What it is like working for a Malignant Narcissist Boss

I happened on this article which is well written. She did not initially see that her Boss was a Narcissist. When her eyes were opened, she realized that he was not just Narcissistic, but was a rather Malignant Narcissist.

She started to do research on Narcissism. Thankfully she had the support of family and friends, who kept suggesting that she quit her job. Finally she quit. She did not say anything to the Narcissist Boss. She quit and went Go No Contact.

I found this to be a very good real life example of what it can be like, when one finds themselves working for a Malignant Narcissist Boss.

Click on this line to visit the catherinedeveny.com website to read her article titled: “

See You Next Tuesday! Quitting the toxic boss – Jennifer Lim

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Narcissistic Injury and the attacks which follow

The DSM 5 manual defines Narcissistic Injury as: “vulnerability in self-esteem which makes narcissistic people very sensitive to ‘injury’ from criticism or defeat. Although they may not show it outwardly, criticism may haunt these individuals and may leave them feeling humiliated, degraded, hollow and empty. They react with disdain, rage, or defiant counterattack.”.

Click on this link to visit the Psychology Today website to read their article titled: “The Destructive Force of Narcissistic Injury“.

Video is courtesy of the DD Morris YouTube channel

Narcissistic Injury was first used by Sigmund Freud back in the 1920’s. A Narcissistic Injury occurs when the Narcissist’s importance is brought into question.

Click on this link to visit the WikiPedia page to read their post titled: “Narcissistic Rage and Narcissistic Injury“.

A Narcissistic Injury can also occur when a person does not accommodate a Narcissist’s insatiable need for constant Admiration and Praise.

Click on this link to visit the PsychCentral website to read their article titled: “Narcissistic Injuries: What They Are and How to Protect Yourself from Them“.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Psychology of Demons

Dr. Todd Grande describes Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Dr. Todd Grande describes Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder as outlined in the DSM 5, is characterized by
– a grandiose sense of self-importance,
– a preoccupation with unlimited success, feeling too special to    be understood by regular people,
– needing excessive admiration,
– a sense of entitlement,
– being interpersonally exploitative,
– having a lack of empathy,
– being envious and others and believe others are envious of        them,
– and being arrogant.

 

Video is courtesy of the Dr. Todd Grande YouTube channel

 

Even the slightest criticism is not well received by most people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. IMHO I believe it is because they have internalized rather Low Self Esteem.

 

Video is courtesy of the Dr. Todd Grande YouTube channel

Man poured gasoline on his Girlfriend and set her on fire. In court he showed an astounding Lack of Empathy

The judge stated the obvious that the man showed an astounding Lack of Empathy.

In the discussion with the Judge, the man starts to Gaslight the Judge and states that he did not mean to do that. Then he blames the his girlfriend. He stated that his girlfriend pushed him to do what his did.  The Judge responded with “So, You are the victim?”.

Click on the following link to view the Courtroom video: https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/community/miami-dade/article228084159.html

Click on this link to visit the Miami Herald website to read their News Article titled “‘You lit her on fire!’ Miami judge scolds man who torched girlfriend to death“.

Interview with a Wife Beater

Video is courtesy of the 60 Minutes Australia YouTube Channel

Listen to the video and how the wife beater make excuses. He plays the cat and mouse game. He admits that he did wrong, then does not and makes excuses.

The video shot by his son shows that he threw his wife to the ground. Yet he states that he just wanted to give her a hug. He would not admit throwing her to the ground. Shoots back with a question: “Did I throw her to the ground?”.

He tries to shift the blame to the victim by saying that he does not know what his wife has said. Yet the video clearly shows him throwing his wife to the ground.

He thinks that there is no difference between saying that he repeatedly punched his wife in the head and giving her “taps”. He says that gave his wife “a couple of taps in the bathroom“. Changes the situation to be the fault of the wife.

He was asked if he believes that he was a “Monster”. He comes back saying that no he is not. A Malignant Narcissist will not admit that they did anything wrong. He says that he just “tapped” his wife, yet there is photo in the video of his wife with two black eyes. One must assume that to him it was OK to just “tap” his wife and that it was his wife’s fault that she ended up with two black eyes.

IMHO you cannot heal or change a Malignant Narcissist. IMHO, the best protection is to Go No Contact and work with the local Police and the Legal Courts.

People with a history of Domestic Violence convictions will be barred from entry to Australia

This is a start. If someone had been charged with Domestic Violence in the past, then they will be barred from coming to Australia.

Click on this link to visit the France 24 website to view their article titled “Australia to bar visitors with domestic violence convictions“.

 

Reduced Laughter Contagion in Children Could be the mechanism by which Narcissism, Antisocial Behavior and Psychopathy are developed

This new Medical Study sheds some light on one area of development of a child which could impact that’s child’s future.

If the young child is raised in an environment where there are no times of laughter among the people raising that child, then  the child could be negatively impacted. One example could be a Husband and Wife constantly bickering and fighting and never having time to laugh together. The Child could grow up in a sad home where the family never shared laughter together.

So something as simple of having laughter in a child’s life, could  impact their development into Human Beings who care and have empathy for fellow Human Beings.

I also suspect that this could be used in Junior Kindergarten. Bring in really funny movies for the kids to watch. The children could laugh together, which just might help develop empathy in those children who have never experienced laughter at home.

Click on this link to visit the Elsevier Inc website to read their Open Access Published Research Study by

Please note this Research Study was published Open Access, so there is No Pay Wall to cross to be able to read it. I personally am grateful for Open Access publishing of Research Studies.

Too often one has to pay to be able cross a Pay Wall to be able to read a Research Study and most Research is funded by Government Agencies which are funded by us the Taxed Payers. In my opinion it seems unfair to the Tax Payers to pay once to finance the Research Study and then have to pay a second time to be able to read the Research Study which Tax Payers helped fund.

One last note. William James (1842-1910) who was the first to offer a Psychology Course in the United States, created a great quote: “We don’t laugh because we’re happy, we’re happy because we laugh.

This could be another RED FLAG to watch for. Does the suspected Narcissist or Disordered Individual genuinely laugh along with others at a gathering? In a longer term relationship, do you both laugh together often or Not At All?

The Heart Breaking story of Lorena Bobbitt

Charisma. What makes a person magnetic and why we should be wary.

 

This post is about Red Flags to watch out for.

Click on this link to visit the Natilus website to read the post by Adam Piore titled: “The Anatomy of Charisma. What makes a person magnetic and why we should be wary.”

Click on this link to visit the Natilus website to read another post b y Adam Piore titled: “Why Joel Osteen, “The Smiling Preacher,” Is So Darn Appealing“.

 

I Almost Married a Con Man by Abby Ellin

 

Abby Ellin wrote a perfect intro to her article as follows:

My ex-fiancé helped orchestrate the raid on Osama bin Laden. He received a Purple Heart for his military service and a medal of honor from Golda Meir. He thwarted a bioterrorism attack in New York City and saved the grandson of one of the world’s wealthiest men from an attempted kidnapping. None of it was public. He didn’t write a book about his escapades or sell his story to Hollywood. His goal wasn’t to become rich and famous but to keep his children—and all of America—safe from the “bad guys.” “I’m not going to sit by while people are in danger,” he’d often say as he packed his bags for a secret mission.

It was wonderfully noble, except for one minor detail: None of it was true.

Click on this link to visit the Marie Claire Website to read the post by Abby Ellin titled “I Almost Married a Con Man“.

 

Gaslighting Basics: From A – Z. Interview with Ross Rosenberg

 

In this interview Ross Rosenberg details Gaslighting Basics.

Gaslighting is a major Red Flag displayed by Narcissists.

Video is courtesy of the Ross Rosenberg YouTube Channel

Click on this link to visit the Ross Rosenberg Facebook page.

 

You Attracted that Narcissist. Stephanie Lyn explains why.

Stephanie Lyn explains the Narcissist and Codependent dance. That abusive Narcissist was attracted to you, because you are always willing to give of yourself to help others.

Sadly, Narcissistic Predators are constantly on the lookout for people who willingly give of themselves.

Video is courtesy of the Stephanie Lyn Coaching YouTube Channel

At one time, I had gotten a job because I had brought the Narcissist (who did the hiring interview) detailed info about a new Ransomware spreading across the Internet. Much much later after getting hired, I was informed by the Narcissist that they felt it be very important when people bring them things. In other words that Narcissist saw that I was willing to give and Narcissists are always looking for individuals that they can feed off.

That Narcissist was classic, I would watch him mirror people – at times changing his physical position dramatically to match the person they were trying to Mirror. It was fascinating and over time became very predictable behavior. My eyes were opened when I had stumbled across an article about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.

Click on this link to view the articles on Uniquely Narcissistic which are about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.

 

7 mind games commonly played by a narcissist, and ways to stay clear of them.

How to Spot the Difference between a Narcissist, a Psychopath, and a Sociopath.

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, psychologist and author,  discusses the differences between Psychopaths, Sociopaths and Narcissists.

Video is courtesy of the MedCircle YouTube Channel.

Click on this line to visit Amazon.com to see the book “Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist” which Dr. Ramani Durvasula  has authored.

Do you think he’ll mistreat me the same way he’ s mistreated every woman he dated before me ?