Tagged: Watch for Narcissist’s Red Flags

8 Red Flags to Watch for

In a healthy relationship, partners naturally try to be there for each other. In the mind of a Disordered Individual, you are there to serve their own needs and your needs do not matter.

In a healthy relationship there can be Open Dialogue between the two partners. In a relationship with a Disordered Individual their monologue is what is important. They do NOT care to listen to what you have to say.

I came across a great article which discusses what I would call 8 Red Flags to watch out for.

Click on this link to visit the Lessons Learned in Life website to read their article titled: “Watch out: If a Man Does These 8 Things, He Doesn’t Truly Value You“.

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I received an email asking if Narcissists ever change.

Video is courtesy of the The Dr. Phil Show YouTube channel

Dr. Phil interviews Ex-Girlfriend Of Man Accused Of Killing, Dismembering Seattle Mom. See how many Red Flags you can pick up. This lady was lucky that she was not isolated during her 6 months or so with that guy.

She said that he was Charming, Witty and Very Smart. How do you spell Cerebral Narcissist? Yet she could tell that there was something about him that was “off”. There was something scary about his eyes. Potentially Malignant? When the mask slips, one gets to see something else, which was lurking behind that mask.

He met the the Seattle Mom (whom he allegedly killed and dismembered) online via an dating site.

Which brings me to an email which I had received from a visitor to this site.

I received an email asking if Narcissists ever change. The writer stated that they were dating people via an internet dating site. They had found Narcissists to be “much more fun” than the “normal” “regular” people.

Yes you can date Narcissists which you meet on an Internet Dating Site. Great way to risk your life, meeting total strangers and one’s whom you prefer to be afflicted with a  Cluster-B Disorder like NPD. Hey, you might get to meet your first Psychopath (who could also turn out to be your last).

You may have fun in the beginning.

Read the recent posts about the women who could not leave physically abusive relationships. They all had so much fun – in the very beginning during the Love Bombing Phase. Listen to how they describe the guy, who ended up physically abusing them consistently after they had been isolated from family and friends. Things changed drastically. They got Black Eyes on a consistent basis. The were kicked down flights of stairs. They had their heads punched repeatedly. Not fun things to go through. Especially if the Narcissist or Cluster-B Disordered Individual can isolate you and make you totally dependent on them. Note that those “boring” “Normal” and “Regular” people generally are not as prone to do such things.

Yes playing with Fire can be so much fun. But IMHO the odds are against you.
You may get burned, or simply Disappear.

Why this site was setup and who had inspired me to do so

Surprise, this site have been up for 6 months.

Who inspired me to start this site?

You see last year I learned a few things, which triggered the creation of this site.

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One evening, I was enjoying a few beers and the company of a lovely lady and kind soul. She shared some things from her past. I was taken aback. I had crossed paths with Narcissists, but never with a malignant Narc (that has since changed). Well my drinking buddy that evening had married a Malignant Narcissist. She moved to another part of the Globe. Then she learned what she had married.

In a rage her Malignant Narcissist ended up putting her in the hospital for months. She had no family in that country. She had no friends. Only the Flying Monkeys which were his family. Her experience gave me the idea for this site. If she had known about the Red Flags given off by Narcissists, she might not have gotten involved, let alone gotten married. and isolated in a foreign land.

The Sandra Brown video also gave me more inspiration. Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths are everywhere and mess up a lot of people. I believe that it is the fault of the educational systems. Having Narcissistic Personality Disorder is far more than just being “Stuck Up”, which is the common belief of what being a Narcissist is.

Because the Narcissist’s Play Book seems to be universal, I figured that if I could setup a site which showcased the Red Flags to look for, it might provide people with knowledge to make better decisions. On this site one can learn what those Red Flags are. Then watch for them.

When multiple Red Flags start showing up, it might be time to step back and reconsider one’s interaction with the individual who is displaying those multiple Red Flags. Multiple Red Flags could indicate that you are dealing with a Cluster-B Disordered Individual and it might be wise to slow down, to ask more questions. It would also be a good idea to introduce your new love interest to all your friends and family members, to get their important opinions. They can also potentially help Law Enforcement identify your new love interest, should you suddenly “Disappear” (I’m being very serious).

Disordered Individuals need to rush, when they are Psychologically Manipulating you. They can’t keep their mask on for too long. The sooner that they get into your head via the Love Bombing and Mirroring, the easier it will be isolate you. Once you are programmed and isolated, the Disordered Individual will relax. The Love Bombing False Persona could become a fond memory. Their Mask will start to come off. Your new Reality could be shocking and possibly painful. Especially if they can isolate you from your family and friends and make you totally dependant on them

I believe that this site has succeeded in providing information. I have noticed that a number of visitors are using the link found in the Main Menu at the top of the page, to help them find Licensed Therapists, who can help them heal from Narcissistic Abuse.

The number of visitors keeps growing each month. Thousands of individuals have visited and continue to visit this site. Even if only “one” single person learned about the Red Flags displayed by Disordered Individuals, then it was worth the time and effort. What that Malignant Narcissist had put my friend through, I would not wish on an enemy.

Her story has no ending.

She has to look over her shoulder when in public. She takes a Taxi home, even if it’s within walking distance, to reduce the chance of being followed.

Not a fun way to live.

When you start to see multiple Red Flags displayed by someone new, believe them. Those Red Flags are trying to show you who that person really is.

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Disordered Individuals are Proficient Liars.

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After they Isolate you, then they can start the Physical Abuse

Click on this Link to visit the Healthy Place website to read their post titled “Isolation and Domestic Abuse: How Abusers Isolate Victims“.

The most striking thing about Physical Abuse is that victims were first “Isolated”.They moved out of New York City to some small town. They moved to a remote cottage. They married and lived in another part of the country, away from the Victim’s family and Friends. The Victim was emotionally restrained from going away to visit with Friends and Family. The Victim’s Father was dying in the Hospital and yet the Abuser would not let the Victim leave to be with her Father.

Abusers cannot control a Victim from a distance. Abusers maintain their power and control over the Victim, by enforcing the Victim’s silence. If the Victim visits their family, they might speak of the horrors being done to the Victim. Once the abuse is out in the open, the Abuser starts to lose much of the power and control over their Victim.

The abuser will present tons of semi logical excuses for moving the Victim away from their Family and Friends. They will start a new life together…BS…more BS…some more BS….and even more BS.

When the Victim has no one else to help her, she becomes totally dependent on the Abuser. To make the situation worse, the Abuser may become the sole income earner. Rather hard to leave when you have no money.

Isolation is a Major Red Flag. If you do not allow yourself to become isolated, then you will not become dependent on your Lover and potential abuser. Note that the abuse does not start until the victim has been isolated.

Learn about the Red Flags displayed by Disordered Individuals. Then watch for them.

The more Red Flags that you spot, the more questions you should have of the individual displaying those Red Flags.

Narcissist Suzie gets a new victim. Episode 1 – Falling into the trap.

This video gives one an insight into the behaviour, thinking and traits of a Narcissist. I love the line in the video where she states “I think you are my Soul Mate“. That line, and variations of it, is a Narcissist favorite to use during the Love Bombing phase.

BTW, once you have been “primed” by a Narcissist, other Narcissists are able to pick you out of a crowd (see this prior post about a really informative lecture from Christine De Canonville).

Narcissist Suzie gets a new victim.

Video is courtesy of the begood4000 YouTube channel

“Lack of Object Constancy” is a Narcissistic Trait and Red Flag to watch for

This video discusses “Lack of Object Constancy” which is another Trait and Red Flag of a Narcissist to watch for.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit the Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome Facebook page.

The video below is posted by someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. She discusses a therapy session about Lack of Object Constancy. What she mentions, also applies to Narcissists. Note that she is actively seeking treatment via Therapy Sessions, which is something a Narcissist would rarely (if ever) do.

Video is courtesy of The Borderline Life YouTube channel

Click on this line to visit the Out of The Fog website to read their post titled : Lack of Object Constancy.

 

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Narcissistic people use denial as a brainwashing technique

Good article about the Narcissistic use of “Denial”, which is yet another Narcissist Trait and Red Flag to watch out for.

I recall one time being told “Why would I have said something like that?”, How does a “rational” person respond to someone denying something which they clearly said or did? They also do not blink their eyes when making their denial. Non-Narcissists will generally blink their eyes when they tell a lie.

Narcissistic people use denial as a brainwashing technique

by The Minds Journal Editorial · April 30, 2016

Study: “Posting more online photos of yourself may suggest anti-social traits”

OSU – Ohio – A new study showed that men who posted more online photos of themselves than others scored higher on measures of narcissism and psychopathy.

While this study didn’t include women, Fox said she is currently conducting follow-up work that suggests the same findings found in this research also apply to women. Women who post more selfies also show higher levels of narcissism and psychopathy.

Source (click on link to the right to view): The Ohio State University study titled : “Posting more online photos of yourself may suggest anti-social traits

Author of the OSU Study: Jesse Fox

Author of article: Jeff Grabmeier

The above material is for Education Purposes. It includes a rather tiny portion of the article which was posted by The Ohio State University and as such is covered by the Fair Use provision of copyright. BTW they also have share links posted for this article. A complete Link is also provided above, to the Source article.

Video is courtesy of the DNews YouTube channel

Red Flag of a Narcissist #4: Extremely Charming


This is video #4 in this series on red flags of a Narcissist. Like with all the other videos, not every Narcissist will have every red flag, nor will they have every red flag to a troubling degree. Pay attention to the red flags and get out sooner than later.

Click on this line to visit the www.NarcissistSupport.com website.

Narcissists do not get better, and they will always cause chaos and destruction in your life as long as they are in it.

Video is courtesy of the Narcissist Support YouTube channel

 

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Psychological Control Techniques used by Narcissists to Get What They Want

20 Identifiable Traits of a Female Narcissist

This is a reblog of a post on the Hooking Up Smart site. We thank them for allowing us to share this informative post:

In the discussion following a recent post about one woman’s iPhone infidelity, Mike asked: Just curious, you had the post on this is what good guys look like and red flags for bad guys, I’d be interested if you have a comparable list on how to identify the red flags for bad girls who are […]

Source: 20 Identifiable Traits of a Female Narcissist