Flying Monkeys or Agents of the Narcissist are not often discussed. These Agents support the Narcissist and can follow orders given by the Narcissist. Flying Monkeys or Agents of a Narcissist can be very well versed in GasLighting in support of the Narcissists’s wants. They can be dangerous as they can try to be your friend but their agenda is run by the Narcissist.
Video is courtesy of the Dr. Todd Grande YouTube channel
This video brings forward an interesting point, that Narcissists have a need to be in the physical presence of their Targets. Pretending to be “oh so special” over the phone or via email does not cut it. Narcissists need to be in the physical presence of those whom they target.
That is also a defining difference between say a rather Malignant Narcissist and a Psychopath. Both share many traits, yet a Psychopath does not need to spend time with their target.
A Narcissist gets Narcissistic Supply by being in the physical presence of their Target. That is a Red Flag to watch for. Narcissists will also try to isolate their Target, so that the Target does not spend any time being physically away with family or friends. Trying to Isolate the Target/Victim is a Major Red Flag.
Even in a work environment, a malignant Narcissist who plays Lord over the office will consistently call pointless meetings just so that they could be in the physical presence of their target(s). Psychopaths do not have this form of insecurity.
Video courtesy of the Permission To Exist YouTube Channel
Watch for this Red Flag.
Narcissists get their Narcissistic Supply by being in the physical presence of their Target/Victim.
This is not a typical post about Narcissists and their behavior. There is a commonality, in that the actions traumatized the victims. The techniques used seem similar. The use of online dating sites to find Victims. Love bombing to get his target to go out on a Dinner Date. Callous disregard of any psychological damage or embarrassment his action would cause. No empathy for his victims. One of the Victims described the Dinner Discussion as being all about him.
Video is courtesy of the Inside Edition website.
I wonder if this could be a Red Flag to watch for: a Long Rectangular Face and a large amount of forehead about the eyebrows. Look at the photos of Paul Gonzales in the Daily Beast article.
Sharing the Truth of the Narcissist’s actions and you may think you are suddenly in episode of the Twilight Zone. Your reality will not be accepted by the Narcissist. This can occur within a personal relationship and also in a work environment with a Narcissistic Boss.
If you create a Narcissistic Injury, then lookout as the Narcissist will twist things to Keep the Focus OFF OF The FACTS which you spoke about. They will switch to talking about and accuse you of things totally unrelated to what the original discussion was about. How dare you question the Narcissist.
Video is courtesy of the Michele Lee Nieves Coaching YouTube channel
“Toxic Workplace & Narcissist Boss” is a video of an interview with Dr. Karlyn Borysenko, who is an Organizational Psychologist and Author and Performance Coach. She has made presentations at the South by Southwest® (SXSW®) Conference & Festival.
Video is courtesy of the Copeland Coaching YouTube channel
I happened on this article which is well written. She did not initially see that her Boss was a Narcissist. When her eyes were opened, she realized that he was not just Narcissistic, but was a rather Malignant Narcissist.
She started to do research on Narcissism. Thankfully she had the support of family and friends, who kept suggesting that she quit her job. Finally she quit. She did not say anything to the Narcissist Boss. She quit and went Go No Contact.
I found this to be a very good real life example of what it can be like, when one finds themselves working for a Malignant Narcissist Boss.
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Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter describes 7 mind games commonly played by a Narcissist, and outlines ways to stay clear of them.
Video is courtesy of the Surviving Narcissism YouTube Channel.
Wendy Behary discusses strategies to help one deal with Narcissists. Wendy has more than two decades experience treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists. She is one of the founders of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey.
Video is courtesy of the Dr. Kimberley Taylor YouTube channel
Dr. Taylor interviews Author and Therapist Wendy Behary. She wrote the book:
Book cover image courtesy of Amazon.com
Click on the following link to visit amazon.com to view the book “Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed”.
One important point which Wendy Behary makes (around the 35:45 minute mark) is to set limits and boundaries and she has suggestions on how to do that. One way is to limit your exposure to the Narcissist, by having limited to no contact with the Disordered Individual.
In a work environment, if you do limit the Narcissist’s access to you then watch for the Narcissist moving into Back Stabbing and Smear Campaign mode. When you stop providing Narcissistic Supply, a Narcissist could work to get you fired and or destroy your reputation.
Click on this Link to visit the http://psychotherapyjournal.org site with a post featuring another interview with Wendy Behary. Along with a video they have posted a written PDF transcript which you can download and read by clicking on their PDF link at the top of their screen Transcript. It gives one some insight how a 3rd party such as a Therapist might view a Narcissist’s behaviour. IMHO well worth downloading and reading their PDF Transcript.
Ran across this post on the Experience Project site.
See if you can pick up on some of the Narcissist’s Red Flags in that post. Things like Love Bombing, Blame Shifting and not taking responsibility for their actions (it’s always your fault).
Quote: “3 things a Narcissist is sure to break: Promises, Trust and Your Heart.“
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