Stephanie Lyn explains the Narcissist and Codependent dance. That abusive Narcissist was attracted to you, because you are always willing to give of yourself to help others.
Sadly, Narcissistic Predators are constantly on the lookout for people who willingly give of themselves.
Video is courtesy of the Stephanie Lyn Coaching YouTube Channel
At one time, I had gotten a job because I had brought the Narcissist (who did the hiring interview) detailed info about a new Ransomware spreading across the Internet. Much much later after getting hired, I was informed by the Narcissist that they felt it be very important when people bring them things. In other words that Narcissist saw that I was willing to give and Narcissists are always looking for individuals that they can feed off.
That Narcissist was classic, I would watch him mirror people – at times changing his physical position dramatically to match the person they were trying to Mirror. It was fascinating and over time became very predictable behavior. My eyes were opened when I had stumbled across an article about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.
Click on this link to view the articles on Uniquely Narcissistic which are about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.
Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter describes 7 mind games commonly played by a Narcissist, and outlines ways to stay clear of them.
Video is courtesy of the Surviving Narcissism YouTube Channel.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula, psychologist and author, discusses the differences between Psychopaths, Sociopaths and Narcissists.
Video is courtesy of the MedCircle YouTube Channel.
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the same way he’ s mistreated
every woman he dated before me?”
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Red Flags are mentioned on this site very often. They are important signs which can help one learn that they are in a relationship with a Disordered Individual.
Jodie met Chris on Facebook. Jodie mentioned that Chris was “very charming”. Disordered individuals can be extremely charming. Within 10 months they were married. Disordered individuals are well versed in Love Bombing.
Within months of the marriage, her husband started to control Jodie. Major Red Flag.
Jodie was also systematically isolated from her friends and family. He made sure that he had cut her off her from any possible support. Major Red Flag.
Video courtesy of the From Surviving To Thriving!! YouTube channel
Only he had access to the bank account. Another Major Red Flag.
The physical abuse then heraled the post Love Bombing phase. He now had total control of Jodie. It started with him spitting at her face. NOT a wonderful sign of affection between and husband and his wife.
It is hard to admit that one made a mistake of getting into a relationship with a disordered individual. Seek Help by visiting your local Law Enforcement agency. There are support lines which can provide guidance. Spitting in her face was nothing compared to what he did to her later. She became his punching bag.
When she was pregnant with his child, he physically attacked and punched the hell out of her.
Please click on this link to visit THE SUN‘s website to read their exclusive article about what happened to Jodie Bywater.
I hope that something like this will never happen to you !!!
See how many Red Flags you can spot. This is a horrific story. It opens our eyes to the fact that Disordered Individuals are out there. Watch for those Red Flags.
of Narcissistic Traits displayed by individuals.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula Ph.D, an Expert on Narcisissism, authored the book titled “Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Narcissistic Relationship“.
Video courtesy of the LAHWF YouTube Channel
Dr. Ramani Durvasula repeatedly mentions that Narcissists are made. I fully agree. Due to trauma during their early years, a Narcissist’s brain becoming hard wired differently. Brian scans confirm this. Once the “damaged” child grows up, you cannot change the way that their brain works.
Therapy cannot “fix” Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Click on the following link to visit Oprah.com where there is a Quiz by Dr. Ramani Durvasula titled “Is Your Partner a Narcissist?”.
Please read The New Yorker article linked to below.
Always watch for any Red Flags when in a relationship.
Be on the lookout for the consistent use of Mirroring.
Going No Contact can protect you,
but it is not easy to do.
Stephen Gane was found guilty and jailed for four years for coercive behaviour and ‘Gaslighting‘ in landmark case. He drove Kellie Sutton to hang herself, only five month after beginning a relationship with her.
Kellie was a Mother of 3 children. She had been single for a couple of years before she was targeted by Stephen Gane.
Her grieving family read the following in court: “Kellie was a daughter, a sister, a niece, a granddaughter, a great grand daughter and a mother. She was caring, funny, affectionate, bubbly and kind. She was a loyal friend – the kind of person who would go out of their way to help others. She could not bear to see anyone suffering and would put herself out to help anyone. She didn’t have a bad bone in her body.“
From this we can see that Kellie was an Empath. Disordered Individuals can spot an Empath from a mile away. Within weeks of meeting her, Steven moved into “her house”.
Kellie’s friend had this to say “I told her to stay away from him because he seemed controlling.”. She disliked Stephen and you can be sure Stephen made sure that Kellie was kept away from her friends.
Stephen Gane denied hurting Kellie. He said they loved each other but their relationship was sometimes ‘volatile’. Disordered Individuals will never admit to doing anything wrong.
He was found guilty of actual bodily harm and one charge of assault by beating. One must assume that splitting her head open, was his way of showing his Love and Affection.
Disordered Individual will target someone (like you) to “USE” you. Note that Stephen Mane showed “No evidence of sadness or regret“. Disordered Individual could care less about others. They do not care how much pain and sorrow they create for others, as long they get what they WANT.
There are MILLIONS of Disordered Individuals, like Staphen Gane, out there. Please watch for the Red Flags. Please listen to your friends, who may spot odd behaviour which signal danger to them.
The only positive thing which will come from the death of this young woman is that she gave her life to spare her children untold horrors which were waiting for them. Imagine having someone like Stephen Gane being the father figure to her three kids? He would have destroyed those kids. Over the 5 months that he lived in Kellie’s house, I’m sure that her kids were tramatized. I hope that they can receive Psychiatric help to help get over the loss of their Mother and over the Traumas caused by Stephen Gane.
The most horrible thought is that he will get out of jail and will seek a new victim. Disordered Individuals cannot be fixed. Their brains are hard wired differently.
A relationship to a Disordered Individual, such as a Narcissist, is all about them gaining Control over their Target.
You will note one Major Red Flag and Danger Sign mentioned in this video. The Target/Victim became ISOLATED from Friends and Family. A Disordered Individual will work to isolate the Target. That allows greater control of the Target. As you become more and more Isolated, you will become much more vulnerable. Kellie Sutton became isolated and her only option to escape was Suicide.
Click on this link to read the Daily Mail article titled “Mother’s heartbreak after daughter was driven to suicide by her former soldier boyfriend as he is jailed for four years for coercive behaviour and ‘gaslighting’ in landmark case“.
Video is courtesy of the Sun Lion YouTube channel
“I Never knew that a Human Being could be so evil“. He had doused her with gasoline and set her on fire. Then he stood there and did nothing.
Judy Malinowski left a message for others: “Verbal abuse is the start of physical abuse“.
Take a good look at Judy, in the video below. Just think, it could be you in that Hospital Bed fighting for your life. Watch for any Red Flags. Going NO Contact may protect you. There are Disordered individuals out there, who will set you on fire and stand there and just watch you suffer and burn. Such persons have no Empathy for the pain and suffering of others. Is that the type of person one would want to have a relationship with?
Video is courtesy of the NBC4 WCMH-TV Columbus YouTube Channel
PLEASE be CAREFUL,
who you let into your life.
Watch for the Red Flags
of Disordered Individuals.
Good insights into the Narcissistic Love Bombing. The one key to remember is that Narcissists “know what they are doing”.
Love Bombing shuts down your internal “Alarm System”, which could warn you that there is something very wrong with what is happening.
Video is courtesy of the Inner Integration YouTube channel
This video is courtesy of the Cultura Colectiva Facebook page.
IMHO Infant and Childhood Trauma change the way the Brains of Narcissits and Psychopaths end up becoming hard wired. Brain scans have confirmed that their Brains are wired differently.
The video below provides some insight into the Infant Trauma caused when a baby starts crying, but does not get any help or attention. When such Trauma occurs over and over, that infant’s brain gets wired differently. When that infant becomes an adult, that adult will behave differently. Rather insightful video.
Please click on the link below. It will open a new Browser window and display the video. For some reason I have never been able to get Facebook videos to work like the videos on YouTube always do.
If the Warning Signs are persisistent, you may want to seriously consider Going No Contact. Staying with a Narcissist will allow the Narcissist to continue to attack and destroy YOU and if given the opportunity, they will.
Video is courtesy of the Derrick Jaxn YouTube channel