In this video, Author Lynna Kivela, will discuss her book, My Sociopath, and the difference between Sociopaths and Malignant Narcissists in relationships and in politics.
Video is courtesy of the UCYTV YouTube channel
Click on this Link to visit Amazon.com to check out Lynna Kivela‘s book titled “My Sociopath”.
Dr. Martha Stout Ph.D, is the author of book titled “The Sociopath Next Door“. The Book Browse website has posted some really good insights by Martha Stout. They titled the post “An interview with Martha Stout“. It reads more like a good summary of Martha Stout’s thoughts, than an interview. In either case it is an interesting read.
In the post, under the section “Thirteen Rules for Dealing with Sociopaths in Everyday Life“, Martha Stout mentions what she calls the Rule of Threes. I’ll cut to the chase and bypass the first two events. This is what she concludes in her Rule of Threes: “But three lies says you’re dealing with a liar, and deceit is the linchpin of conscienceless behavior. Cut your losses and get out as soon as you can.“.
Flattery goes part and parcel with Love Bombing. I don’t have an inflated ego. If someone compliments me for something which I did, I’ll thank them. If they do it again, I’ll go “Huh?” to myself. When the compliments keep coming, I start questioning why is this person doing this. It is no longer flattering and I look for a motive.
That Martha Stout post touches on “Suspect Flattery“. The following is a good quote from Martha Stout about “Suspect flattery” : “It is the material of counterfeit charm, and nearly always involves an intent to manipulate.“.
The Book Browse post is full of helpful insights and is well worth reading. Martha Stout specializes in Sociopaths and her insights are targeted at Sociopathic behaviour. Pretty much everything which Martha Stout wrote to watch for, can apply equally well to Narcissists.
The story hit the AP Newswire. Because it’s copyrighted I can’t post it. There is already a YouTube video which has someone reading the AP report.
The Mail Online site did some further research and included photos of the female and her “ex”, which were not part of the AP News Feed.
Note the quote “didn’t accept being abandoned” (my quoting a few words out of hundreds for education purposes falls under “Fair Use” and I am quoting from the AP post). Interesting choice of words. It must be the victims fault. If she had not abandoned the guy, he would not have burned her alive. Somehow to them, it is always the fault of the victim.
In essence, the Ex followed the victim. Ran her car off the road. Got access to her car interior, while the victim was still in it. Poured alcohol into her car and lit it with a lighter. The victim left her now burning car. The Ex caught up to her. Threw alcohol at her head and lit it. She died from her burns. All that because the Ex “didn’t accept being abandoned”. He sure won her back, did he not.
Such a thing happening once, is one time too many. Yet this kind of thing sadly happens.
I know a female who takes a Taxi home after work, because she is scared of her ex following her if she walks home. That female was a major inspiration for me to setup this site. Her situation is a lot worse than the one in the news article. She’s been hospitalized for months at a time, thanks to her ex. Just imagine looking over your shoulder the rest of your life. Her ex is not just some regular ordinary office worker. She has a black belt in an Asian Martial Art. Her ex has had training way beyond that
People who have suffered Attachment and Abandonment Trauma when they were infants, can become very disordered adults. To suffer an Abandonment Trauma Event as a adult could send the person in two directions. One is to become suicidal over being abandoned. It is real, I’ve seen two somatic female Narcs go that route – both survived.
The other direction is to destroy the person who abandoned them (as in the news article). It comes down to the destruction of self or the other person. Someone has to pay, it’s either me or them. Disordered people have limited choices, especially those at the extreme end of disorders of Narcissism, and Sociopathy. Psychopaths, it is my understanding, would not suffer an Abandonment Trauma Event like say a Malignant Narcissist would. A Psychopath will kill you, because they want to kill you (no excuse needed to motivate them).
Learn the Red Flags to watch out for. If you don’t become involved with a Disordered individual, then you cannot abandon them. You become a non-issue to them, as they have a number of targets lined up to become potential sources of Narcissistic supply for example.
Click on this line to read the NY Post article about this event. The Mail Online article has more detail and photos – see the link further up in this post.
A new book titled “I Am Free. Healing Stories About Surviving Toxic Relationships With Narcissists And Sociopaths” written by “Bree Bonchay, LCSW” is now available to order on Amazon.com. It is available in Kindle book reader edition or as a paperback book.
Video is courtey of the Bree Bonchay YouTube channel
Click on this line to visit “RelationshiPedia – Knowledge is Power“, the website created by “Bree Bonchay, LCSW“. You’ll be glad that you visited her website, as it is is filled with helpful “Knowledge”.
In the past I have discussed Psychological Manipulations Techniques used by Narcissists, such as Love Bombing and Mirroring. Well their bag of Mind Control techniques does not stop at Love Bombing and Mirroring.
Next up, lets discuss “Pacing and Leading“.
“Pacing and Leading” is another Psychological Manipulation Technique commonly used by Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths. They will Love Bomb you. They will Mirror you. They will use Pacing and Leading. They want to establish Rapport without you realizing that it is all fake and is being done in an attempt to “control you“. Once Rapport is established, your natural defense mechanism will be turn off, “by you”.
Love Bombing, Mirroring, Pacing and Leading work.
That is why Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths are so well versed in these Psychological Manipulation Techniques. For you this is all new. The Narcissist knows that you and most people have never even heard of this stuff.
Video is courtesy of the Dantalion Jones YouTube channel
Posted to uniquelynarcissistic.wordpress.com
This is the first of two videos. It covers the the female Somatic Narcissist and the Antisocial Sociopath con artist Narcissist.
The Cluster B & Me YouTube channel is well worth visiting to view the many informative videos.
Video is courtesy of the Cluster B & Me YouTube channel
Potential victims are advised to watch carefully for Mirroring. Narcissists are very well adapt at Mirroring. Why? Because it works, allowing the Narcissist to quickly establish Rapport with their potential target.
When you know what to look for, you will spot it. I have watched Narcissists use Mirroring time and time again against potential targets, who had no clue that they were being manipulated.
Mirroring is very powerful, but can easily be spotted if you know what to look for…