This video brings forward an interesting point, that Narcissists have a need to be in the physical presence of their Targets. Pretending to be “oh so special” over the phone or via email does not cut it. Narcissists need to be in the physical presence of those whom they target.
That is also a defining difference between say a rather Malignant Narcissist and a Psychopath. Both share many traits, yet a Psychopath does not need to spend time with their target.
A Narcissist gets Narcissistic Supply by being in the physical presence of their Target. That is a Red Flag to watch for. Narcissists will also try to isolate their Target, so that the Target does not spend any time being physically away with family or friends. Trying to Isolate the Target/Victim is a Major Red Flag.
Even in a work environment, a malignant Narcissist who plays Lord over the office will consistently call pointless meetings just so that they could be in the physical presence of their target(s). Psychopaths do not have this form of insecurity.
Video courtesy of the Permission To Exist YouTube Channel
Watch for this Red Flag.
Narcissists get their Narcissistic Supply by being in the physical presence of their Target/Victim.
The Discovermag website has an interesting article titled:
Into the Mind of a Psychopath
The article discusses the life long challenge which Dr. Robert Hare had set out for himself. That being trying to understand Psychopaths.
Psychopaths and Narcissists share a number of key traits. Both lack empathy for others. Both can be extraordinarily charming The charm is used to get the victim to lower their natural fight or flight defenses. The charm reels the victim in for Narcissistic Supply or Sadistic Pleasure. Both have no remorse for what they do to their victims.
The article is a good read about one of the pioneers into the research on Psychopaths. Robert Hare was the first to use MRI Imaging to show brain scans of Psychopaths.
Recently a visitor to this site left a comment, regarding the fact that we have not come very far. It was in reference to a recent post about an article on the Medical News Today website (from the early 2000s).
In 1961 (back in the DSM-1 days) an America family set off on a vacation of a lifetime. They chartered a yacht, named Bluebelle, in Fort Lauderdale to cruise the ocean around the Bahama Islands.
Little did they know that the boat owner had recently setup an insurance policy for his wife. He brought his wife along on this charter. It was supposed to be perfect. He would use the family chartering his boat as his witnesses that he and his wife were all lovey dovey. He planed to murder his wife and dump the body overboard, claiming an ocean swell must have sent her overboard.
Remember this Quote: “Just because someone says the words I Love You, does not guarantee that they are not secretly planning to make you disappear”.
The boat owner’s plan fell apart when he was caught murdering his wife, by the Father who purchased the Charter. So the Father was killed as was his Wife and other daughter.
The 11 year old girl was asleep in her bunk when this happened. She awoke due to the terrifying screams of her brother. Yes a vacation of a lifetime…
Unfortunately we have “not” come very far. In my opinion society has moved backwards. Online dating sites make it easy for Psychopaths to find victims. See a prior post about 3 women who disappeared after meeting the same male on an online dating site.
One take away from this post is that yes not much has changed. Be very careful who you fall in Love with.
A more significant take away is that the 11 year old “Survived”. She was severely traumatized. With the help of Licensed Professionals, she was able to overcome what had happened. Many visitors to this site have suffered all sorts of different Trauma. With time and help you can overcome what had happened to you. That 11 year girl did and so can you.
Video is courtesy of the Daily Star YouTube channel
An adult can escape from an abusive relationship. A three year child cannot.
While her mother slept in a hotel room, her Step Father took the little three year down to the hotel swimming pool. He then proceeded to in effect torture the three year old, by repeatedly throwing her into the pool. She could “not swim”. In another scene he has entered the pool and is shown, in security camera video, to be holding the child underwater while calmly watching the child struggle.
Someone does not do something this cruel out of the blue. It is my opinion that this guy has had practice. Possibly starting with torturing and killing small animals in his youth.
No feeling for the suffering of the child. It’s possible that he may have enjoyed watching her struggle for her life. Other hotel guests left the pool when this started.
In my opinion the video shows the stark reality of a Psychopath. It’s not often that such actions are captured on video.
This happened about 1 year ago. He just got convicted.
There are more videos on YouTube. There is also another video of a Father trying to drown his two year old daughter. This in my opinion may be related to Narcissists being Misogynists. Both of these guys are very disordered (to put it kindly). Misogyny may also extend to Psychopaths, not just to Narcissists and they take their hatred of women out on their daughters and stepdaughters. Click on this link to view a prior post written by Dr. Sam Vaknin about Narcissists being “Misogynists and women haters”.
Had this child survived her ordeal, she would have been severely traumatized. This would have damaged an innocent child for her entire life. Had she not drowned, I believe that the abuse would have continued and escalated.
Folks please be very careful with whom you get into a relationship with, especially if you have a child.
Logical Inconsistency is an important Red Flag of Psychopaths.
Video is courtesy of the BA Recovery YouTube channel
This lady is an uncommon resource. Lots of people try and inform others about Cluster-B Disordered Individuals. So does she, but she has the “Training” and “2 University Degrees” to back up her words.
Click on this Link to visit her Blog Called Brave Recovery. Her Blog I believe will become an awesome resource much like her YouTube channel already is.
UPDATE – OCT 31 2016
– just learned that she moved the blog from Tumblr to WIX. I have changed the link above to link her new WIX blog.
Associated Press posted about this on Jun 25.
The latest woman to disappear introduced the male to her daughter, who immediately disliked him. The Daughter begged her Mom not to leave with the guy. (suggestion – don’t beg – call the Police) Mom did not listen and has since “disappeared”. Two other women had previously apparently “disappeared”, after becoming involved with this guy
Interesting that the woman sold her home and closed her bank accounts. That means she was carrying a heck of a lot of cash. Why would your new lover want you to do this?
When the police finally figured out who the last woman had met, they found him living with another woman.
Key points that in my opinion are interesting.
Woman sells her home and closes all her bank accounts. I assume that she bought the RV and set to travel with this guy she met online. When you leave your friends and family you lose your support structure. With no support you are at the total mercy of the person who talked you into leaving everyone. This is a Red Flag – and a Major One.
Seems that the woman was financing the whole thing. The guy contributed the idea to get her to leave her family and friends. Do not allow yourself to become isolated.
This is a major financial risk and venture. Talk to the Police and hire a Private Investigator to check out your new Love Interest. When the Police caught this guy, he had multiple fake IDs on him. Finger Prints proved that he was the guy that the Mother had left with.
It does not state that her daughter knew about the closing out the bank account. If it were my Mother in such a crazy situation, I would have called the Police and had hired a Private Detective to check this guy out. I would have embarrassed the hell out of the guy and gotten him and my Mother to visit the Police Station together with me. The Police can do some quick checks right away, but a complete check would take time. Mind you guy was finally caught by the Police with multiple Fake ID.
Here’s an idea, force the guy to get finger printed. Too bad if he gets pissed off. Better he gets pissed off, than having my Mother disappear after leaving with some guy she recently met on an internet dating site. It takes lots of time to get to know who you are with. Sometimes after decades people suddenly discover who they thought they were living with was just a fake persona. Disordered people have to move quickly to isolate their target, before their mask slips too much and more people realize how screwed up they are.
Also make sure to get lots of photographs of the guy and your Mother (using this case as an example). Get him to remove any hats or other head gear (motorcycle helmet for ex). Put the photos and finger prints into a Bank Safety Deposit Box so they can’t mysteriously disappear like the Mother had.
There is no valid reason to close one’s bank account, especially after having sold her house. Hint – another Red Flag. You want access to money, get an American Express Gold card and other companies offer similar things. That leaves signatures and witnesses. Leave very large amounts of money in a Bank or even in a bank Safety Deposit Box. It amazes me that the Mother got suckered into doing that. Bet ya the guy in this scenario contributed “not one dime”.
Another Red Flag is that when family members and friends show a distinct dislike for your new lover. That was mentioned in prior post about a TedX Talks video given by Alexandra Redcay. titled “Tips on selecting the Right Relationship by Alexandra Redcay“.
I’ve posted this line a few times “Just because someone smiles at you, does not mean that they are your friend“.
Here is a new variation “Just because someone tells you that they Love you, does not guarantee that they are not secretly planning to make you DISAPPEAR.“. Wake Up people…
There was a paper recently published in the Peer Reviewed Scientific Journal called Futures, in the April–May 2016 issue (on pages 34–46). The paper was titled “Hunting humans: A future for tourism in 2200“. The author of that paper was Daniel William Mackenzie Wright, who is a Senior Lecturer at the University of Central Lancashire.
Hunting Humans is something which I believe Narcissists already do. Not to kill, but to secure sources of Narcissistic Supply. For example, Empaths and Codependents are sought out (ie hunted for) and targeted. You do not have to wait for the year 2200 to have Humans hunting other Humans.
Death as a sport is also not something new. The Romans did something similar eons ago, with their Gladiator battles. My two cents worth regarding this: is that something very large is hard to turn around. You can’t turn an ocean liner on a dime. Same goes for humanity. I am of the opinion that there has been an explosion in the number of Disordered individuals, be they Narcissists or Sociopaths or Psychopaths.
There is a saying in Investing Circles that “A Trend is your Friend“. Get on board when a stock is rising and the odds are that it could climb higher. Lets assume that I am correct and that there is a growing trend to having society filled with Disordered Individuals. Trends keep going. The Scientific Paper about Hunting Humans as a Tourist Attraction “could” become a sick reality by the year 2200. Psychopaths would have a field day.
The paper presented the following question: “In what circumstance is it acceptable for one human being, for entertainment or leisure, (to) watch or even pay to see the death of another human being?“. It would be interesting to have said question presented to Psychopaths and to hear their answers. They just might answer back with a question “When is it “not” acceptable?” along with the look of dismay on their face, because to them it is always acceptable (and pleasurable). Not acceptable behaviour is a concept generally foreign to Psychopaths, who set their own standards of behaviour. If it suits them, they do it.
The following line was from the Abstract of the article: “Death as entertainment by form of detachment (emotionally and physically) will further influence the future fun aspect of hunting humans.“. The author used the words “fun aspect of hunting humans“. Makes me wonder how much “fun” the author would have, should he be the one being hunted. This article was not something out of say the National Enquirer. The article was in a Peer Reviewed “Scientific Journal”.
Those who physically abuse others, are emotionally detached from the person that they are abusing. Brain Scans of Psychopaths seem to indicate that the Pleasure Centers of a Psychopath’s Brain are turned on when they view images and videos of people being physically hurt and or killed. Psychopaths are wired to gain pleasure from hurting, torturing and killing a human being or animal. Psychopaths may lack a Conscience. Hunting Humans for sport, while on a vacation, is something that could draw lots of Psychopaths.
Being an Empath can open the door to Living Hell, for the Empath and those close to them.
The video is about the Tragic Life of an Empath, who was targeted by a Narcissist, Sociopath and Psychopaths.
Her Narcissistic Ex Husband, shot the Empath multiple times at close range. The Narcissist Ex shot himself in the head and died.
The Empath survived the shooting and took almost a decade to recover. A blood transfusion given during her ordeal was tainted with Hepatitis C. This Empath could not catch a break.
Then a Sociopath and Psychopaths targeted her and her new husband. The Empath and her new Husband end up being buried alive together, by the Psychopaths.
Video courtesy of the Couples Who Kill YouTube channel
The story hit the AP Newswire. Because it’s copyrighted I can’t post it. There is already a YouTube video which has someone reading the AP report.
The Mail Online site did some further research and included photos of the female and her “ex”, which were not part of the AP News Feed.
Note the quote “didn’t accept being abandoned” (my quoting a few words out of hundreds for education purposes falls under “Fair Use” and I am quoting from the AP post). Interesting choice of words. It must be the victims fault. If she had not abandoned the guy, he would not have burned her alive. Somehow to them, it is always the fault of the victim.
In essence, the Ex followed the victim. Ran her car off the road. Got access to her car interior, while the victim was still in it. Poured alcohol into her car and lit it with a lighter. The victim left her now burning car. The Ex caught up to her. Threw alcohol at her head and lit it. She died from her burns. All that because the Ex “didn’t accept being abandoned”. He sure won her back, did he not.
Such a thing happening once, is one time too many. Yet this kind of thing sadly happens.
I know a female who takes a Taxi home after work, because she is scared of her ex following her if she walks home. That female was a major inspiration for me to setup this site. Her situation is a lot worse than the one in the news article. She’s been hospitalized for months at a time, thanks to her ex. Just imagine looking over your shoulder the rest of your life. Her ex is not just some regular ordinary office worker. She has a black belt in an Asian Martial Art. Her ex has had training way beyond that
People who have suffered Attachment and Abandonment Trauma when they were infants, can become very disordered adults. To suffer an Abandonment Trauma Event as a adult could send the person in two directions. One is to become suicidal over being abandoned. It is real, I’ve seen two somatic female Narcs go that route – both survived.
The other direction is to destroy the person who abandoned them (as in the news article). It comes down to the destruction of self or the other person. Someone has to pay, it’s either me or them. Disordered people have limited choices, especially those at the extreme end of disorders of Narcissism, and Sociopathy. Psychopaths, it is my understanding, would not suffer an Abandonment Trauma Event like say a Malignant Narcissist would. A Psychopath will kill you, because they want to kill you (no excuse needed to motivate them).
Learn the Red Flags to watch out for. If you don’t become involved with a Disordered individual, then you cannot abandon them. You become a non-issue to them, as they have a number of targets lined up to become potential sources of Narcissistic supply for example.
Click on this line to read the NY Post article about this event. The Mail Online article has more detail and photos – see the link further up in this post.
The above material is for Education Purposes. It includes a rather tiny portion of the article which was posted by The Ohio State University and as such is covered by the Fair Use provision of copyright. BTW they also have share links posted for this article. A complete Link is also provided above, to the Source article.
Video is courtesy of the DNews YouTube channel
Thanks to the input of one of our Readers, I have removed the comments about Psychopaths being more commonly found in Jails than in the Workplace. Narcissists and Psychopaths are just different ends of the same stick (disorder). Psychopaths are found everywhere, including the Workplace.
The following are some helpful resources about Psychopaths and Psychopaths in Workplaces.
The Hare Psychopathy Checklist-Revised is sometimes used as a standard instrument for researchers and clinicians, especially in forensic settings such as prisons or high secure psychiatric units.
The following is the description of the “The Pocket Psycho” as posted on Amazon’s page:
Clinical psychopaths exist in a variety of workplaces. They are individuals who manipulate their way through life and leave an indelible mark on both their victims and society. They are destructive men and women: cunning, self-centered, ruthless, and terrifying. Featuring a range of case studies as well as frequently asked questions, this is a guide to learning how to identify workplace psychopaths. Advice is also offered on working with and managing a psychopath in order to make the workplace a safe and tolerable environment.
Click on this line to visit Amazon.com to buy the award winning book titled “Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists” written by Sandra L. Brown.
Thanks go out again to one of our Readers for their important input regarding Psychopaths. Very much appreciated.
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Lifting the veil on Psychopaths and Psychopathy. “It’s just business”, no need for feelings. This video really nails it…
How to Thrive in a World of Lying, Backstabbing and Dirty Tricks.
Dealing with workplace Psychopaths, Machiavellians, and Narcissists.
This video is a radio interview with Oliver James who is a psychologist, bestselling author and broadcaster. He details the workplace colleagues who have no compunction about trampling over others, or like nothing more than to plot and scheme, or who drone on endlessly about themselves.
What is the difference between a Psychopath and a Sociopath?
In my opinion they can almost be interchangeable. A Psychopath will get pleasure out of physically hurting someone or even killing them. To a Psychopath there would be nothing wrong with doing such things. A Sociopath knows that there is a right and a wrong, although not quite the same as what a non-Sociopath would perceive.
Sociopaths are one of few types of Human who can control, take advantage of, abuse a Narcissist and have that Narcissist begging for more. A Sociopath has no need for Narcissistic Supply and can play the Narcissist by becoming their Highly Valued Source of Narcissistic Supply. They can squeeze every last cent out a Narcissist, as long as they are deemed to be a highly valued Source of Narcissistic Supply.
The video below is short, fast paced and covers important material well. It even touches on the differences in actual Brain Functioning via Brain Scans of individuals with such disorders. It points to there being a hard wired component implying that Therapy likely won’t make a difference.