In a healthy relationship, partners naturally try to be there for each other. In the mind of a Disordered Individual, you are there to serve their own needs and your needs do not matter.
In a healthy relationship there can be Open Dialogue between the two partners. In a relationship with a Disordered Individual their monologue is what is important. They do NOT care to listen to what you have to say.
I came across a great article which discusses what I would call 8 Red Flags to watch out for.
Stephanie Lyn explains the Narcissist and Codependent dance. That abusive Narcissist was attracted to you, because you are always willing to give of yourself to help others.
Sadly, Narcissistic Predators are constantly on the lookout for people who willingly give of themselves.
Video is courtesy of the Stephanie Lyn Coaching YouTube Channel
At one time, I had gotten a job because I had brought the Narcissist (who did the hiring interview) detailed info about a new Ransomware spreading across the Internet. Much much later after getting hired, I was informed by the Narcissist that they felt it be very important when people bring them things. In other words that Narcissist saw that I was willing to give and Narcissists are always looking for individuals that they can feed off.
That Narcissist was classic, I would watch him mirror people – at times changing his physical position dramatically to match the person they were trying to Mirror. It was fascinating and over time became very predictable behavior. My eyes were opened when I had stumbled across an article about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.
Click on this link to view the articles on Uniquely Narcissistic which are about the Red Flags displayed by Narcissists.
Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter describes 7 mind games commonly played by a Narcissist, and outlines ways to stay clear of them.
Video is courtesy of the Surviving Narcissism YouTube Channel.
Susan Carnicero had spent over 20 years performing interviews, interrogations and polygraph examinations, as a Security Specialist with the CIA.
She had also developed behavioral screening programs, that are used by the U.S. Federal Government.
Uniquely Narcissistic focuses on the Red Flags of Disordered Individuals. One of the Red Flags and Traits of Narcissists (and also of Sociopaths and Psychopaths) is that they are Proficient Liars, because they get lots of practice.
Susan Carnicero’s discusses what to watch for, when someone is trying to Lie to you.
Video is courtesy of the Digiday YouTube channel
Susan Carnicero is also the author of the book titled: “Get the Truth: Former CIA Officers Teach You How to Persuade Anyone to Tell All“.