In a healthy relationship, partners naturally try to be there for each other. In the mind of a Disordered Individual, you are there to serve their own needs and your needs do not matter.
Video is courtesy of the Be The Light YouTube channel
In a healthy relationship there can be Open Dialague between the two partners. In a relationship with a Disordered Individual their monologue is what is important. They do NOT care to listen to what you have to say.
I came across a great article which discusses what I would call 8 Red Flags to watch out for.
Sharing the Truth of the Narcissist’s actions and you may think you are suddenly in episode of the Twilight Zone. Your reality will not be accepted by the Narcissist. This can occur within a personal relationship and also in a work environment with a Narcissistic Boss.
If you create a Narcissistic Injury, then lookout as the Narcissist will twist things to Keep the Focus OFF OF The FACTS which you spoke about. They will switch to talking about and accuse you of things totally unrelated to what the original discussion was about. How dare you question the Narcissist.
Video is courtesy of the Michele Lee Nieves Coaching YouTube channel
Stephanie Lyn explains the Narcissist and Codependent dance. That abusive Narcissist was attracted to you, because you are always willing to give of yourself to help others.
Sadly, Narcissistic Predators are constantly on the lookout for people who willingly give of themselves.
Video is courtesy of the Stephanie Lyn Coaching YouTube Channel
At one time, I had gotten a job because I had brought the Narcissist (who did the hiring interview) detailed info about a new Ransomware spreading across the Internet. Much much later after getting hired, I was informed by the Narcissist that they felt it be very important when people bring them things. In other words that Narcissist saw that I was willing to give and Narcissists are always looking for individuals that they can feed off.
That Narcissist was classic, I would watch him mirror people – at times changing his physical position dramatically to match the person they were trying to Mirror. It was fascinating and over time became very predictable behavior. My eyes were opened when I had stumbled across an article about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.
Click on this link to view the articles on Uniquely Narcissistic which are about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.