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Ex “didn’t accept being abandoned”, so he burned her alive

The story hit the AP Newswire. Because it’s copyrighted I can’t post it. There is already a YouTube video which has someone reading the AP report.

The Mail Online site did some further research and included photos of the female and her “ex”, which were not part of the AP News Feed.

Note the quote “didn’t accept being abandoned” (my quoting a few words out of hundreds for education purposes falls under “Fair Use” and I am quoting from the AP post). Interesting choice of words. It must be the victims fault. If she had not abandoned the guy, he would not have burned her alive. Somehow to them, it is always the fault of the victim.

In essence, the Ex followed the victim. Ran her car off the road. Got access to her car interior, while the victim was still in it. Poured alcohol into her car and lit it with a lighter. The victim left her now burning car. The Ex caught up to her. Threw alcohol at her head  and lit it. She died from her burns. All that because the Ex “didn’t accept being abandoned”. He sure won her back, did he not.

Such a thing happening once, is one time too many. Yet this kind of thing sadly happens.

Click on this line to visit the Mail Online (British News) site to read their news article about this.

I know a female who takes a Taxi home after work, because she is scared of her ex following her if she walks home. That female was a major inspiration for me to setup this site. Her situation is a lot worse than the one in the news article. She’s been hospitalized for months at a time, thanks to her ex. Just imagine looking over your shoulder the rest of your life. Her ex is not just some regular ordinary office worker.  She has a black belt in an Asian Martial Art. Her ex has had training way beyond that

People who have suffered Attachment and Abandonment Trauma when they were infants, can become very disordered adults. To suffer an Abandonment Trauma Event as a adult could send the person in two directions. One is to become suicidal over being abandoned. It is real, I’ve seen two somatic female Narcs go that route – both survived.

The other direction is to destroy the person who abandoned them (as in the news article). It comes down to the destruction of self or the other person. Someone has to pay, it’s either me or them.  Disordered people have limited choices, especially those at the extreme end of disorders of Narcissism, and Sociopathy. Psychopaths, it is my understanding, would not suffer an Abandonment Trauma Event like say a Malignant Narcissist would. A Psychopath will kill you, because they want to kill you (no excuse needed to motivate them).

Learn the Red Flags to watch out for. If you don’t become involved with a Disordered individual, then you cannot abandon them. You become a non-issue to them, as they have a number of targets lined up to become potential sources of Narcissistic supply for example.

Click on this line to read the NY Post article about this event. The Mail Online article has more detail and photos – see the link further up in this post.

Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: The Effects of Developmental and Accumulative Trauma

This video is complete webinar in which Steve Stokes, Clinical Practice Consultant, shares insights and practical guidance about Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: The Effects of Developmental and Accumulative Trauma.

Who is Steve Stokes, you ask?

The following is some Bio info from the Steve Stokes Linked in page:

“Steve has been working in the Addictions and Mental Health Field for 27 years and runs Steve Stokes Counselling Services and Consulting. He is also the Clinical Program Consultant at South Pacific Private, Australia’s Leading Treatment Center in Curl Curl, N.S.W, Australia. In his Role he provides internal and external training at Conferences and Workshops as well as facilitating monthly Webinars for SPP.

Steve also has over 30 years personal Sobriety from Addiction in 12 step fellowships.Steve specializes in Developmental Trauma Treatment and Complex PTSD and Affect Regulation and it’s relationship to all Addiction Treatment. Steve specializes in Sex Addiction Treatment, Sex , Love and Avoidance addiction Treatment and co-occurring addictions and underlying Developmental Trauma.”

Video is courtesy of the South Pacific Private YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit the South Pacific Private website to learn more about their programs

Click on this line to visit the South Pacific Private Facebook Page to gain some insights from reviews left by people who received treatment there.

What it was like being in a relationship with a Narcissist.

This is a rather informative video. A Victim shares details from his 6 year long abusive relationship with a Somatic Narcissist.

It was surprising how this video essentially describes a Somatic Narcissist’s Playbook. Narcissists work from the same script, no matter where they live.

One interesting aspect of this video is that Mr. Smith is a Therapist, which goes to show that Narcissists can fool everyone. Narcissists really are amazing actors.

Video is courtesy of the familytreecounseling YouTube channel

How to stop Emotional Flashbacks. 4 Important Points to Remember

You are a Survivor. Your Nightmare Abusive Relationship is thankfully over. All is well, then something minor happens which changes your State. All of a sudden you have an Emotional Flashback, which darkens your day.

The 4 points discussed by Leyla Loric in this video, will help you to better understand what is happening. That knowledge could help you to deal with and stop those Emotional Flashbacks.

After a Flashback, you may feel the urge to contact your emotional abuser. Stay safe, by staying “No Contact“. By staying “No Contact” there is no way of you being Hoovered back into the abusive relationship which you had left.

In the past your Narcissist, Sociopath or Psychopath had picked you as a viable Target. You are now even more vulnerable and they will be more determined to suck you back in and then punish you for leaving them.

You increase your recovery from an abusive relationship by staying “No Contact”.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel

Craig Malkin Ph.D. discusses “Why Do People Stay in Abusive Relationships? The answer is more complicated than you think.”

The Three Phases of A Narcissistic Roller Coaster Relationship Cycle: Over-Evaluation, Devaluation, Discard

Well written post, by Savannah Grey, detailing the Narcissistic Relationship  Emotional Roller Coaster.

“People usually get into relationships for love and the need to connect and bond with another. Narcissists get into relationships for entirely different reasons.”

Please click on this line to visit the Esteemology website to read their complete post titled: “The Three Phases of A Narcissistic Relationship Cycle: Over-Evaluation, Devaluation, Discard“.

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It’s impossible to be in a healthy relationship with a Narcissist. “In Love With The Enemy”

In this video “Scott Binsack” explores Narcissism and what happens to those who get into a relationship with a Narcissist.

Video is courtesy of the Scott Binsack YouTube channel

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Does the Narcissist Miss You After No Contact?

Multitudes of people who’ve implemented No Contact with their Narcissistic partner will inevitably ask the question, Does the Narcissist miss me? Why?  Because they are often consumed with missing …

Source: Does the Narcissist Miss You After No Contact?

Author: Kim Saeed

The sacrifices you have to make for a relationship with a Narcissistic personality to work.

Why the Narcissist will try to reconnect with you after you have left them

When you break up with a Narcissist and they find out (yes they will keep tabs on you) that you have started dating someone else, often times the Narcissist will come running back to you. You were once their Source of Narcissistic Supply. Yes, they have a new Source of Narcissistic Supply, but the Narcissist fears losing you as a fallback option of Narcissistic Supply, when you start dating other people.

Talk to those who have broken up with a Narcissist and they will tell you that its never a good idea to fall for the empty promises of the Narcissist.

Video is courtesy of the Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach YouTube channel

 

 

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Why do Narcissists Cheat? Why do Narcissists leave relationships? Why or When do Narcissists Return or Come Back?

This video provides detailed answer to three questions:

1. Why Do Narcissists Cheat?
2. Why do Narcissists leave relationships?
3. Why or When do Narcissists Return or Come Back to the person they had dumped?

Video is courtesy of the Narcissist Free YouTube channel

The Narcissist Free YouTube channel is a superb resource about those who are afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and their Targeted Victims.

 

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“Christine Louis de Canonville” new workshop titled “UNDERSTANDING THE SELF-ABSORBED NARCISSISTIC MOTHER”

UPDATE Feb 16 2016Repaired all the links in this post. They now work again and take you to Christine’s site. Not sure what happened, but they do work now.

New Workshop On Narcissistic Mothers – The 26th February 2016
It’s almost time for my 3rd workshop. It’s about narcissistic mothers and the effects on her children.

It’s called “Mommie Dearest” – UNDERSTANDING THE SELF-ABSORBED NARCISSISTIC MOTHER.Revealing the Narcissistic Mother:

A mature mother with normal, healthy maternal nurturing instincts is a woman who is selfless, validates and loves her children unconditionally. She parents her children with empathy, and attunes into their inner emotional life as she prepares them for independent living when the time comes for them to leave the nest.

A narcissistic mother, on the other hand, is the antithesis of the mother I described above.  She is a mother who, instead of nurturing her children, is self-centred and mainly focused on herself. Rather than taking care of herself, the narcissistic mother expects to be taken care of by her children.

She neither trusts her children, nor believes in their basic goodness. She is brittle, controlling, does not observe boundaries, never apologizes or remembers her inappropriate behaviour, needs to be always right, will fly into rages, and project that anger onto her children.

She frightens her children, and discourages their independence. She needs to be the centre of attention, and is jealous if the children get attention from others. Her children are mere objects who represent her and show her in good light, but at the same time she is envious of their accomplishments, gifts and talents.

Her punishment is inconsistent and punitive, and she often uses the threat of abandonment to control them. All of this craziness serves to confuse her children and undermine their self esteem.  Of course, to the outside world everything is perfect, but behind closed doors the child is exposed to the horror of dealing with a mother with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

If you are the child of a narcissistic mother, or if you are a therapist working with the adult children of a narcissistic mother, then you need to understand that you are dealing with the behaviours of a mother who acts from a different set of criteria than the regular healthy loving mother.  As you can imagine, this disordered kind of parenting creates significant emotional damage to the child.

 

You’ll find all the information HERE or the link below for more details & booking..

http://narcissisticbehavior.net/narcissistic-mother-workshop/

This workshop is being held in Dublin, Ireland on 26th February 2016.

6 CPD points are awarded to all therapists who attend.

Warmest regards.
Christine
http://narcissisticbehavior.net/

The 3 Faces Of Evil – Unmasking The full Spectrum Of Narcissistic Abuse

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Disclaimer: Any Trademarks mentioned in this post are owned by the respective Trademark owner. Thanks go out to Christine Louis de Canonville for keeping us updated about her must attend workshops

“Sandra L. Brown” speaks about “Psychopathy ….When The Mask Begins to Slip”

Psychopathy ….When The Mask Begins to Slip” featuring “Sandra L. Brown and host Jenna Stauffer.

Video is courtesy of the Jenna Stauffer YouTube channel

Sandra L. Brown, M.A., is the founder of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education. Her books include:  How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, the award winning Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists, as well as the clinically relevant Counseling Victims of Violence: A Handbook for Helping Professionals.

 

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Fifty Shades of Sadism: Psychopaths as Lovers

Source: Fifty Shades of Sadism: Psychopaths as Lovers

An insightful post by Claudia Moscovici, of http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com

“Thomas Sheridan” Lecture titled “It is Now Time to Walk Out of Hell”.

Lifting the veil on Psychopaths and Psychopathy. “It’s just business”, no need for feelings. This video really nails it…

Video is courtesy of the Thomas Sheridan YouTUbe channel

 

Click on this line to visit Thomas Sheridan’s blog.

Click on this line to visit Thomas Sheridan’s website.

 

 

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Slandering Narcissist

Stockholm Syndrome: The Psychological Mystery of Loving an Abuser, Page 1