Category: Soul Mate

Narcissists use the fairy-tale romance, as a way to manipulate, ensnare and keep their new sources of Narcissistic Supply hooked!

Have you recently met someone new?

Have they swept you off your feet?

Do they tell you that they feel a deep connection to you?

Do they seem like they just can’t get enough of you, being constantly in touch with you via Text Messages or the Telephone?

By chance, have they mentioned to you, that feel that you are their “Soul Mate“?

Might I suggest that your new lover may have found their next “Source of Narcissistic Supply“, and not their “Soul Mate“.

Narcissists use what are essentially Psychological Manipulation and Control Techniques.

Watch this video from a Gal who has been through the Soul Mate Fairytale Romance BS. Her title for the video is great: “Narcissists – Beware of the Fairytale Romance!“.

UPDATE: The video is no longer on YouTube

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Tell me again, how you feel that we are Soul Mates and Kindred Spirits.

 

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Quote:Tell me again how you feel that we are Soul Mates and Kindred Spirits. Oh, before I forget, can I ask you a big favor? Whenever you are finished Backstabbing me, could you please remove all those knife blades.

 

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11 Lies that Love Bombing Narcissists tell by Kim Saeed

Kim Saeed runs a website called Let Me Reach.

Click on this link to visit Kim Saeed’s website to read her post “Exposed! 11 Lies Love-Bombing Narcissists Tell. Yet, more lies and Red Flags from Narcissists.

Kim listed 11 Lies. I would add one more to her list.

12 – You must be my Soul Mate or We must be Soul Mates. There could be many other variants of them having found their Soul Mate in you. We are “Kindred Spirits” is another line of BS,  with similar meaning.

Love Bombing and the “You are my Soul Mate” scam

Angie Atkinson has some great videos on her YouTube Channel. The video below goes well with our recent prior post about the “You are my Soul Mate” hook. That nonsense line is given out by Narcissists, during the Love Bombing phase.

The Soulmate Scammer: How to Identify a Love Bombing Narcissist

video courtesy of the Angie Atkinson YouTube channel

Narcissist Red Flag “When I look at you I see my Soul Mate. I feel that we are Kindred Spirits”

A Narcissist looks deeply into your eyes and softly says that when they look at you they see their “Soul Mate“. Your heart rate increases. Your face starts to flush. Your Fight or Flight response shuts down. You become enamored. Your judgements becomes clouded. You believe the Narcissist and feel oh so wonderful having found “Your Soul Mate“.

A variant of the above is having the Narcissist take you aside (they would not want other potential Targets to hear) to inform you that they feel that the both of you are “Kindred Spirits“.

Not so fast. Heck you hardly know each other. It could be a Red Flag called Love Bombing, which is a tactic commonly used by Cluster-B Disordered individuals such as Narcissists.

Generally you get such “Bullshit” lines when the Narcissist wants something, which they believe that they can con you into “giving to them”.

It could be something physical, like maybe providing a roof over their head when they move into your “Home”. Narcissists are rather good at planning ahead, “for themselves”.

It could be that you are wealthy and the Narcissist feels that it would only be proper if a “Soul Mate” shared their wealth with another “Soul Mate”.

It could be that you are rather Handsome or Beautiful. The Narcissist would feel so proud parading you around on their arm. The Trophy Wife syndrome.

Maybe you are extremely popular and or famous. In such a case the Narcissist will happily tag along to all those special events that you get invited to. That helps to keep their fragile Ego well inflated.

It could be that they are having a bad month. Their last source of Narcissistic Supply finally got fed up and went No Contact. The Narcissist needs Narcissistic Supply, not unlike a Drug Addict needing their fix.

You may not be rich or beautiful or famous. You’re just a normal average human being, who has an internal desire to be find someone to love and to be loved back. As such, to the narcissist you are nothing special.

A Cerebral Narcissist, for example, would not give you a second thought because to them you just are not good enough and so unworthy of becoming their Source of Narcissistic Supply. Unless they are down on their Source of Narcissistic Supply. In such a case they will gladly “use” anyone. Heck when they find a way better Source of Supply, they can unceremoniously dump you. For now they open their bag of tricks and start with the Love Bombing.

Are you still glad the Narcissist told you that they see you as their “Soul Mate” or that you both are “Kindred Spirits“?

Google’s Search Engine is your friend. Do some searches for “Support for Victims of Narcissistic Abuse” and variations of that. You will find many Yahoo Groups, websites and Facebook Groups filled with individuals who in their past, had been used and abused by one or more Narcissists. Visit those groups and ask the prior victims whether they still feel that the Narcissist was ever their “Soul Mate“.

When someone whom you barely know (it could be a co-worker or someone that you met in a bar) starts talking about you and them being “Soul Mates” or being “Kindred Spirits“, take a deep breath. Such talk could very well be an indication that you are dealing with a personality disordered individual.

Been there and heard that. If the nonsense talk of “Soul Mates or Kindred Spirits” comes up, I remain polite. If it happens on a first date, I still try to have a fun evening. When I take my date home, I decline her offer to come in for a night cap drink. A night cap invite, is really an invite to spend the night,

Yes, becoming intimate with pretty much a stranger can be enjoyable. It could also emotionally trap you in the land of regrets. If someone is that easy and eager to get into bed with you, then they could be just as easy and eager to get into bed with someone else (or anyone else for that matter). Of course your mileage may differ. On my way home, I make a mental note to have as little as possible to do with that person again.

Have I ever considered that the “Soul Mates” “Kindred Spirits” nonsense was the real deal? Look, when you barely know someone, they do not know you. The only thing that they have any knowledge of, is how you look physically. But it is what is inside that counts. They have “not” spent enough time with you, to discover “you”. In my opinion, they are only feeding you a line to hook you. I step back and ask myself why would someone do that?

Click on this line to view our prior post which features an animated video of a female Narcissist using the Love Bombing technique with the “Soul Mate” hook.

 

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When I look at you I see my Soul Mate. I feel that we are Kindred Spirits

A Narcissist looks deeply into your eyes and softly says that when they look at you they see their “Soul Mate“. Your heart rate increases. Your face starts to flush. Your Fight or Flight response shuts down. You become enamored. Your judgements becomes clouded. You believe the Narcissist and feel oh so wonderful having found “Your Soul Mate“.

A variant of the above is having the Narcissist take you aside (they would not want other potential Targets to hear) to inform you that they feel that the both of you are “Kindred Spirits“.

Not so fast. Heck you hardly know each other. It could be a Red Flag called Love Bombing, which is a tactic commonly used by Cluster-B Disordered individuals such as Narcissists.

Generally you get such “Bullshit” lines when the Narcissist wants something, which they believe that they can con you into “giving to them”.

It could be something physical, like maybe providing a roof over their head when they move into your “Home”. Narcissists are rather good at planning ahead, “for themselves”.

It could be that you are wealthy and the Narcissist feels that it would only be proper if a “Soul Mate” shared their wealth with another “Soul Mate”.

It could be that you are rather Handsome or Beautiful. The Narcissist would feel so proud parading you around on their arm. The Trophy Wife syndrome.

Maybe you are extremely popular and or famous. In such a case the Narcissist will happily tag along to all those special events that you get invited to. That helps to keep their fragile Ego well inflated.

It could be that they are having a bad month. Their last source of Narcissistic Supply finally got fed up and went No Contact. The Narcissist needs Narcissistic Supply, not unlike a Drug Addict needing their fix.

You may not be rich or beautiful or famous. You’re just a normal average human being, who has an internal desire to be find someone to love and to be loved back. As such, to the narcissist you are nothing special.

A Cerebral Narcissist, for example, would not give you a second thought because to them you just are not good enough and so unworthy of becoming their Source of Narcissistic Supply. Unless they are down on their Source of Narcissistic Supply. In such a case they will gladly “use” anyone. Heck when they find a way better Source of Supply, they can unceremoniously dump you. For now they open their bag of tricks and start with the Love Bombing.

Are you still glad the Narcissist told you that they see you as their “Soul Mate” or that you both are “Kindred Spirits“?

Google’s Search Engine is your friend. Do some searches for “Support for Victims of Narcissistic Abuse” and variations of that. You will find many Yahoo Groups, websites and Facebook Groups filled with individuals who in their past, had been used and abused by one or more Narcissists. Visit those groups and ask the prior victims whether they still feel that the Narcissist was ever their “Soul Mate“.

When someone whom you barely know (it could be a co-worker or someone that you met in a bar) starts talking about you and them being “Soul Mates” or being “Kindred Spirits“, take a deep breath. Such talk could very well be an indication that you are dealing with a personality disordered individual.

Been there and heard that. If the nonsense talk of “Soul Mates or Kindred Spirits” comes up, I remain polite. If it happens on a first date, I still try to have a fun evening. When I take my date home, I decline her offer to come in for a night cap drink. A night cap invite, is really an invite to spend the night,

Yes, becoming intimate with pretty much a stranger can be enjoyable. It could also emotionally trap you in the land of regrets. If someone is that easy and eager to get into bed with you, then they could be just as easy and eager to get into bed with someone else (or anyone else for that matter). Of course your mileage may differ. On my way home, I make a mental note to have as little as possible to do with that person again.

Have I ever considered that the “Soul Mates” “Kindred Spirits” nonsense was the real deal? Look, when you barely know someone, they do not know you. The only thing that they have any knowledge of, is how you look physically. But it is what is inside that counts. They have “not” spent enough time with you, to discover “you”. In my opinion, they are only feeding you a line to hook you. I step back and ask myself why would someone do that?

Click on this line to view our prior post which features an animated video of a female Narcissist using the Love Bombing technique with the “Soul Mate” hook.

 

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Narcissist Suzie gets a new victim. Episode 1 – Falling into the trap.

This video gives one an insight into the behaviour, thinking and traits of a Narcissist. I love the line in the video where she states “I think you are my Soul Mate“. That line, and variations of it, is a Narcissist favorite to use during the Love Bombing phase.

BTW, once you have been “primed” by a Narcissist, other Narcissists are able to pick you out of a crowd (see this prior post about a really informative lecture from Christine De Canonville).

Narcissist Suzie gets a new victim.

Video is courtesy of the begood4000 YouTube channel

Have you just met your “Soul Mate”?

What wouldn’t anyone give to meet their “Soul Mate“? Someone who is attentive and oh so charming. The constant texting and or phone calls to tell you that they “Love You”. They say the things which you so much want to hear. They are sweeping you off your feet.

If your new Love Interest is a Narcissist, they eventually will be sweeping you under the rug. They are oh so charming, until you find out why they were so charming. Wake up, they want something.

Video is courtesy of the Beverly Banov Brown,M.S. YouTube channel

Your newly found “Soul Mate” Narcissist is Love Bombing you. That is a Psychological Manipulation Technique used to get you to drop your instinctive guard when meeting new people. They want to totally shutdown your natural fight or flight response. Once that response is shutdown, then they can take total control of you, yes you. Do you still think that you have met your “Soul Mate”?

The constant communications and contact with your newly found “Soul Mate”, is also helping to isolate you from other people. They know what they are doing, as they have had lots of prior practice. You on the other hand are naive and trusting. Been there, done that.

Like other videos by Beverly Banov Brown, I’m glad that I can share them here via YouTube. Her videos are to the point and I hope that everyone finds them to be informative.

Love Bombing is a major Red Flag to watch for. Narcissist hide their Love Bombing in plain sight. They use Love Bombing because it works. The same reason why they also use Mirroring while they are Love Bombing you. Narcissists are very well versed in both of these Psychological Manipulation Techniques.

 

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