Ex-Boyfriend Arranged Acid Attack

Click on this link to visit The Sun news website to read their news post titled: “ACID HORROR Woman who was scarred for life when her ex-boyfriend hired a hitman to throw acid on her recalls watching her skin ‘drip to the floor“.

Edmundo Fonseca, who threw the acid was told to throw it at her face. He did not. He also said “Sorry” before throwing the acid on Ellie Chessell’s body. In court he stated that he was deceived, because he was told that it was urine which he was to throw.

Ellie’s Ex-Boyfriend Claudio Gouveia, had hired Edmundo to throw the acid after Ellie left the two-year old relationship. She went Go No Contact to the point of moving to a different city. Unfortunately her Ex-Boyfriend had refused to give Ellie her laptop and cell phone. She believes that he was able to track her down and monitor her using the cell phone.

Video is courtesy of The Morning YouTube channel

Please be careful out there. Ellie took the best option by trying to Go No Contact. Disordered Individuals can attack when they lose their source of Narcissistic Supply. If there was any violence during the relationship, please speak to your local Law Enforcement, even if you had not reported the violence when it had happened.

At least in this case the Ex-Boyfriend Claudio Gouveia was charged and convicted with Attempted Murder and was sentenced to 12 years in jail.

Ellie stated she now suffers from PTSD and is getting treatment. He body will be forever scarred. Thankfully the acid was not thrown directly in her face.

If you decide to Go No Contact, then be prepared to Expect the Unexpected from the Narcissist.

8 Red Flags to Watch for

In a healthy relationship, partners naturally try to be there for each other. In the mind of a Disordered Individual, you are there to serve their own needs and your needs do not matter.

In a healthy relationship there can be Open Dialogue between the two partners. In a relationship with a Disordered Individual their monologue is what is important. They do NOT care to listen to what you have to say.

I came across a great article which discusses what I would call 8 Red Flags to watch out for.

Click on this link to visit the Lessons Learned in Life website to read their article titled: “Watch out: If a Man Does These 8 Things, He Doesn’t Truly Value You“.

You’ll Never Survive Working for a Narcissistic Boss

The Optimum Talent website’s Optimum Talks Blog has a superb post by Frances Sardone, titled: “You’ll Never Survive Working for a Narcissistic Leader – Here’s Why“.The last line in their post really struck home for me. It was: “Can you work for a Narcissist? No, you can’t. No one can and remain healthy.“.

I have read posts on websites about working with a Narcissist Boss, which implied that you can change the Boss. Sorry, but I strongly disagree. IMHO, you cannot fix that which is hardwired differently in the brain of the Narcissist. Many Trained and very Experienced Therapists state that they cannot change a Narcissist. Good Luck getting a Narcissist to go to a Therapist asking for Help. The one course of action which an employee of a Narcissistic Boss, which works, is to Go No Contact – Quit without notice and never come back.

Click on this link to visit the Optimum Talent website to read their excellent article titled: “You’ll Never Survive Working for a Narcissistic Leader – Here’s Why“.

 

How a Narcissistic Boss Causes Stress and Burnout by Dr. Hamlin

Dr. Hamlin discusses How a Narcissistic Boss Causes Stress and Burnout. He also offers a few tips for how to cope with a Narcissistic Boss, so that you can protect yourself.

Video is courtesy of the Steps for Change YouTube channel

7 Emotional Manipulation Strategies which Narcissists use to confuse conversations

Sharing the Truth of the Narcissist’s actions and you may think you are suddenly in episode of the Twilight Zone. Your reality will not be accepted by the Narcissist. This can occur within a personal relationship and also in a work environment with a Narcissistic Boss.

If you create a Narcissistic Injury, then lookout as the Narcissist will twist things to Keep the Focus OFF OF The FACTS which you spoke about. They will switch to talking about and accuse you of things totally unrelated to what the original discussion was about. How dare you question the Narcissist. 

Video is courtesy of the Michele Lee Nieves Coaching YouTube channel

Toxic Workplace & Narcissist Boss – Dr. Karlyn Borysenko

Toxic Workplace & Narcissist Boss” is a video of an interview with Dr. Karlyn Borysenko, who is an Organizational Psychologist and Author and Performance Coach. She has made presentations at the South by Southwest® (SXSW®) Conference & Festival.

Video is courtesy of the Copeland Coaching YouTube channel

What it is like working for a Malignant Narcissist Boss

I happened on this article which is well written. She did not initially see that her Boss was a Narcissist. When her eyes were opened, she realized that he was not just Narcissistic, but was a rather Malignant Narcissist.

She started to do research on Narcissism. Thankfully she had the support of family and friends, who kept suggesting that she quit her job. Finally she quit. She did not say anything to the Narcissist Boss. She quit and went Go No Contact.

I found this to be a very good real life example of what it can be like, when one finds themselves working for a Malignant Narcissist Boss.

Click on this line to visit the catherinedeveny.com website to read her article titled: “

See You Next Tuesday! Quitting the toxic boss – Jennifer Lim

Narcissistic Injury and the attacks which follow

The DSM 5 manual defines Narcissistic Injury as: “vulnerability in self-esteem which makes narcissistic people very sensitive to ‘injury’ from criticism or defeat. Although they may not show it outwardly, criticism may haunt these individuals and may leave them feeling humiliated, degraded, hollow and empty. They react with disdain, rage, or defiant counterattack.”.

Click on this link to visit the Psychology Today website to read their article titled: “The Destructive Force of Narcissistic Injury“.

Video is courtesy of the DD Morris YouTube channel

Narcissistic Injury was first used by Sigmund Freud back in the 1920’s. A Narcissistic Injury occurs when the Narcissist’s importance is brought into question.

Click on this link to visit the WikiPedia page to read their post titled: “Narcissistic Rage and Narcissistic Injury“.

A Narcissistic Injury can also occur when a person does not accommodate a Narcissist’s insatiable need for constant Admiration and Praise.

Click on this link to visit the PsychCentral website to read their article titled: “Narcissistic Injuries: What They Are and How to Protect Yourself from Them“.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Psychology of Demons

Dr. Todd Grande describes Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Dr. Todd Grande describes Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder as outlined in the DSM 5, is characterized by
– a grandiose sense of self-importance,
– a preoccupation with unlimited success, feeling too special to    be understood by regular people,
– needing excessive admiration,
– a sense of entitlement,
– being interpersonally exploitative,
– having a lack of empathy,
– being envious and others and believe others are envious of        them,
– and being arrogant.

 

Video is courtesy of the Dr. Todd Grande YouTube channel

 

Even the slightest criticism is not well received by most people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. IMHO I believe it is because they have internalized rather Low Self Esteem.

 

Video is courtesy of the Dr. Todd Grande YouTube channel

Man poured gasoline on his Girlfriend and set her on fire. In court he showed an astounding Lack of Empathy

The judge stated the obvious that the man showed an astounding Lack of Empathy.

In the discussion with the Judge, the man starts to Gaslight the Judge and states that he did not mean to do that. Then he blames the his girlfriend. He stated that his girlfriend pushed him to do what his did.  The Judge responded with “So, You are the victim?”.

Click on the following link to view the Courtroom video: https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/community/miami-dade/article228084159.html

Click on this link to visit the Miami Herald website to read their News Article titled “‘You lit her on fire!’ Miami judge scolds man who torched girlfriend to death“.

Interview with a Wife Beater

Video is courtesy of the 60 Minutes Australia YouTube Channel

Listen to the video and how the wife beater make excuses. He plays the cat and mouse game. He admits that he did wrong, then does not and makes excuses.

The video shot by his son shows that he threw his wife to the ground. Yet he states that he just wanted to give her a hug. He would not admit throwing her to the ground. Shoots back with a question: “Did I throw her to the ground?”.

He tries to shift the blame to the victim by saying that he does not know what his wife has said. Yet the video clearly shows him throwing his wife to the ground.

He thinks that there is no difference between saying that he repeatedly punched his wife in the head and giving her “taps”. He says that gave his wife “a couple of taps in the bathroom“. Changes the situation to be the fault of the wife.

He was asked if he believes that he was a “Monster”. He comes back saying that no he is not. A Malignant Narcissist will not admit that they did anything wrong. He says that he just “tapped” his wife, yet there is photo in the video of his wife with two black eyes. One must assume that to him it was OK to just “tap” his wife and that it was his wife’s fault that she ended up with two black eyes.

IMHO you cannot heal or change a Malignant Narcissist. IMHO, the best protection is to Go No Contact and work with the local Police and the Legal Courts.

People with a history of Domestic Violence convictions will be barred from entry to Australia

This is a start. If someone had been charged with Domestic Violence in the past, then they will be barred from coming to Australia.

Click on this link to visit the France 24 website to view their article titled “Australia to bar visitors with domestic violence convictions“.

 

Reduced Laughter Contagion in Children Could be the mechanism by which Narcissism, Antisocial Behavior and Psychopathy are developed

This new Medical Study sheds some light on one area of development of a child which could impact that’s child’s future.

If the young child is raised in an environment where there are no times of laughter among the people raising that child, then  the child could be negatively impacted. One example could be a Husband and Wife constantly bickering and fighting and never having time to laugh together. The Child could grow up in a sad home where the family never shared laughter together.

So something as simple of having laughter in a child’s life, could  impact their development into Human Beings who care and have empathy for fellow Human Beings.

I also suspect that this could be used in Junior Kindergarten. Bring in really funny movies for the kids to watch. The children could laugh together, which just might help develop empathy in those children who have never experienced laughter at home.

Click on this link to visit the Elsevier Inc website to read their Open Access Published Research Study by

Please note this Research Study was published Open Access, so there is No Pay Wall to cross to be able to read it. I personally am grateful for Open Access publishing of Research Studies.

Too often one has to pay to be able cross a Pay Wall to be able to read a Research Study and most Research is funded by Government Agencies which are funded by us the Taxed Payers. In my opinion it seems unfair to the Tax Payers to pay once to finance the Research Study and then have to pay a second time to be able to read the Research Study which Tax Payers helped fund.

One last note. William James (1842-1910) who was the first to offer a Psychology Course in the United States, created a great quote: “We don’t laugh because we’re happy, we’re happy because we laugh.

This could be another RED FLAG to watch for. Does the suspected Narcissist or Disordered Individual genuinely laugh along with others at a gathering? In a longer term relationship, do you both laugh together often or Not At All?

The Heart Breaking story of Lorena Bobbitt

Charisma. What makes a person magnetic and why we should be wary.

 

This post is about Red Flags to watch out for.

Click on this link to visit the Natilus website to read the post by Adam Piore titled: “The Anatomy of Charisma. What makes a person magnetic and why we should be wary.”

Click on this link to visit the Natilus website to read another post b y Adam Piore titled: “Why Joel Osteen, “The Smiling Preacher,” Is So Darn Appealing“.