Category: NLP

SPEED ATTRACTION. Making Someone Love You In 20 Minutes by David Snyder

David Snyder discusses Speed Attraction.

Narcissists and Psychopaths are really good at establishing Rapport and Trust with their Targets. They do this using techniques which are below most people’s radar. Mirroring is a major Psychological Mind Control Technique used by Narcissists. Therapists may also use Mirroring to establish Trust with their patients. Trust can be real and created via shared experience, or false Trust can be programmed into someone’s mind and they will have no clue that they were manipulated.

Video is courtesy of the David Snyder YouTube channel

There is a video featured in a post on this site, by a Harvard Grad named Leslie Morgan Steiner. She was targeted by a Narcissist. She was talked into moving and became isolated from friends and family. Once she was isolated the abuse started and moved to physical abuse.She was programmed not to discuss the abuse with others. In the video she spoke of being physically abused. She stated that at the time her focus was not on the person physically abusing her. Her mind was focused on the false persona presented to her at the beginning of their relationship.

Mirroring and Love Bombing by the Narcissist installs Rapport and Trust deep into the victim’s mind. Again, Leslie focused on the false person whom she had been programmed to fall in love with. Someone who “did not exist”. She dismissed the physical abuse and focused on the false persona. She was very highly educated, yet the Narcissist was able to get inside her mind and manipulate her.

Learning about and then watching for the Red Flags like Mirroring, can give one a clue into the type of individual one is interacting with.

Watch the video and listen carefully to the way that David interacts with the people at his seminar – especially the females. Listen to how he shifts his tonality. He draws the Target in and starts asking question after question. He repeats what he has been told by the Target. He draws the Target in. Narcissists will sound like David, when they interact with their Targets. It is very subtle, yet very powerful and IMHO very dangerous if you are the Target.

Another verbal tactic of the Narcissist is to continually combine the target and themselves in statements they make. Take this statement fed to a Target by a Narc “You don’t Love Me anymore. stated as a joke to counter something negative which the Target just said.  The Target laughs at the Narc’s statement and the Target’s state is changed. The Negative is thus removed from the Target’s mind. Narcs are really good at countering anything negative. Humor is non threatening and does not set off alarms. Yet the Narc’s stupid statement (given the situation where it had been used), clears the Target’s mind of negative thoughts.

The constant combination of “You” and “Me”, also helps to program a connection in the Target’s mind. All this flies below the radar and never sets off any alarms in the Target’s Mind. Next thing you know, the Target starts to feel that they have met their Soul Mate…

Psychotherapist Pamela Gawler-Wright discusses how Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques can address and resolve problems caused through Trauma

Pamela Gawler-Wright a UKCP Registered Psychotherapist, Neuro-Linguistic Psychotherapist, Master and Certified Trainer in NLP, discusses with Donna Blinston, how Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques can address and resolve problems caused through Trauma, resulting in anxiety, depression and addiction.

Video is courtesy of the Donna Blinston YouTube channel

Neuro Linguistic Programming. NLP.

Disclaimer – some people dismiss Neuro Linguistic Programming (also known as NLP).

I do not, but I also do not believe that NLP is a cure all for everything. In my opinion NLP provides powerful Tools. I can give our visitors an extremely expensive and well made set of wrenches and I doubt that anyone would be able to take apart and put back together the engine in their automobile with said wrenches. Tools required experienced hands. The same applies to NLP techniques.

If you get a chance, do some research on NLP and  Richard Bandler. You can buy videos of his seminars from his site and on There is tons of info available on the internet about NLP. Your local Public Library should also have books on Neuro Linguistic Programming, including by folks like Richard Bandler and Steve Andreas

It is my opinion that a number of things in NLP work. The Phobia Cure, for example, in my opinion works. That protocol in my opinion may work for other things.

Disclaimer – The videos below are not meant as medical advice for anyone. They are posted for educational and entertainment purposes. Speak with your Therapist or other Medical Practitioner about the content of the videos and whether NLP could be of help with your situation. I make no claims whether anything shown in the videos is appropriate for your situation or for anyone’s situation for that matter. It is your choice to view any of the videos below and you do so at your own risk.

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

Steve Andreas is very well known in NLP circles and has been helping people for decades.

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

Video is courtesy of the realpeoplepress YouTube channel

This next video features Richard Bandler (one of the two developers of Neuro Linguistic Programming)

Video is courtesy of the NLPLife YouTube channel

Neuro Linguistic Programming is not magic. NLP is a set of tools which require experienced practitioners.

Trauma Bonding explains why it is so hard to leave an Abusive Relationship

I find the Leyla Loric’s Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel to have a unique way of explaining that which is complex in their videos.

In the video below she outlines, in an easy to understand manner, how Trauma Bonding happens.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel

The repeating of the connection and disconnection. The Push followed by the Pull. Richard Bandler‘s NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) sheds some light on this. Love Bombing and Trauma Bonding both create major bonds between the Narcissist Abuser and his/her Victim. I’ll try to post something about that at a later date.

Briefly, I believe (your mileage may differ) Love Bombing and Trauma Bonding covertly put the Victim into a Deep Trance State.

It is a sign of Major Mind Control, when a women gets kicked down a flight of stairs, yet will not leave such an abusive relationship. Why? Because the women will tell you that they are still “in Love” with the abuser. Actually they mention the person they met at the start of the Love Bombing phase. The Fake Persona they were fed.

In my opinion, (your mileage may differ) victims of major physical abuse are not in Love with their Abuser. They have been repeatedly Anchored to go into a Deep Hypnotic Trance State, where they have been programmed to experience a huge rapport with the Abuser.

The black eyes and broken bones hurt far less than having to exit that Deep Hypnotic Trance State. Not unlike a heavy drug addiction to say Heroin. It is only when Victims leave such abusive relationships and those anchors and triggers are no longer fired off, that they can see the reality about their Abuser.

Letting Go by Brendon Burchard

Letting Go can be a key to a better life. Brendon Burchard presents suggestions and ideas which can help.

In the video Brendon presents a great idea, that one way to deal with past hurt is to ask yourself “What did I learn from it?” I believe that what he is using is a variation of the NLP Psychological Technique called Reframing. You Reframe the situation and so change your focus.. Same hurtful situation, but instead of reliving getting hurt your mind focuses on answering the question “What did you learn from it?”.

Video is courtesy of the YouTube channel.

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