Category: Schema Therapy – Narcissism

Why this site was setup and who had inspired me to do so

Surprise, this site have been up for 6 months.

Who inspired me to start this site?

You see last year I learned a few things, which triggered the creation of this site.

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One evening, I was enjoying a few beers and the company of a lovely lady and kind soul. She shared some things from her past. I was taken aback. I had crossed paths with Narcissists, but never with a malignant Narc (that has since changed). Well my drinking buddy that evening had married a Malignant Narcissist. She moved to another part of the Globe. Then she learned what she had married.

In a rage her Malignant Narcissist ended up putting her in the hospital for months. She had no family in that country. She had no friends. Only the Flying Monkeys which were his family. Her experience gave me the idea for this site. If she had known about the Red Flags given off by Narcissists, she might not have gotten involved, let alone gotten married. and isolated in a foreign land.

The Sandra Brown video also gave me more inspiration. Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths are everywhere and mess up a lot of people. I believe that it is the fault of the educational systems. Having Narcissistic Personality Disorder is far more than just being “Stuck Up”, which is the common belief of what being a Narcissist is.

Because the Narcissist’s Play Book seems to be universal, I figured that if I could setup a site which showcased the Red Flags to look for, it might provide people with knowledge to make better decisions. On this site one can learn what those Red Flags are. Then watch for them.

When multiple Red Flags start showing up, it might be time to step back and reconsider one’s interaction with the individual who is displaying those multiple Red Flags. Multiple Red Flags could indicate that you are dealing with a Cluster-B Disordered Individual and it might be wise to slow down, to ask more questions. It would also be a good idea to introduce your new love interest to all your friends and family members, to get their important opinions. They can also potentially help Law Enforcement identify your new love interest, should you suddenly “Disappear” (I’m being very serious).

Disordered Individuals need to rush, when they are Psychologically Manipulating you. They can’t keep their mask on for too long. The sooner that they get into your head via the Love Bombing and Mirroring, the easier it will be isolate you. Once you are programmed and isolated, the Disordered Individual will relax. The Love Bombing False Persona could become a fond memory. Their Mask will start to come off. Your new Reality could be shocking and possibly painful. Especially if they can isolate you from your family and friends and make you totally dependant on them

I believe that this site has succeeded in providing information. I have noticed that a number of visitors are using the link found in the Main Menu at the top of the page, to help them find Licensed Therapists, who can help them heal from Narcissistic Abuse.

The number of visitors keeps growing each month. Thousands of individuals have visited and continue to visit this site. Even if only “one” single person learned about the Red Flags displayed by Disordered Individuals, then it was worth the time and effort. What that Malignant Narcissist had put my friend through, I would not wish on an enemy.

Her story has no ending.

She has to look over her shoulder when in public. She takes a Taxi home, even if it’s within walking distance, to reduce the chance of being followed.

Not a fun way to live.

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Schema Therapy – Narcissism

A Narcissist in a Schema Therapy session reenactment, reveals how his parents created him. A key incident is discussed, which explains why the Narcissist shut himself off from his emotions (detached self) when he was a child and now as an adult can’t relate to his wife’s feelings for example. He does not experience feelings. This reminds me of John Bradshaw’s videos about Healing the Inner Child.

One thought that I had after viewing this, is that the Narcissist’s Parents were clearly Narcissistic in their action of calling a babysitter to take their son to the Hospital, because they were in the middle of holding a party / celebration (ironically the party was supposed to be in honor of their young son). The implication is that Narcissists create Narcissists by way of their Narcissistic Nurturing and  Narcissistic Parenting methods which create Trauma in the young child resulting in a “wounded inner child” locked inside of the adult.

Quote from the text accompanying this video:

“The detached Sam (a combination of detached self-soother and self-aggrandizing) is identified as unable to comprehend or interact effectively with social relationships. The detached self is recognized as Sam’s perceived natural state, but that it was not always salient. Now the therapist has an inroad to the lonely child that is underneath the detached self-soother.

We recognize that in this video we did not take the client into a first-person imagery exercise intended to assist in vivid re-experiencing and restructuring of maladaptive schema formations. Doing it this way is a more powerful and effective manner. Due to the trauma often related to early maladaptive schema formation, the vivid re-experiencing exercises require other tools set in place such as prep-time, safe place imagery , and other safety mechanisms. The ‘milder’ interventions here could be used to ease clients into the practice, to reinforce vivid exercises used in the past, for less severe schemes, and validating hypotheses of Schema Modes.”

Schema Therapy – Narcissism Part 2 (Session 8)

Video is courtesy of the CloudSharePsy YouTube channel