Wendy Behary discusses strategies to help one deal with Narcissists. Wendy has more than two decades experience treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists. She is one of the founders of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey.
Video is courtesy of the Dr. Kimberley Taylor YouTube channel
Dr. Taylor interviews Author and Therapist Wendy Behary. She wrote the book:
Book cover image courtesy of Amazon.com
Click on the following link to visit amazon.com to view the book “Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed”.
One important point which Wendy Behary makes (around the 35:45 minute mark) is to set limits and boundaries and she has suggestions on how to do that. One way is to limit your exposure to the Narcissist, by having limited to no contact with the Disordered Individual.
In a work environment, if you do limit the Narcissist’s access to you then watch for the Narcissist moving into Back Stabbing and Smear Campaign mode. When you stop providing Narcissistic Supply, a Narcissist could work to get you fired and or destroy your reputation.
Click on this Link to visit the http://psychotherapyjournal.org site with a post featuring another interview with Wendy Behary. Along with a video they have posted a written PDF transcript which you can download and read by clicking on their PDF link at the top of their screen Transcript. It gives one some insight how a 3rd party such as a Therapist might view a Narcissist’s behaviour. IMHO well worth downloading and reading their PDF Transcript.
Video is courtesy of the Terri Cole YouTube channel
Terri Cole also wrote:
When it comes to being in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s difficult to find any real intimacy because everything is about your functionality in their life. Narcissists can love only on a superficial level. As long as you are doing what they think you are supposed to be doing, all is well (and when i say ‘well’ I mean they get what they want and you stay unsatisfied, unseen and unheard.) The moment you deny them exactly what they want, look out! They will explode, get mean and do just about anything to get you back in line with their plan. If you don’t comply, they will leave.
Actions and conversations with a narcissist all revolve around building them up, even when it’s “about you,” it’s really about them – they get to “show you off to their friends.” That isn’t about you at all. It’s about their ego and how you make them look.
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Terri Cole’s video above, reminded me of a particular Somatic Narcissist that I once had to deal with.