eyes. Potentially Malignant? When the mask slips, one gets to see something else, which was lurking behind that mask.
He met the the Seattle Mom (whom he allegedly killed and dismembered) online via an dating site.
Which brings me to an email which I had received from a visitor to this site.
I received an email asking if Narcissists ever change. The writer stated that they were dating people via an internet dating site. They had found Narcissists to be “much more fun” than the “normal” “regular” people.
Yes you can date Narcissists which you meet on an Internet Dating Site. Great way to risk your life, meeting total strangers and one’s whom you prefer to be afflicted with a Cluster-B Disorder like NPD. Hey, you might get to meet your first Psychopath (who could also turn out to be your last).
You may have fun in the beginning.
Read the recent posts about the women who could not leave physically abusive relationships. They all had so much fun – in the very beginning – during the Love Bombing Phase. Listen to how they describe the guy, who ended up physically abusing them consistently after they had been isolated from family and friends. Things changed drastically. They got Black Eyes on a consistent basis. The were kicked down flights of stairs. They had their heads punched repeatedly. Not fun things to go through. Especially if the Narcissist or Cluster-B Disordered Individual can isolate you and make you totally dependent on them. Note that those “boring” “Normal” and “Regular” people generally are not as prone to do such things.
Yes playing with Fire can be so much fun. But IMHO the odds are against you.
You may get burned, or simply Disappear.
Narcissists can be very Charming. That is until you figure out why they are being so Charming.
In this video Tracy Malone discusses how the Narcissists who had crossed paths with her were Oh So Charming. This is another Major Red Flag to carefully watch for.
Video courtesy of the Tracy Malone YouTUbe channel
UBC psychology professor Michael Woodworth
If you have to negotiate business with a narcissist or psychopath, you’re better off doing it on Facebook, research from UBC Okanagan shows.
In one of the first studies of its kind, UBC researchers found that traditionally successful manipulators who are classified as being part of the Dark Triad (DT)—people with narcissistic, psychopathic or Machiavellian tendencies—don’t send very compelling online messages.
“The results of this study are pretty clear—once you remove non-verbal cues such as body language from the equation, the ability to smoke out narcissists and psychopaths becomes easier,” says UBC psychology professor Michael Woodworth. “We can also conclude that it is very likely that the qualities that allow these people to successfully charm, manipulate, intimidate or exploit others appear to require a live, in-person audience.”
The study, titled “The Dark Side of Negotiation”, was conducted between October 2013 and February 2014 and included more than 200 Canadian university students, a proportion of whom were identified as having various qualities on the DT spectrum.
After being randomly assigned to either a face-to-face or computer-mediated contact group, the students were asked to negotiate for concert tickets, either as a buyer or a seller, with the ultimate goal of achieving maximum financial benefit for themselves.
Consistent with other studies, Woodworth’s research concluded that those who ranked higher on the DT spectrum were more successful in face-to-face negotiations than they were online. Surprisingly, the research also concluded that higher-ranking DT participants were 12.5 percent less successful in online negotiations than those ranking lower on the spectrum.
Students’ placement on the spectrum varied depending on individual characteristics and attributes.
Each of the three parts of the DT has distinct traits. Psychopaths tend to lack empathy and be anti-social. Narcissists lean toward grandiosity and self-adoration. People with Machiavellian qualities are goal-oriented, calculated manipulators.
“While there has long been a fascination with DT personalities and how they can impact ‘ordinary’ people, little has been studied as to how these people behave online,” says Woodworth.
“What this research tells us is that if you want to be confident in your ability not be taken in by these types of known manipulators, you’re probably better off dealing with them online.”
Working with Woodworth on the project were honours student Lisa Crossley, graduate student Pamela Black and UBC Professor Emeritus Bob Hare. The study was published this month in the journal of Personality and Individual Differences.
Woodworth and Crossley are now conducting similar DT research involving deception.
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What wouldn’t anyone give to meet their “Soul Mate“? Someone who is attentive and oh so charming. The constant texting and or phone calls to tell you that they “Love You”. They say the things which you so much want to hear. They are sweeping you off your feet.
If your new Love Interest is a Narcissist, they eventually will be sweeping you under the rug. They are oh so charming, until you find out why they were so charming. Wake up, they want something.
Your newly found “Soul Mate” Narcissist is Love Bombing you. That is a Psychological Manipulation Technique used to get you to drop your instinctive guard when meeting new people. They want to totally shutdown your natural fight or flight response. Once that response is shutdown, then they can take total control of you, yes you. Do you still think that you have met your “Soul Mate”?
The constant communications and contact with your newly found “Soul Mate”, is also helping to isolate you from other people. They know what they are doing, as they have had lots of prior practice. You on the other hand are naive and trusting. Been there, done that.
Like other videos by Beverly Banov Brown, I’m glad that I can share them here via YouTube. Her videos are to the point and I hope that everyone finds them to be informative.
Love Bombing is a major Red Flag to watch for. Narcissist hide their Love Bombing in plain sight. They use Love Bombing because it works. The same reason why they also use Mirroring while they are Love Bombing you. Narcissists are very well versed in both of these Psychological Manipulation Techniques.
This is video #4 in this series on red flags of a Narcissist. Like with all the other videos, not every Narcissist will have every red flag, nor will they have every red flag to a troubling degree. Pay attention to the red flags and get out sooner than later.
Narcissists do not get better, and they will always cause chaos and destruction in your life as long as they are in it.
Video is courtesy of the Narcissist Support YouTube channel
Narcissists have an innate need to be the Centre of Attention when other people are around. They will be loud and boisterous, all in a pretty charming sort of way. They will command the attention of those around them. If they pick you as their next Target, you will be on the receiving end of their endless charm. That endless Charm is really another aspect of Love Bombing.
Why have you become their next Target? Because they want something that you have, or can give them, or your status can also shine on them when they are constantly seen by your side.
Narcissists can be pretty Charming, until you understand why they are being so Charming.
The video below discusses Narcsissistic Charm as being a Red Flag which one can look out for.
Video is courtesy of the Overcoming Understanding YouTube channel
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