Category: Relationship with a Narcissist

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How a relationship with a Narcissist can derail you

 

In my opinion, the worst part of any kind of relationship with a Narcissist, happens when the relationship ends. That is when Narcissists start their Back Stabbing and Smear Campaign directed against you. The damage can be both Financial (at your job), as well as Emotional.

Their Back Stabbing and Smear Campaign is the Narcissist’s gift to you, which just keeps on giving….

The dangers of being in a relationship with a Disordered Narcissist

Dr. David B Hawkins discusses some of the dangers when one gets involved in a relationship with a Narcissist, especially to one’s Self Esteem.

The video also has some sound advice regarding Boundaries.

Video is courtesy of the David Hawkins YouTube channel

The one point that he makes that I disagree with, is about being able to change a Narcissist. It is my opinion, and your mileage may differ, that Narcissism is a Hard Wiring problem caused by major Attachment Trauma(s) suffered when the Narc was a tiny infant. There is no Treatment Protocol for Narcissism, and many Licensed Therapists will agree.

Trauma caused later in life, also changes Brain Chemistry and it is very hard to treat, just ask anyone with PTSD or Complex PTSD, but can be treated. 

I also think that it also depends on the depth on the Narcissistic Disorder. A Malignant Narcissist IMHO cannot be changed and it could be dangerous to even try to get them to change. Someone who is not deeply disordered, just maybe could adapt to you setting boundaries etc.

 

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Quote “The best thing about your past relationship with a Narcissist, is that it’s over!”

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Quote “Its not uncommon to feel lost and erased, after years with a Narcissist.“

The Support for Victims of Narcissism YouTube channel made this profound quote. In a few heart wrenching words, it hits home the reality of what happens to Victims of Narcisistic Abuse.

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Quote “A relationship with a Narcissist could cause life changing damage to your Self Esteem.”

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What it was like being in a relationship with a Narcissist.

This is a rather informative video. A Victim shares details from his 6 year long abusive relationship with a Somatic Narcissist.

It was surprising how this video essentially describes a Somatic Narcissist’s Playbook. Narcissists work from the same script, no matter where they live.

One interesting aspect of this video is that Mr. Smith is a Therapist, which goes to show that Narcissists can fool everyone. Narcissists really are amazing actors.

Video is courtesy of the familytreecounseling YouTube channel

“The Three Faces of Evil – Unmasking The Full Spectrum Of Narcissistic Abuse” by “Christine Louis de Canonville”

The book titled “The Three Faces of Evil – Unmasking The Full Spectrum Of Narcissistic Abuse” by “Christine Louis de Canonville” is apparently no longer available on Amazon. It is still available from the author’s site.

Click on this line to visit Christine’s website to check out The 3 Face of Evil.

This book will help Survivors wanting to understand what happened to them while in a relationship with a Narcissist. It will educate and familiarize the reader about the complexity of Narcissistic behaviours, giving a basic understanding of The Dark Triad: from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Malignant Narcissism, to the most pathological…..the Psychopath.

Craig Malkin Ph.D. discusses “Why Do People Stay in Abusive Relationships? The answer is more complicated than you think.”

The Narcissistic Pseudo Relationship: Real to you, but Pretend to them

The Three Phases of A Narcissistic Roller Coaster Relationship Cycle: Over-Evaluation, Devaluation, Discard

Well written post, by Savannah Grey, detailing the Narcissistic Relationship  Emotional Roller Coaster.

“People usually get into relationships for love and the need to connect and bond with another. Narcissists get into relationships for entirely different reasons.”

Please click on this line to visit the Esteemology website to read their complete post titled: “The Three Phases of A Narcissistic Relationship Cycle: Over-Evaluation, Devaluation, Discard“.

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The Secret Language of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths: How Abusers Manipulate Their Victims

Learning the Secret Language of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths: How Abusers Manipulate Their Victims by Shahida Arabi

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Does the Narcissist Miss You After No Contact?

Multitudes of people who’ve implemented No Contact with their Narcissistic partner will inevitably ask the question, Does the Narcissist miss me? Why?  Because they are often consumed with missing …

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Author: Kim Saeed

The sacrifices you have to make for a relationship with a Narcissistic personality to work.

Why the Narcissist will try to reconnect with you after you have left them

When you break up with a Narcissist and they find out (yes they will keep tabs on you) that you have started dating someone else, often times the Narcissist will come running back to you. You were once their Source of Narcissistic Supply. Yes, they have a new Source of Narcissistic Supply, but the Narcissist fears losing you as a fallback option of Narcissistic Supply, when you start dating other people.

Talk to those who have broken up with a Narcissist and they will tell you that its never a good idea to fall for the empty promises of the Narcissist.

Video is courtesy of the Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach YouTube channel

 

 

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Why do Narcissists Cheat? Why do Narcissists leave relationships? Why or When do Narcissists Return or Come Back?

This video provides detailed answer to three questions:

1. Why Do Narcissists Cheat?
2. Why do Narcissists leave relationships?
3. Why or When do Narcissists Return or Come Back to the person they had dumped?

Video is courtesy of the Narcissist Free YouTube channel

The Narcissist Free YouTube channel is a superb resource about those who are afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and their Targeted Victims.

 

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“Christine Louis de Canonville” new workshop titled “UNDERSTANDING THE SELF-ABSORBED NARCISSISTIC MOTHER”

UPDATE Feb 16 2016Repaired all the links in this post. They now work again and take you to Christine’s site. Not sure what happened, but they do work now.

New Workshop On Narcissistic Mothers – The 26th February 2016
It’s almost time for my 3rd workshop. It’s about narcissistic mothers and the effects on her children.

It’s called “Mommie Dearest” – UNDERSTANDING THE SELF-ABSORBED NARCISSISTIC MOTHER.Revealing the Narcissistic Mother:

A mature mother with normal, healthy maternal nurturing instincts is a woman who is selfless, validates and loves her children unconditionally. She parents her children with empathy, and attunes into their inner emotional life as she prepares them for independent living when the time comes for them to leave the nest.

A narcissistic mother, on the other hand, is the antithesis of the mother I described above.  She is a mother who, instead of nurturing her children, is self-centred and mainly focused on herself. Rather than taking care of herself, the narcissistic mother expects to be taken care of by her children.

She neither trusts her children, nor believes in their basic goodness. She is brittle, controlling, does not observe boundaries, never apologizes or remembers her inappropriate behaviour, needs to be always right, will fly into rages, and project that anger onto her children.

She frightens her children, and discourages their independence. She needs to be the centre of attention, and is jealous if the children get attention from others. Her children are mere objects who represent her and show her in good light, but at the same time she is envious of their accomplishments, gifts and talents.

Her punishment is inconsistent and punitive, and she often uses the threat of abandonment to control them. All of this craziness serves to confuse her children and undermine their self esteem.  Of course, to the outside world everything is perfect, but behind closed doors the child is exposed to the horror of dealing with a mother with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

If you are the child of a narcissistic mother, or if you are a therapist working with the adult children of a narcissistic mother, then you need to understand that you are dealing with the behaviours of a mother who acts from a different set of criteria than the regular healthy loving mother.  As you can imagine, this disordered kind of parenting creates significant emotional damage to the child.

 

You’ll find all the information HERE or the link below for more details & booking..

http://narcissisticbehavior.net/narcissistic-mother-workshop/

This workshop is being held in Dublin, Ireland on 26th February 2016.

6 CPD points are awarded to all therapists who attend.

Warmest regards.
Christine
http://narcissisticbehavior.net/

The 3 Faces Of Evil – Unmasking The full Spectrum Of Narcissistic Abuse

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Disclaimer: Any Trademarks mentioned in this post are owned by the respective Trademark owner. Thanks go out to Christine Louis de Canonville for keeping us updated about her must attend workshops