Quote “When a New Born Baby loses Life’s Birth Lottery, ending up with an abusive Parent or Parents, they also lose their Future Potential. What their life “Could Have Been”, will “Never Ever Be”.“.
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“A very subtle way to create damage in children is to turn the chosen scapegoat child into a parent.
This process is called Parentification, not to be confused with parenting. In Parentification the parent gives up what they are supposed to do as a parent and transfers that responsibility to the scapegoat child. Hence the scapegoat child becomes parentified.”
Video is courtesy of the Light of Knowledge YouTube channel
Mind boggling emotional abuse of their daughter, by a Narcissistic Mother.
No wonder there is a connection between Narcissistic Parenting and their kids choosing Suicide.
Video is courtesy of the Narc Awareness YouTube channel
Astoundingly “open” presentation of how Narcissistic Parenting destroys the Child’s sense of self worth and causes long term emotional damage. The Narcissist’s Gift which keeps on giving.
I’m glad that this Lady had the strength to share her story. Emotionally painful to hear what this Daughter of a Narcissist Mother went through, yet full of insights.
Video is courtesy of the Escape from Narcissism YouTube channel
Quote “What was always incomprehensible to me was your total lack of feeling for the suffering and shame you could inflict on me with your words and judgments.” by Franz Kafka from his 1919 Letter to his Father.
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Complex Trauma: Understanding and Treatment
Video is courtesy of the FOCL Online YouTube channel
Quoting from the text which was posted with this video:
“Historically, when someone has experienced trauma that has a lasting impact, they have been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). In recent years those who work with trauma victims have advocated for an additional category: Complex Trauma. Therapeutic work with those who have experienced either multiple traumas or Repetitive and Chronic Trauma”
In the video the presenter speaks about the abuse of Children and suffering multiple traumas. That the same Multiple Trauma Stress, can also “injure” an adult. For example, the victim of Narcissist Abuse becomes “marinated” in the Repetitive and Chronic Trauma.
Between the Traumatic Events will be “reward” type of events. The victim is cycled between reward and Trauma/Punishment events. That sets the Victim up for Trauma Bonding to occur. The emotional injuries alter the victim.
When one leaves an abusive relationship, the injuries do not disappear. Nor does the Trauma Bond break. The victim’s day will be filled with thoughts of the Abusive Narcissist.
The Victim will wonder if maybe the Narcissist was right and it was their own fault. The Narcissist would never admit to being at fault, always shifting the blame back to the Victim. There is an old saying that “If you tell people a “Lie” often enough, it becomes the “truth”.
Flashbacks are common.The inability to shut off the Flight or Fight response when a situation is not harmful. In my opinion, Complex Trauma can develop in both children and adults who have experienced Multiple Trauma or Repetitive and Chronic Trauma. I believe that Trauma Bonding can also be found in adult victims of abuse who have developed Complex Trauma.
A Narcissist in a Schema Therapy session reenactment, reveals how his parents created him. A key incident is discussed, which explains why the Narcissist shut himself off from his emotions (detached self) when he was a child and now as an adult can’t relate to his wife’s feelings for example. He does not experience feelings. This reminds me of John Bradshaw’s videos about Healing the Inner Child.
One thought that I had after viewing this, is that the Narcissist’s Parents were clearly Narcissistic in their action of calling a babysitter to take their son to the Hospital, because they were in the middle of holding a party / celebration (ironically the party was supposed to be in honor of their young son). The implication is that Narcissists create Narcissists by way of their Narcissistic Nurturing and Narcissistic Parenting methods which create Trauma in the young child resulting in a “wounded inner child” locked inside of the adult.
Quote from the text accompanying this video:
“The detached Sam (a combination of detached self-soother and self-aggrandizing) is identified as unable to comprehend or interact effectively with social relationships. The detached self is recognized as Sam’s perceived natural state, but that it was not always salient. Now the therapist has an inroad to the lonely child that is underneath the detached self-soother.
We recognize that in this video we did not take the client into a first-person imagery exercise intended to assist in vivid re-experiencing and restructuring of maladaptive schema formations. Doing it this way is a more powerful and effective manner. Due to the trauma often related to early maladaptive schema formation, the vivid re-experiencing exercises require other tools set in place such as prep-time, safe place imagery , and other safety mechanisms. The ‘milder’ interventions here could be used to ease clients into the practice, to reinforce vivid exercises used in the past, for less severe schemes, and validating hypotheses of Schema Modes.”
Schema Therapy – Narcissism Part 2 (Session 8)
Video is courtesy of the CloudSharePsy YouTube channel