Breaking the Codependency Myth: The Power of The Trauma Bond by Shahida Arabi “Free” by Alice Popkorn via Flickr. Creative Commons License. Ever had a victim-blamer claim you were “codependent”? That you in some way deserved the abuse, or that it was your fault? Let them know: codependency was a term historically used to describe […]
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Attachment Injuries during childhood are directly linked to adult Codependency.
You need to give yourself that which you never received when you were a child.
Your Narcissistic Partner will never be the Corrective Experience for that Attachment Injury.
Quite the contrary, the Narcissist was attracted to you because of your Codependency which made it very easy for them to Use and Manipulate you.
You need a healthy relationship, where your partner can show you that they care about and love you and that “you matter” to them.
Narcissists lack empathy and so are unable to care about or love others.
To a narcissist your only value is in you being a source of Narcissistic Supply, which can and usually will be replaced with a better source of Narcissistic Supply. Narcissists are always “hunting” for new and better sources of Narcissistic Supply.
Video is courtesy of the Alan Robarge YouTube channel.
Starting with answering the question “What is Codependency?“, this video gives insights into becoming self aware of the “triggers” of your Codependent Behaviour.
Becoming aware of your Codependent Behaviour,
is the first major step to changing said behaviour.
Video is courtesy of the Brian Pisor YouTube channel
Narcissists use Love Bombing to reel in their prey. Codependents tend to be very prone to be taken in by Love Bombing techniques.
The video starts off with a description of what Love Bombing looks like.
Very well presented Red Flag from the point of view of the Codependent Target/Victim. Her analogy of an empty bucket is food for thought.
Video is courtesy of the Thrive After Abuse YouTube channel