Category: Post-Separation Lesbians

You aren’t a Lesbian…you are just Narcissistic

The prior post about The Lesbian Borderline and the idea that Lesbians may have issues with their Mothers is something which I do not believe has been been researched. Issues with their Mother is something common among Narcissists

Great Quote “You aren’t a lesbian…you are just Narcissistic”. Click on this Link to visit The Data Lounge to read that post and the comments.

Sam Vaknin wrote: “There is, however, one element, which might be unique to homosexuals: the fact that their self-definition hinges on their sexual identity. I know of no heterosexual who would use his sexual preferences to define himself almost fully. Homosexuality has been inflated to the level of a sub-culture, a separate psychology, or a myth. This is typical of persecuted minorities. However, it does have an influence on the individual. Preoccupation with body and sex makes most homosexual narcissists SOMATIC narcissists.

Moreover, the homosexual makes love to a person of the SAME sex – in a way, to his REFLECTION. In this respect, homosexual relations are highly narcissistic and autoerotic affairs.”

First Wives World had a post discussing how Women can switch to a Lesbian partner, after a Divorce from a male partner.


Click on the link to visit the post titled “

For the Love of Mother

By Shari Schreiber, M.A.

The first line of her post is:

I’ve never met a lesbian who didn’t have significant issues with her mother.“.

My exposure to Lesbians may be limited, but the ones that I have crossed paths with, that quote applies.

Mother issues are also something that seem to to be common with Narcissists.

I do not know if Psychopaths also have Mother Issues.

This reminds me of a video of a therapy session with an angelic looking 6 year old girl who was a diagnosed Psychopath. She would steal and hide large sharp knives. Why? She stated without hesitation, that she wanted to use the knives to kill her baby brother and her adopted Mother. Her reply was matter of fact, no emotion.

Robert Hare PHD had discussed that therapy video in his book Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us”.

Shari Schreiber’s post is an informative read.

Post-Separation & Post-Divorce Lesbians

Post-Separation Lesbians is something which can happen to Narcissists who get rejected / abandoned usually by another, but different kind of Narcissist. For example the Cerebral male Narc unceremoniously dumps his lover, a Somatic female Narc. The Somatic female suffers Narcissistic Injury. She then looks for a woman to become her Lover and new Source of Narcissistic Supply.

The article “Post-Divorce Lesbians” posted on the First Wives World website addresses the switch to finding a Lesbian Lover, after a divorce or separation from a male ex.

Click on this line to visit the First Wives World website to read their post titled “Post-Divorce Lesbians: Looking for Affection?”.